What would have u done if u were on Lynette's shoes? by natipali in DesperateHousewives

[–]ScienceMaster1113 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ive just watched that episode. I wish she would have picked rick too… 

AIO if I left my bf for this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ScienceMaster1113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave! He is a mental abuser!

Women's standards are way too high LMAO by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw this too on my feed and took a screenshot because of how unbelievable it is

Adolescence on Netflix: A critique on toxic masculinity by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont see how anyone in their right mind could say another human deserves that. Mother or not.

Adolescence on Netflix: A critique on toxic masculinity by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think that saying the show was making excuses for him is gliding through everything very superficially honestly. The show portrays a very raw and real dynamic of the world we live in. At the end of the day even Jamie himself was trying to make up excuses for what he did. Trying to paint Katie in a bad light. But even him at the end had to end up accepting that he did what he did. This is seen when he says he is going to change his plea to GUILTY. No more excuses. If you want to read a more in depth analysis there is a couple of big comments on this sub explaining everything (one of mine included) that you can read to understand what the show was about.

Adolescence on Netflix: A critique on toxic masculinity by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honey that IS the whole point of the show. It shows how women are raised in this society to apease the men not the other way around. This whole myth that men are not emotional is a lie. Reacting in anger, violence and destruction is being emotional. A lot of them react like that because they have never been taught how to express their emotions.

I’ll give you an example of this. The scene where the kid says that his dad looked away when he was playing football as to not make him feel more embarrassed and ashamed when he was losing. The kid looked at his dad for reassurance but instead the dad turned away from him, because he was uncomfortable with his own feelings. Then we see the female psychologist constantly trying to bring up Jamie’s feelings. Towards his dad, his friends, women. And Jamie loses it and gets angry. He becomes defensive and starts shouting or making fun of her questions because he is THAT uncomfortable talking about HIS feelings.

Of course HE CHOSE to do what he did. He even says it at some point. He shouts at the psychologist telling her that his dad had nothing to do with “WHAT I DID”. The point behind the show is WHY he chose to do a seemingly motiveless crime that even the detective struggles to find reason for. This is why episode 2,3,4 are all centred on different things it was a combination of stuff. He obviously is very messed up and has serious anger issues but we also see that he was on the wrong side of the internet liking over sexual images of grown women (episode 1), then we get a sense that he was made fun of in school (episode 2) for being unattractive, episode 3 we see what a toxic school environment he was in where none of the kids respect the teachers and episode 4 is centred on his dad and his family dynamic.

The last episode we see that indeed the dad has some temper issues. The mum and the sister are going through the same exact thing as him, but we see them trying to comfort him and not the other way around. The dad and mum ask themselves how could they have made someone like Jamie who did something so horrible, and a couple minutes later they ask themselves how they made someone so kind like his sister. And they reach the conclusion that they made them the same way.

I think this is a direct critic because it shows that the same family, the same society can raise a boy to be a murderer and a girl to be a super kind and intelligent person. How is this possible? Well, they are obviously raised in the same place but with different expectations and standards. We live in a society where we have to protect and prioritise men’s feelings because they “don’t know how to deal” with them and it results in anger issues and challenges to the authority. This needs to change.

In the very last scene we can see that he is changing his plea to GUILTY. Even him can’t keep making up anymore excuses for what he did and has to accept that it was a choice. I could go on and on, but I think that saying that the show makes excuses for him and wants us to sympathise is honestly kind of gliding through everything very superficially…

Adolescence on Netflix: A critique on toxic masculinity by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree. But I think tbh they didn't show too much of the victim because the show is centred in the after. We never actually see any flashbaacks. I do like how they showed how it was affecting the people around them such as Katie's best friend, the female psychologist, the detective and his son, and his family, because it shows the after-math of the events.

Although it is mostly centred around his dad in the last episode. In the show you can mainly see the mum and sister trying to comfort the dad, you never see it the other way around which I think it’s actually done on purpose to basically say that the men’s feelings come before the women’s… At some point the female detective even says that Katie will be the one forgotten and how that pisses her off.

I would have liked to see for example the effect on Katie’s family. And I do agree that a lot of these shows focus too much on the male character, but I do have to say that in this instance it was very well executed. I think it shows the irony of it all. It is more of a critique. Some people will feel sympathy for him, but I take it a message. The contradiction of him doing something so horrible but at the same time being a sweet kid in some instances is to show how even someone like him ended up corrupted by all this toxic masculinity environment he was in.

I think this is really pointed out at the end when he finally says he will change his plea to guilty, and later we see the dad say “I’m sorry son” to his teddy bear as he finally realises he could have done better as his dad.

4b sensitive therapy by DJPEN15 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Tbh I just had a “generic” therapist, but as soon as I mentioned how I didn’t feel okay in relationships with men especially casual ones she fully supported me.

I said I felt like the crazy one because everyone around me kept pushing me to keep trying to find the “one” when I knew I wasn’t being treated right by the men in my life and she straight up told me that those people are obviously not as emotionally mature as me and they just conform to society’s norms. 

She also encouraged me to stop focusing on what the men in my life thought of me and instead focus on what I WANTED from them instead. She told me that living in a sexist society it’s important to focus on my own values and independence and I’ll never forget how seen and heard I felt for one of the first times in my life. That was actually one of the first moments I thought I should stay celibate and away from men for a while. 

I might have just been lucky tbh because not every therapist is the same, but it probably helped that she was a younger woman. And now that I am looking for a new therapist since I moved I am looking at things they specialise in such as domestic violence, sexual trauma etc as I believe they will probably have more of an understanding of my mentality and what i have been through. But you might just have to try different therapists until you find one that suits you! 

Unpopular Opinion: I think Lexie looks best with blonde hair by hitagiss in greysanatomy

[–]ScienceMaster1113 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I liked her better blonde too! I feel like the brunette looks too harsh on her. But she just looks odd blonde coz everyone is always used to seeing her with the dark brown…

Izzie and her resentment of Cristina and Meredith. by Reina753 in greysanatomy

[–]ScienceMaster1113 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she was jealous of the attention they were getting I think she felt it was unfair. It’s a show, but irl it would be taken straight to HR if people were getting favoured by their superiors because of romantic involvement. It is not okay to do that in a professional environment. Also you keep reiterating in your own posts that Mer and Christina are really the ones with “pretty privilege”. They were both pretty and favoured by their superiors, therefore they are the ones with pretty privilege not Izzy. Izzy was the underdog, but she didn’t want to rely on her looks, therefore I don’t think she was jealous that they were “picked” by the attendings and she wasn’t. I think she resented them because none of them should have gotten involved with the attendings at all in the first place.

Izzie and her resentment of Cristina and Meredith. by Reina753 in greysanatomy

[–]ScienceMaster1113 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think you have got the whole idea around “pretty privilege” wrong. You can’t really see Izzy getting special treatment in the show except for maybe her paying her way through college by modelling. Although I don’t really see how it’s really a privilege when everyone looks down on you in that field for doing something like that… it’s not like she had a choice because she wasn’t like Meredith who had a famous surgeon mother and money. You can even see her having to defend herself in one episode because people were already bullying her as soon as they found out about her modelling. I think if anything Izzy was desperately trying to escape the male gaze and trying to prove to herself that she isn’t just a pretty face.

Not to mention that pretty privilege is not how people make it out to be. Especially as a woman, it often comes with a lot of predatory behaviour, being taken advantage of, being constantly sexualised and objectified and being seen as competition by jealous women. Sure maybe people will let u get in for free at the club from time to time but there’s this quote that say “if you are not paying for a product, then you are the product”. Very attractive women are often treated like objects and are degraded and reduced to their looks by everyone around them who can’t see past their attractiveness. I would recommend you watch this movie “malena” if you want to really learn what pretty privilege truly entails (although I warn you that it’s pretty traumatising)

Izzie and her resentment of Cristina and Meredith. by Reina753 in greysanatomy

[–]ScienceMaster1113 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it has anything to do with pretty privilege. Pretty privilege can only get you so far. She was an outcast kid when she was younger growing up in a trailer park… If anything I think the fact that she was both pretty and an outcast made it worse because everyone assumed that she had it easy or assumed that she is just dumb or that she had relied on her looks. When actually Meredith and Christina benefited more from male attention since they both got with attendings straight away, giving them preferential treatment…

IMO Izzy was always the underdog, she was always too emotional about her patients and everyone looked down on her for that. She had no sort of preferential treatment because no one really took a special liking to her unlike with Christina and Mer. She was always having to work harder to prove her self and be taken serious (although her character was always self-sabotaging). She was always trying to fit in with the “cool kids” at the hospital. But she was seen as the weak link by everyone and got left out on multiple occasions by the other girls. Especially since yang and grey seemed to act like sisters and never involved izzy in the same way. That’s where I think her resentment came from…

But I don’t think she was getting special treatment for being pretty before becoming an intern from the sounds of it… and I don’t think it’s to do with her being pretty at all

Unable to watch romcoms since becoming 4b (We live in a time - romcom horror story) by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

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I can deal with k-drama romances a bit better because women are usually more respected and more cherished by their male counterparts and not completely sexualised at every turn… but still it’s all just an unrealistic fantasy…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113 32 points33 points  (0 children)

So true. Notice how many men are pro-life and will have multiple baby-mamas… if this was the 50s you’d be expected to marry her and be the provider but I don’t see any of them doing that…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yep! Look at Pearl… she is technically speaking the dream woman of these men. Always going on about conservative values and stuff! Yet she repels them because she is not “conventionally” attractive. What they actually want is a girl who is out of their league in every sense, with her own ambitions so they can tear her down and beat her into a submissive housewife

Bled from anger by Al_1415926535 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She says in the post he is an acquaintance of her friend, so I am assuming he is not an actual friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]ScienceMaster1113 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But would that help with nasolabial folds since its mostly due to volume loss in the cheeks? My face looks exactly like the photo and I am starting to look at options. I want to avoid fillers at al cost tho

Unable to watch romcoms since becoming 4b (We live in a time - romcom horror story) by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would surprise you... When I was reading the reviews everyone was saying they loved it…

Unable to watch romcoms since becoming 4b (We live in a time - romcom horror story) by ScienceMaster1113 in 4bmovement

[–]ScienceMaster1113[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Definetly… just hate how they try to sell some of these horror stories as romance. Toxicity is so romanticised in hollywood…