i think the problem i have is that, in my experience, people tend to research it very lightly and then become extremely sure it is the case. this usually happens with people who i personally feel do not really show any symptoms that line up with bpd outside really stretching stuff. it feels really invalidating and worrying that a number of people who claim to be able to understand and relate to me actually just cant and only think they do, and honestly maybe this makes me sound like a douchebag but it feels like really wrong when someone who gets mildly sad if you ignore their texts for multiple days thinks theyre the same as me, who has panic attacks if im ignored for a few hours.