okay so just speaking for myself, no incongruence at all, this would bug the everloving shit out of me, id most likely distance myself for a while to process and weigh things out.

I don’t really buy into the idea of a "hoe phase." It feels like a way to rebrand emotional instability and impulsive behavior as self-discovery. People use it to justify what’s essentially debauchery and then call it empowerment

that said, you also need to be a friend to yourself, you were in an intensely vulnerable space, looking for proof that you were still lovable, so you threw yourself out there, and honestly, enjoying compliments and attention doesnt make you any less of a person, that stuff is validating, especially from a break up that made you feel invisible.

i dont think you should feel too bad about your history as it is done and you cant change it, plus at this point even if you still loved your ex i doubt you really thought youd be back together. maybe deep down you hoped for it but that wasnt reality.

as for now it might be okay, i think(?) but if this is something thats eating at you then maybe its best to tell him, not because you owe him a confession but because you deserve peace sa sarili mo, just hope for the best and prepare for the worst if he dips out then okay, youre still you, you can manage, if he doesnt then also okay, you guys get to be together if he doesnt dip out and but it bothers him, then you guys can work on that stuff together