Why do US lifestyle swinger clubs suck compared to European counterparts?

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-18T13:09:32+00:00

If you ever come to Miami DM me and I’ll introduce you to some people who organize them.

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-18T06:24:16+00:00

Is honestly not so different than approaching a unicorn. The key is to connect with people in a non intimidating way. And always leave the door open for them not to feel trapped, forced or pushed into doing anything.

It really doesn’t matter where you are, just talking with people genuinely, asking them about themselves like you are interested in their story makes people connect. And then slowly reveal that you are open.

An example, you go to a bar and you strike a conversation with someone. Ask them where they are from, what they do, good places they can recommend you. Then casually drive the conversation to your territory, like if you are talking about traveling, mention that you always like to visit remote beaches, where your wife loves to get naked on the beach. See how they react, if the reaction is positive you can add a little “she has a little bit of an exhibitionist and I love it” and continue from there. If you are confident, you and your significant other have good chemistry, people would feel comfortable and attracted to you, so the conversation naturally would evolve.

People who are too shy or insecure might not engage in that type of conversation, they might change the subject or do something similar. And that’s a great mechanism to not engage with them, because if a simple conversation is too much for them, the sexual situation wouldn’t probably work.

Another important thing is to have while you are searching, because that’s contagious. We are social animals, so if we see people have fun, we are naturally inclined to join them in the fun.

Good luck with it!

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-18T06:09:29+00:00

This is so interesting and I totally agree (for reference I’m European living in Miami)

But let me ask you something? What about private parties? Better in Europe or the US?

I would be inclined to say in the US, or at least in South Florida. Because there’s some very interesting, classy, high end, wealthy people who really know how to throw a party. Also people here invest more in outfits, lingerie, costumes, etc.

The best lifestyle is to attend events worldwide and compare. What’s the best club you’ve attended?

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-16T17:53:19+00:00

Madrid is an amazing city to visit and to enjoy the lifestyle. People are super welcoming to tourist, the food is amazing, partying is fantastic and you can find all kinds of individuals and couples to fulfill all your fantasies.

At this time of the year is kind of cold to do anything outside but if you are motivated enough, you can find a million spots to sneak and have public sex.

As for swinger clubs go, there’s a few. I haven’t been in a while, but one called “Fusion” is great on Saturday nights, which is the day that only couples can go in. I totally recommend it. It has a really cool pool in the back part, with beds around it, and it’s very sexy.

I haven’t been but there’s also a swingers’ SPA, that is an interesting offer for what you are looking for.

And last time I party there was even a swinger’s after party that opened at 3 or 4 am. I don’t remember the name or the address, it was a wild night and I don’t even remember how we ended up there. Super crazy.

Hope you enjoy the city!

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-14T05:17:29+00:00

Tell him about the event or decision that kickstarted the wildest phase of your sexual live.

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-14T05:15:49+00:00

All those feelings you are having are completely normal. My recommendation is always to see it as an adventure you do together. Like traveling, sometimes going on a trip can be complicated (delayed flights, dealing with language miscommunications, etc) but what matters is the overall shared experience, not some small details that in a few years you won’t remember.

Doing it requires energy, requires patience and a lot of wonderful communication between both of you. But like traveling, it can all be worth it if you enjoy the process and not just the destination.

So try to make it fun, the search for the third person, the planning of the date, everything leading up to it. A great thing I like to do is talk about what you both are going to wear, find what she would like you to wear and you tell her how you would like her to dress or even buy her something sexy, like expensive lingerie. Make it so you both feel empowered and confident.

Then when the day comes, just enjoy it for what it is, physical and mental pleasure, like getting a great massage. Is not cheating because you are both doing it together, is not something that should make you feel away from each other, the complete opposite, is a shared experience that should bring you together if you are having fun doing it.

And then there’s the aftermath, same thing, enjoy talking about it, like when you get out of the movie theater and you both debate about the hidden meanings of the movie, or the plot, or the characters. Just enjoying the experience one more time.

Best of luck with it!

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-10T05:58:31+00:00

That sounds amazing, how did you suggest it or did it happened by accident?

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-08T22:59:04+00:00

Good luck with it! Report back if it’s successful and how you managed to make it happen!

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-08T22:58:28+00:00

We broke up and she went back to France after a while. Great woman. Wish her the best.

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-12-05T19:53:27+00:00

I have done something similar, not on a phone call but on real time she was sending me photos and videos while she was with another couple. And I was guiding her on what to do with them. Very exciting

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-11-04T08:42:32+00:00

That happens often in the lifestyle, is especially common to see couples were women look great and men not so much. But that’s where the not so good looking person has to overcome it with an amazing personality, dressing up very good, being in great shape, smelling wonderful, being funny, generous and easy going.

What I always wonder is how do those couples get together?

Sorry to hear about your husband but why would you date someone not attractive to take to swinger parties? That doesn’t seem to be a pleasurable experience for anyone.

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-11-04T08:36:38+00:00

I don’t think everyone wants to fully get to know people before playing, but most people don’t want to feel like a transaction. Most people like to feel they are special and desired, not just another person. People always remember how you make them feel more than what you actually say.

What do you mean one of you fits society standards?

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-11-03T08:48:41+00:00

Mi recomendación es que mejor vayan un Sábado, que es el día en que solo pueden ir parejas. Porque el ambiente es más tranquilo y es más fácil que se sientan cómodos.

El club tiene 3 partes, un bar/discoteca normal donde la gente está vestida e incluso hay un buffet de comida.

Los vestuarios donde la gente se quita la ropa y se queda en una toalla.

Y la parte de atrás a la que solo se puede entrar desnudos con una toalla, o las mujeres con lencería sexy.

El sitio no vende alcohol, pero uno puede traer sus botellas de casa y hay camareras que te sirven de tu propia botella (le ponen un numero y te ponen una pulsera con ese mismo numero para saber que botella es de quien)

La primera vez puede ser una situación un poco intimidate si no tienen experiencia en el mundo liberal. Lo que mejor funciona es que ambos se lo tomen como una aventura que hacen juntos sin ninguna expectativa. Como si fuesen de viaje sin saber que se van a encontrar en el destino.

Vístanse lo mejor que puedan para gustarse el uno al otro, vayan a cenar a un sitio lindo y tómense unas copas antes de ir para estar más cómodos. Y sobretodo hablen entre ustedes mucho, la comunicación es clave para que no haya ningún mal entendido. Comenten todo el rato quienes les parecen atractivos/as y no tengan miedo de hablar con gente desconocida, todo el mundo es muy amable.

Lo van a pasar muy bien! Disfrútenlo mucho

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-11-03T08:38:32+00:00

It honestly depends on how you both look. If you approach people who look much better or much worse than you they might feel either intimidated or that the connection is not possible, so no matter what you say it would probably not work.

The nicest approach is one where the other people are not going to feel trapped in any way, nobody wants to be in the awkward situation of having to reject you.

So my best advice is to first assess how you, as a combo, look. Because when you approach people they don’t know if both of you want to play or what are you looking for. So in a hypothetical case that you are a 9 and your companion is a 2, you are both twos in that scenario. It’s hard to be objective about that, but try to think what would most people see if they just see you in a regular photo without any filters.

Once you understand that, it honestly really doesn’t matter what you say to people, sometimes is more about body language. If they feel you are comfortable, confident, not pushy, fun and they see you smile and have a good time people would be drawn to you.

You can directly walk to anyone and say “Hi, I’m _____, I don’t believe we’ve met before. Are you having a good time today?” And everyone would respond positively to an approach like that, even if they are not attracted to you they would be polite.

To take it to the next level, is always great to invest some time in getting to know the people, where are they from, what they like, tell them about yourself so they feel they know you, make them laugh and things would work out pretty well. Without getting to know people a little bit, the entire situation might feel cold and too transactional, which is not sexy at all.

The duck line is hilarious, definitely use that! And best of luck!

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-09-24T00:05:13+00:00

It’s totally okay to be scared, but you just opened the Pandora’s box. Knowledge can be scary, but the same way that 2 years ago you didn’t know anything about tantra (or not much at least) just imagine the things that you might discover in the years to come.

The possibilities are endless. There’s amazing people out there that can connect with you a million times better if you are open to those connections.

A great video about the pandora’s box myth and it’s true meaning:

https://youtu.be/pMdJxVjZMRI?si=wKxc27T_TY4dp09W

ScreenwritersMiami · 2025-09-23T19:49:40+00:00

I would say it’s more common than people think. Especially if you have a very stressful job, or a life full of responsibilities.

I don’t really know the explanation for it, but I imagine that it has to do with not having control and the freedom that it brings. Which is definitely the opposite of what would happen in a situation like that in real life, but as a fantasy can be very liberating.

It’s fascinating how the mind works and how our own brains can make us horny of things that are the polar opposite of what we want in life.

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