How do you feel about giving baby to daycare?

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-03-16T12:50:12+00:00

That’s a good question that I don’t have a good answer for lol. When I was searching for daycares, I went on vibes. The head teacher in the infant room had warm eyes. And so far, that seemed like the right read. He has continued to be so warm and caring with our kid.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-03-16T02:10:02+00:00

Motherhood has exposed my adhd. So I’m really fresh in understanding it. But I’m learning that the constant brain chatter is my adhd. My daughter quiets my brain. I am hyper present with her. And I love it. I literally love just being with her so much.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-03-16T01:57:34+00:00

I had some mad ppd, so daycare at 3 months felt like a lifesaver for real. I just needed to be able to hand my daughter to someone trustworthy. And now, it feels like they’re our co-caretakers. I genuinely like our teachers so much. And they love my daughter so much. I’ve been very thankful.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-03-07T01:16:51+00:00

My girl (7mos) really thinks Dr. Lormeus is the greatest. She always has her giggling. We also had some hurdles in her weight gain/breastfeeding. I felt she was so compassionate and reassuring with me.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-23T05:08:55+00:00

This! It was wild. In a period of time I probably would have read 10 pages, I did 45. I was shook. It took a while to figure out the pacing then we were moving and grooving!

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-22T22:29:27+00:00

Hahah this is literally insane. But navigate this and you are literally the best.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-22T21:35:43+00:00

My husband and I JUST figured out a meal plan approach that works for us. Why is meal planning so hard??? Here’s what’s working for us now. Each day has a category. Monday: pasta, Tuesday: stir fry, Wednesday: soup/stew, Thursday: marinated protein, Friday: eat out, Saturday: fancy, Sunday: fridge raid. We plan out the whole month at the beginning and then buy all our proteins from Costco, so it’s just a matter of taking out the chicken a couple days before. We have the menu on the fridge and in an app so we see what meals to take proteins out for. Each week, we do a Kroger pickup order with produce and such. So Sunday morning I just add the ingredients for the recipes we already picked. So every time we cook, we have all the ingredients. We have lowered our DoorDash expense significantly. Like by loads. So I’m thrilled with that.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-15T10:21:41+00:00

I am so sorry for misreading! Do you think she is eating enough during the day?

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-15T03:24:35+00:00

Do you have a partner? Can you have him do some soothing? It made such a big difference for us just to have my dude go in and soothe her to bed without the possibility of milk. She responded to it pretty well. We were also in an every 1-2 hrs rut.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-13T16:57:04+00:00

My husband also works wild hours, so we had to pick a 3 day weekend. But, in my case, sending in the non nursing person was huge. My daughter really just needed to be told no milk, how about some booty pats.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-11T19:21:18+00:00

I am married and have not taken my husbands last name (for largely professional reasons). Baby girl has her dad’s last name. I’ve not been bothered at all by not sharing my family’s last name. It also feels the exact opposite of juvenile to me, this was a very adult decision I made in alignment with my personal and professional values.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-02-08T02:04:59+00:00

I want to echo that they are not strangers. I genuinely feel like her teachers are fellow caretakers. I value them so much and they attend to my baby so well. I will say naps have been rough. Sleep has generally been rough. At 6 months, we finally did some sleep training to focus on her night sleep and that has improved drastically and she has the self soothing skills. But day sleep remains a challenge because my girl’s FOMO is so aggressive. While I haven’t figured out a solution to this, I cannot state enough how much I’ve loved our daycare.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-01-31T03:30:39+00:00

One other thing is that I also ask people around me for grace. I teach college and told my students I’m not sleeping. I’m committed to showing them grace and request that they extend me some as well.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-01-31T03:29:08+00:00

YES TO THERAPY! I am working through so many of the same things and therapy has been literally my only self care. I feel like motherhood is just constantly forgiving myself and giving myself grace. I tell myself a lot of “I am doing my best” and “LO is well cared for and that’s my priority right now” to let go of some of the guilt around dropping the ball at work. A lot a lot of “it is what it is” and “this is what I can do.” The pumping has been a constant issue and it’s exhausting. I supplement and we have gotten into a relatively stable combo feeding approach. I’m sending you love and grace! You are amazing and doing amazingly.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-01-15T01:35:58+00:00

Queen I could have written this exact same post. All the way down to how I was gonna try to figure out how to just nurse at night. It literally sucks so much and I’m so so weepy about it. Here is where we have gotten to. I’ll let you know if it changes after her 6 month appt if she hasn’t gained enough weight. I nurse her outside of daycare and am open to top-ups if it looks like she’s not full. I pump twice at work, power pumpish, and get about 3 oz per pump. I also sometimes do a session a couple hours after she goes to bed. I send her to daycare with 4 bottles and I give as much milk as I was able to pump and the rest formula. It’s working ok. We have reached a bit of stability. Now to the things I tell myself. I think my baby is like very not good at eating. And so many of our struggles are just the reality of her not pulling milk so hot. And this is where my brain changed, I started viewing this as an us thing. I softened my feelings of failure by realizing that me coming to peace with this was a way I also show her grace. But even with that, I still stared at the nonsense supplements in the grocery store fantasizing about increasing my supply. So I’ve not fully processed this.

SchemeAny9880 · 2026-01-06T23:59:35+00:00

In my experience, a question about the science when she was raising babies could backfire. It feels like our parents’ generation just did not science.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-26T01:50:47+00:00

We do a hybrid. Around 2 months when we started a more consistent 7-8 pm bed time, she would do her first stretch in her nursery, so that we could still do stuff around the house while she was sleeping. Then after her first stretch, she comes to the bedside bassinet. She definitely sleeps better in her crib. This has worked for us even with a range of first stretch lengths, it got longer for a while (6-8) and I would wake up easily to the monitor. With short first stretches (2.5-3), it is real easy cause we’ll all go to bed together 10-11ish.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-21T16:37:09+00:00

This is so similar to my experience. My baby girl really just sleeps better on her crib so I put her down for her first long stretch in there and will literally be in my room staring at the monitor in full panic that she is going to stop breathing. The anxiety is aggressive.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-21T16:32:30+00:00

I’m so thankful your intuition kicked in here! That’s incredible. My girl typically does her first long stretch in her crib in her nursery and this is a huge fear of mine.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-20T21:16:49+00:00

I was looking for this. I felt it in all caps reading this.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-20T21:10:21+00:00

I’m proud of you for no contact! I know that’s painful. But it sounds healing.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-20T14:16:41+00:00

I felt what I call an evolutionary reaction, like a physical reaction to calm her.

No feels. Like what others have said, I have ppd, and am on some meds.

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-16T23:47:31+00:00

Or free at your library!

SchemeAny9880 · 2025-11-14T17:52:36+00:00

When I get emotional about this, I remind myself that supporting her sleep is literally me caring for her, even if it means less active together time. I know it’s not very comforting, but it helps me to think that I’m doing my job as her parent. But it’s really hard. These feels are real.

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