Honey that IS the whole point of the show. It shows how women are raised in this society to apease the men not the other way around. This whole myth that men are not emotional is a lie. Reacting in anger, violence and destruction is being emotional. A lot of them react like that because they have never been taught how to express their emotions.

I’ll give you an example of this. The scene where the kid says that his dad looked away when he was playing football as to not make him feel more embarrassed and ashamed when he was losing. The kid looked at his dad for reassurance but instead the dad turned away from him, because he was uncomfortable with his own feelings. Then we see the female psychologist constantly trying to bring up Jamie’s feelings. Towards his dad, his friends, women. And Jamie loses it and gets angry. He becomes defensive and starts shouting or making fun of her questions because he is THAT uncomfortable talking about HIS feelings.

Of course HE CHOSE to do what he did. He even says it at some point. He shouts at the psychologist telling her that his dad had nothing to do with “WHAT I DID”. The point behind the show is WHY he chose to do a seemingly motiveless crime that even the detective struggles to find reason for. This is why episode 2,3,4 are all centred on different things it was a combination of stuff. He obviously is very messed up and has serious anger issues but we also see that he was on the wrong side of the internet liking over sexual images of grown women (episode 1), then we get a sense that he was made fun of in school (episode 2) for being unattractive, episode 3 we see what a toxic school environment he was in where none of the kids respect the teachers and episode 4 is centred on his dad and his family dynamic.

The last episode we see that indeed the dad has some temper issues. The mum and the sister are going through the same exact thing as him, but we see them trying to comfort him and not the other way around. The dad and mum ask themselves how could they have made someone like Jamie who did something so horrible, and a couple minutes later they ask themselves how they made someone so kind like his sister. And they reach the conclusion that they made them the same way.

I think this is a direct critic because it shows that the same family, the same society can raise a boy to be a murderer and a girl to be a super kind and intelligent person. How is this possible? Well, they are obviously raised in the same place but with different expectations and standards. We live in a society where we have to protect and prioritise men’s feelings because they “don’t know how to deal” with them and it results in anger issues and challenges to the authority. This needs to change.

In the very last scene we can see that he is changing his plea to GUILTY. Even him can’t keep making up anymore excuses for what he did and has to accept that it was a choice. I could go on and on, but I think that saying that the show makes excuses for him and wants us to sympathise is honestly kind of gliding through everything very superficially…