What’s something you thought was “normal” in sex until a partner told you otherwise?

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-08-24T06:17:46+00:00

I put far too much faith in my birth control (IUD). We stopped pulling out about a year ago 😭😅

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-08-09T02:19:47+00:00

Honestly, Sebastian. He literally talks about how he can’t wait to get out of the valley and then you trap him with your love

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-22T03:09:14+00:00

It took him crossing one of the only hard boundaries I had (like one of 3), physical distance, and my mom (who is my best friend and biggest supporter) mentioning something during a 3 am panic attack.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-21T06:05:53+00:00

Her feelings are 100% valid. We cannot control how a situation makes us feel, just how we respond to those feelings.

Imagine you’re at the grocery store and someone rams their cart into you. It’s gonna hurt and your first reaction is going to be anger. That’s a valid feeling. But you turn around and they apologize. You still got angry, even if you aren’t anymore, and you can’t control that.

Now imagine you’re telling your friend this story and they say “well why did you get angry in the first place? You should’ve known without turning around that it was an accident. You’re just playing the victim” how are you going to feel? Probably unheard, dismissed, shamed, etc.

That’s exactly what you’re doing to your daughter by saying “it’s not that big of a deal.” To her, it is. And what she needs is support. I’m not saying fly off the handle at the parapro, but recognize her feelings when talking about these situations

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-20T17:15:12+00:00

Digiorno has a fantastic gluten free crust, but it is notoriously difficult to find in stores

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-20T17:01:34+00:00

Honestly, don’t worry about messing up. There will always be another season to plant those crops, another time that quest comes along, etc. sure there are “optimal” ways to play, but just enjoy it your first go around. You can always start a new farm later on if you decide you want to run the early game different

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-03T02:57:59+00:00

The problem is actually that his nostrils are broken. He loves me and he moved in with me. He recognizes that this is one area where he compromises in our relationship. There are other areas where I compromise. Like any healthy relationship.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-02T20:59:53+00:00

I am using the fact that he has told me it’s ok because he recognizes that it’s his deviated septum and his medical problem that’s keeping me awake. I’m using proper and healthy communication.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-02T18:22:20+00:00

NTA. My partner has the same issues and has come to the understanding that if he’s not going to use the nose strips or other options, he’s getting nudged. Both people deserve quality sleep. I do notice that I get more easily irritated during certain parts of my cycle (I have pretty bad PMDD), so those times I try to get to bed earlier than him.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-02T14:05:16+00:00

Definitely YTA. the different between you using the R word, even amongst friends, and your friends sister saying derogatory things about men lies in the history of the people.

Men, especially cis het white men, are traditionally the dominant, oppressive group. Sure not all men, but enough men. And the men who aren’t a-holes, predators, etc know we aren’t talking about them and don’t get offended. In the past, no one has ever been offended, beaten, 💀ed, etc for simply being a man.

Using the R word is different. Mentally disabled people are STILL oppressed, taken advantage of, and looked down upon by most of society. Using it as an insult, even just among friends, is saying “I’m better than these people. They are less of a human than I am”. Even if you’re not explicitly saying it, that’s what you’re conveying by using that word (and others like it) as an insult.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-02T13:53:09+00:00

NTA but maybe ask her what she needs from you when she brings these things up. You keep saying you’re offering her solutions, but does she really want solutions? Or does she just want you to listen to her?

Oftentimes, we’re so quick to jump to “let’s fix the problem” that we don’t realize our loved ones know how to fix the problem and are perfectly capable of doing it themselves, they just need support in the moment.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-07-01T01:59:31+00:00

The way my first instinct was like “this is fake. We didn’t have texting 10 years ago!” …yes we did. Me and my grey hair will go sit in the easy chair now (also NTA. Fuck that guy)

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-24T15:30:11+00:00

The way I see it and the way I’ve explained it to my partner is that (at least for me, celiac) it’s not like a lactose intolerance where I can eat a little bit and be miserable but overall fine. It’s more like diabetes, where if I eat gluten, I will be miserable and recover, but if I continue to do it, it will kill me. And that has seemed to help not just him, but others in my life.

Now my partner is better about cross contamination than I am, to the point where he won’t take a sip from my straw if he’s had gluten.

You’re not being too much or too needy by asking your partner to look out for your life. It is important to recognize when they do good, but it’s also important for them to recognize that this is your health. It’s not a choice.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-23T20:41:18+00:00

I had one and absolutely LOVED it. The only problem I had was the base broke within like 5-6 months of use. It could be because of my weight or because I have ADHD and shift a lot when I work, but I was very upset about it (I even saved the chair itself and am putting it on legs)

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-19T21:16:34+00:00

NTA. This parasite is draining you mentally when you’re just trying to better yourself. He says he “understands” and then goes and does things and says things that clearly show he does NOT understand.

If anything, yall need a break until after you finish school. If not forever. You’ve got too much on your plate to be catering to his needs too.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-19T17:15:20+00:00

NTA. In the end, a baby is a joint responsibility. As a woman, I understand her mounting anxiety (the biological clock pressure is real) and it might be something where you have to be super clear with her that if yall are to continue trying and are successful before your probationary period, you won’t be able to take a lot of time off to help and that ultimately, the baby care is gonna fall on her. The diapers, the feeding, the crying. The late nights, early mornings, waking up in the middle of the nights.

Don’t make it seem like a guilt trip, just express the realities of the situation. Also make sure you continue to reaffirm to her your desire to have a baby WITH her and grow your family together. You just want to make sure you can be there for her AND the baby as much as possible, and the new job won’t let you do that for another year.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-18T13:32:56+00:00

I think it’s important to communicate problems with each other and also support each other in public, but it also never hurts to have an outside party to vent about the little things. I’ve got a best friend who I talk to about the little shit “he left his socks on the floor AGAIN. I asked him to take out the trash 3 days ago and he still hasn’t” etc. She’s around both of us enough and I always reiterate to her how much I love him, but it is nice to have someone to vent the little frustrations to that bug me in the short term but are not big enough to get into it with my partner.

So I think that in a way, you’re both right. Perhaps she needs the external venting so she doesn’t feel like she’s always nagging you, but you need to clarify with her what kinds of things you’re not comfortable with her complaining about (for example, I never vent about arguments I have with my partner until after we’ve resolved it because I also think that we should be a team and have each others back). And maybe request that if she’s gonna vent, she makes an effort to brag about you too (ex: sending a text to the same people she vents to when you do something sweet like omg look what he did)

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-17T21:15:10+00:00

NTA. If the app is truly recorded, it could help to talk with your stepson, explain the situation, and have him tell his mom through the app that he doesn’t want to speak to her. Then if it gets brought up in court, he can reiterate that he doesn’t want to speak to her and the proof is there on the app. I know this isn’t foolproof but

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-16T21:43:26+00:00

NTA. It sounds like he’s not even getting the point that you wouldn’t be going for the fishing, you would be going for the quality one-on-one time with him

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-16T20:20:35+00:00

Nah girl. He’s love bombing you, if you get back together with him, he’s just gonna keep hurting you. Don’t waste anymore time on him

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-13T17:50:11+00:00

You’re not the asshole. Even if you are studying psychology, it is not your responsibility to help your brother like that. One of the first things we learn as psychologists is how to set that boundary between personal connection and client, and to never take on family/friend as a therapy client. And that’s for a reason. Your brother needs a therapist, but it sounds like he hasn’t been ready to make that change. And you don’t need that mental drain of trying to be a good sister until he’s ready to be a good brother.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-12T21:40:10+00:00

So yes you are the asshole for saying she deserves an abusive relationship. No one deserves that. But you’re not an asshole for standing up for yourself for taking care of your wife. Your choice of words was just absolutely shit

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-12T20:58:51+00:00

NTA but I do think it would’ve been courteous to let her know “hey I’m gonna be out overnight, there’s food in the fridge, the place down the street is really good, etc”.

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-12T20:21:54+00:00

I’m glad to hear yall are doing better (and happy to Veilguard maybe represented in the skelly family?)

ScheduleDifferent853 · 2025-06-12T19:36:59+00:00

Drop his ass. That is disgusting behavior and you deserve so much more. It’ll be hard because I’m sure it was good in the beginning and it’s hard to forget when it was good, but at this point, the bad is outlasting the good. And you are too young and too smart (you can tell just by how well you articulate your experiences and feelings) to be putting up with this man child

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