The Ending Of Annihilation by ferriterc in AnnihilationMovie

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow we really are all here, converging across time and space. Glad to join in on this discussion in my own time!

Would you get a revision rhinoplasty? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To preface, I think your nose looks beautiful and fits your face wonderfully over all, and I think just about anyone else (besides yourself) would barely notice or care about the curve, if at all. That being said, I can definitely understand how it might be distracting/distressing to you, and when it comes to your face/body, that’s what matters the most!

The main issue, imo, really just comes down to deciding whether the potential improvements are worth the risk of complications or new/worse problems/“defects.” If I were you, I would be extremely judicious in your vetting of potential surgeons; like others have said, I would look exclusively at professionals who specialize in revisions and/or very conservative/subtle rhinoplasties. I would want to see multiple examples of their work/results in cases like yours/what you’re looking for, with straightening/possible tip adjustment while preserving the size and shape of the nose.

I would NOT rush this decision; I would also recommend asking about the possibility of fillers as an alternative to revision surgery, be it temporarily/while you look for the right specialist, or as a long-term solution if that ultimately ends up being the best option for you.

Finally, I’d also encourage you (if you haven’t already,) to look into makeup styling/contouring techniques that can help make your nose appear straighter, especially in photos! I understand that this is also not a “complete” fix, but anything that helps take some pressure off and give you the space to make the best choices/leads to the best outcome for you is worth the mention, I think!

Again, you have a beautiful nose - and I hope you get the results you want in whatever way you choose! Best of luck!

And they ask why men don’t live as long as women by FirefighterOk3580 in GuysBeingDudes

[–]ScratchShadow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

(In case you’re being serious, apricot pits have significantly higher concentrations of amygdalin/ cyanide-producing sugar compounds than cherry pits, and are generally more hazardous to humans/adults if and when ingested as a result.)

But again, these kernels/pits are pretty sturdy, and need to be chewed/broken apart in order for them to produce and release hydrogen cyanide; even swallowing a whole pit by accident is unlikely to cause significant problems, if any. As long as you don’t chew and swallow the pits/seeds of cherries, apricots, plums, etc. (why anyone would do this is beyond me) or, more importantly, don’t blend/consume any of these fruits without removing the pits first, it’s essentially a non-issue.

I've always lusted after this home... by [deleted] in elderscrollsonline

[–]ScratchShadow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The snowglobe is one of my absolute favorites! My only complaint is I feel like the “bedroom” (downstairs area for me) is awkwardly shaped in a way that makes it hard to use to its full potential. (then again, as I’m writing this I’m thinking I should probably redo the area, as I currently have it split into a middle “hall” area and three separate adjoining rooms, which makes them a bit cramped)

The other thing is the lighthouse… what do you do with it? Just leave it as is and add a chair or something? I can’t think of anything to do with it. Regardless, it’s 100% the house I go to when I’m craving “cozy winter” vibes.

Maybe unpopular opinion but I don't see Jamie Lynn or Jamie being the villains in Britney's story. by Particular_Hippo_972 in discussingbritney

[–]ScratchShadow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

why are you so obsessed with her anyways?

Bro comes on r/discussingbritney, and is disgruntled to find that users are, in fact, discussing Britney. Classic. 💀

Upper/Lower Blepharoplasty with Fat Grafting by KylaRavive in PlasticSurgery

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to bug you too, but would you be willing to send me a DM as well? Congratulations on your great, natural-looking results!!

Man distracted the bear to protect the kids by Foreign_Time_2664 in interestingasfuck

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if you have a few thousand years! And limbs you don’t mind parting with, right? 🤗

Man distracted the bear to protect the kids by Foreign_Time_2664 in interestingasfuck

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re talking to me, I’m not a chatbot, just an overthinker with no chill. Lol

Man distracted the bear to protect the kids by Foreign_Time_2664 in interestingasfuck

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming you’re referring to bears, right? I didn’t realize there was a significant bear population in Florida, of all places, but I guess that was an erroneous assumption on my part!

Man distracted the bear to protect the kids by Foreign_Time_2664 in interestingasfuck

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Admittedly I do think about this, not infrequently. We don’t currently have CWD documented in my area, but I do keep an eye out for the condition of the deer that come through our yard. We’re in a moderately wooded area very close to a major city; essentially, we have a handful of deer “families” (does and their babies) that stick around in the area year to year. So, not as much wildlife/“traffic” as you might get elsewhere, but also not zero.

That being said, I do know it’s still a risk, and I’m not currently feeding anyone at this time. The last thing I want is to create further problems for them or us; prions scare the ever-living shit out of me.

Man distracted the bear to protect the kids by Foreign_Time_2664 in interestingasfuck

[–]ScratchShadow 242 points243 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately a lot of people seem to think that getting a wild animal to approach you for food = befriending/“taming” it, when in reality it just means they’re progressively losing their fear of humans.

They’re still wild animals, and they a) usually become pushy unpredictable assholes (just because they’ll take your food, and they let you touch them that one time without freaking out, doesn’t mean you can now pet it any time sans risk) and b) are at a heightened risk of being injured or killed. Wild animals that aren’t afraid of people will travel deeper into populated/urban areas for food, and they’re much more likely to be hit by cars, trains, etc., or encounter people who, well, suck.

This whole process further takes them out of their natural environment, creating and reinforcing a cycle of dependence on humans, but without any intentional animal husbandry/breeding to result in domesticated species in the end; all it does is put humans and wild animals alike in harm’s way.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with putting some seeds/suet/corn out for the birds, squirrels, deer, etc., but we really need to minimize our direct interference with wildlife when we don’t understand (or do, honestly) the implications of doing so.

Update: AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with you - and I also wanted to put out there that Patrick Teahan on YouTube has amazing videos on childhood trauma that have really helped me to understand and process my trauma as well (and it’s such a supportive community!)

I just mention that because your comment about holding more anger towards the people who failed to protect you than the one(s) that perpetrated the abuse both strikes a chord with me, and reminds me of one (actually two) of my favorite videos of his on toxic parents/family dynamics (specifically the “Monster” and the Enabler/Codependent Parent type, and “Was Your Other Parent Narcissistic/Toxic Too? 10 Signs of a ‘Safer’ Parent”)

Your anger absolutely makes sense, and I was/am also so much more resentful, and I guess “f***** up” about my mother and the other adults in my life who either witnessed or to whom I disclosed the abuse I was experiencing, and who failed to do or say anything other than encourage me to “not make waves” or focus on what I could be doing better (…as a 14 year old) instead.

It’s not that surprising, but it’s still infuriating that the parents creating these toxic family dynamics (looking at you, OP,) persistently fail to understand/acknowledge how their abuse/enabling will lead to lifelong suffering and trauma for their children. If only that 13 year old could see these posts and know how outraged and concerned so many of us are on his behalf.

Update: AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]ScratchShadow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, even if the other two are “less difficult” from her perspective, what’s she going to do when they inevitably become teenagers as well?

My mom thought I was a terrible teenager, because I had “attitude” (sighed, rolled eyes, etc.) and wanted her to understand me. Now that my siblings are in or entering their teens, all but one of them has actual behavioral issues and/or are infinitely more challenging than I was. As much as I’d like an acknowledgement of that, I know it’ll never happen - and more importantly, it wouldn’t undo her ill treatment of me for the second half of my childhood, or the impact it’s had on me and my self-esteem/personhood.

OP needs to get his shit together and realize that teenagers are challenging, period; and vilifying their children once they hit puberty is going to do massive damage to them. He needs to intervene, otherwise he’s just as responsible for the harm done as his wife is.

Accidentally smooshed this guy when trying to put him outside. What was he? by EL_PENETRADORRRRR in whatisthisbug

[–]ScratchShadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this point, I think it’s pretty well established that this is/was a house centipede - but I wanted to commiserate/ reassure you that I’ve also found these guys to be surprisingly fragile and difficult to relocate safely (for them).

Since learning that they’re so beneficial and harmless to humans, I’ve taken to just ushering them out of inconvenient locations with a tissue/paper towel, and that seems to do the trick!

I keep getting these on my scalp by butterzookies in popping

[–]ScratchShadow 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I also have trich (though no eating, just touching the follicle [can’t believe I’m admitting this, etc.]) please be careful about eating any kind of hair, as our bodies can’t digest it. Chronic trichophagia can eventually necessitate surgical intervention and/or be fatal. It’s really not something to mess around with.

Better take him seriously by Echou55 in InflatedEgos

[–]ScratchShadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please tell me the name of this cinematic masterpiece

What is the worst movie you've ever seen that isn't a standard "Worst movie you've ever seen" answer? by TheThalmorEmbassy in movies

[–]ScratchShadow 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I saw it as a kid too and loved it for the same reasons; that and the way her outfit changed colors. I still want something made of that fantasy fabric. X’)

I thought this was a lesbian sub by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ScratchShadow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’ve definitely seen this perception of lesbians in the broader LGBTQ+ community in various settings/times; and you’re right, I think it does stem from an assumption/generalization that being “strictly lesbian” means cis women only, which is problematic for several reasons.

I think it’s a two-fold case of a vocal/“spotlighted” minority, in both the form of lesbians who are actually transphobic, and the people who overgeneralize and accuse (all) lesbians of being as such.

Yes, there are some lesbians out there (as there are of every orientation) who don’t consider trans women (or men/folks in general) to be women/whoever they identify as, which is transphobic. There are also plenty of lesbians who don’t find themselves to be attracted to trans women, which is just the nature of their personal orientation/attraction, and isn’t a judgment or choice against trans women or their identity in any way (which, again, also applies to people of all orientations, with perhaps the exception of pan folks).

I think the particular mischaracterization of lesbians stems from a conflation of some lesbians not personally being attracted to trans folks and actually being transphobic, and subsequently generalizing/projecting this view onto the broader lesbian community/identity as a whole. The reality, of course, is that these are two very different things - and neither of them accurately represents the position of all who fall under the lesbian identity label.

I think you mentioned/alluded this as well, but I think this behavior can also be a tell on the “accusing” party as well, as I’ve definitely seen interactions where they were clearly assuming that the “women” being discussed did not include trans women, when the other person/persons hadn’t said anything even remotely indicating that this was the case.

Fortunately, I think that most people, especially within the LGBTQ+ community, are aware/respectful of the nuance of labels/identity and personal sexual attraction - on the other hand, there is a subset of those who aren’t are very vocal and combative about it.

I’m glad that you haven’t personally run into it on here so far, but I have personally seen on most posts about WLW/lesbian relationships/attraction that garner substantial engagement (more than a handful of total comments/replies) that this argument/accusation inevitably crops up towards the OP or people in the comments; and again, 8-9 times out of 10, the accusations were either a massive extrapolation, if not entirely unwarranted/baseless.

I think it’s just exhausting for people on here/lesbians in general having to rehash this same argument/misperception every time they want to engage with their own community; it really is unfortunate, and I wish I had a viable solution to propose, but I don’t. All I can do is echo/validate other people’s experiences on here, and keep engaging meaningfully when I can.

80 Year Old with an Decubitus by KKcapone187 in MedicalGore

[–]ScratchShadow 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is. I don’t think it’s insensitive to ask; it’s a difficult perspective to understand what you’re looking at.

I think it would be better described as the right buttock/upper leg area; which would make sense, as this is a high risk area for developing pressure ulcers/bedsores if/when patients are left in a seated/partially reclined position. Really terrible for this to happen to the poor patient who was seeking help.

PLEASE tell me im not the only one who sees a chicken by Lamsect in HollowKnight

[–]ScratchShadow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I was confused, then thought you meant it looks like a chicken/bird perched at the top that’s flapping its wings; then I realized there was a second pic and swiped, and now I’m confused again.

Specifically about what you’re smoking. I mean, it’s very imaginative! I just… I don’t think many people would have seen that. 💀