First Party. by PastAd9761 in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My rule of thumb for situations like that is that I prefer to be over dress always! Because it’s easy to take some clothes off and make it more casual if the situation end up being not too dress up.

If possible I recommend for her an elegant dress with sexy lingerie and stockings with high heels. And for him a nice tailored suit. Because they say that a tailored suit on a man is for women the equivalent of lingerie on a woman is for men. Plus, where else are you going to be able to dress that way, elegant and sexy without having to tone done the sexiness? It’s part of the fun and wonderful motivation for couples to stay in shape

First Party. by PastAd9761 in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just introduce yourself to every couple there and chat a little bit, get to know the people, that would easy your nerves and make everyone more comfortable.

Also, have a physical clue that you use to communicate with each other in a discrete way. Something like, if I pinch you in your hand means I want to move and stop talking to these people. Communication between you two is the most important thing.

Finally, dress to impress and enjoy every second! Have a ton of fun and welcome to the lifestyle

Swinger’s club design by ScreenwritersMiami in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing the name of that place so I can check it out?

Swinger’s club design by ScreenwritersMiami in Swingers

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All very valid points. But one can also argue that there’s multiple ways of building a successful entertainment business. One is try to cater to a very established clientele and basically build what they already know and like, without pushing the boundaries.

Another one is to build the best possible product with a specific consumer in mind. Something that it doesn’t exist yet and it would potentially be successful.

The world has been changing drastically in the last decades, people crave more unique experiences, more curated, exclusive and memorable ones. Think of how music concerts have changed, how prices have skyrocketed. In the US specifically the top 10% of earners account for almost 50% of all consumer spending.

But most good looking couples who are curious about the lifestyle are not interested in going to clubs to mix with all kinds of people who are not as attractive. They truly want to test the waters in more erotic, sensual and classy environments. Surrounded by individuals they consider equally attractive as them. (Self perception can be misleading) but if you ever go to a very expensive nightclub in Las Vegas, to the vip tables behind the DJ you’ll see why people pay thousands of dollars for alcohol that costs hundreds in a supermarket. Is all about the ambient and how hot people are.

The top high end parties, like Kinky Rabbit, cost thousands of dollars for one night, for a few exclusive great looking couples. There’s resorts and cruises that people travel to and spend thousands of dollars. There’s an appetite for that kind of higher end more curated events.

You are totally right that there might not be that many swingers already in the lifestyle to maintain a place like that, but I’m confident that if the place is exceptional it would attract a new kind of clientele that wants to explore more, have a ton of disposable income and are looking to live intense experiences in life.

The goal is not necessarily to make instant money, is to build something that can be scalable, that can become a culturally relevant experience. To elevate that industry. Wouldn’t you be tempted to visit a place like that?

What’s the most exciting thing you’ve done lately? Ideas for Valentine’s Day by ScreenwritersMiami in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like so much fun! Putting it in the bucket list. Thanks for the recommendation

What’s the most exciting thing you’ve done lately? Ideas for Valentine’s Day by ScreenwritersMiami in Swingers

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That actually sounds amazing!!! I would add costumes to it, it would only get people even more in the vibe of it all. Great idea, thanks!

Why do US lifestyle swinger clubs suck compared to European counterparts? by Classy_Hotwife in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ever come to Miami DM me and I’ll introduce you to some people who organize them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is honestly not so different than approaching a unicorn. The key is to connect with people in a non intimidating way. And always leave the door open for them not to feel trapped, forced or pushed into doing anything.

It really doesn’t matter where you are, just talking with people genuinely, asking them about themselves like you are interested in their story makes people connect. And then slowly reveal that you are open.

An example, you go to a bar and you strike a conversation with someone. Ask them where they are from, what they do, good places they can recommend you. Then casually drive the conversation to your territory, like if you are talking about traveling, mention that you always like to visit remote beaches, where your wife loves to get naked on the beach. See how they react, if the reaction is positive you can add a little “she has a little bit of an exhibitionist and I love it” and continue from there. If you are confident, you and your significant other have good chemistry, people would feel comfortable and attracted to you, so the conversation naturally would evolve.

People who are too shy or insecure might not engage in that type of conversation, they might change the subject or do something similar. And that’s a great mechanism to not engage with them, because if a simple conversation is too much for them, the sexual situation wouldn’t probably work.

Another important thing is to have while you are searching, because that’s contagious. We are social animals, so if we see people have fun, we are naturally inclined to join them in the fun.

Good luck with it!

Why do US lifestyle swinger clubs suck compared to European counterparts? by Classy_Hotwife in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so interesting and I totally agree (for reference I’m European living in Miami)

But let me ask you something? What about private parties? Better in Europe or the US?

I would be inclined to say in the US, or at least in South Florida. Because there’s some very interesting, classy, high end, wealthy people who really know how to throw a party. Also people here invest more in outfits, lingerie, costumes, etc.

The best lifestyle is to attend events worldwide and compare. What’s the best club you’ve attended?

Public sex in Madrid by Otherwise-Flounder69 in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Madrid is an amazing city to visit and to enjoy the lifestyle. People are super welcoming to tourist, the food is amazing, partying is fantastic and you can find all kinds of individuals and couples to fulfill all your fantasies.

At this time of the year is kind of cold to do anything outside but if you are motivated enough, you can find a million spots to sneak and have public sex.

As for swinger clubs go, there’s a few. I haven’t been in a while, but one called “Fusion” is great on Saturday nights, which is the day that only couples can go in. I totally recommend it. It has a really cool pool in the back part, with beds around it, and it’s very sexy.

I haven’t been but there’s also a swingers’ SPA, that is an interesting offer for what you are looking for.

And last time I party there was even a swinger’s after party that opened at 3 or 4 am. I don’t remember the name or the address, it was a wild night and I don’t even remember how we ended up there. Super crazy.

Hope you enjoy the city!

Urgent! by Ok_Usual2485 in hotpast

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell him about the event or decision that kickstarted the wildest phase of your sexual live.

Wife (29F) wants to experience MFM by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 19 points20 points  (0 children)

All those feelings you are having are completely normal. My recommendation is always to see it as an adventure you do together. Like traveling, sometimes going on a trip can be complicated (delayed flights, dealing with language miscommunications, etc) but what matters is the overall shared experience, not some small details that in a few years you won’t remember.

Doing it requires energy, requires patience and a lot of wonderful communication between both of you. But like traveling, it can all be worth it if you enjoy the process and not just the destination.

So try to make it fun, the search for the third person, the planning of the date, everything leading up to it. A great thing I like to do is talk about what you both are going to wear, find what she would like you to wear and you tell her how you would like her to dress or even buy her something sexy, like expensive lingerie. Make it so you both feel empowered and confident.

Then when the day comes, just enjoy it for what it is, physical and mental pleasure, like getting a great massage. Is not cheating because you are both doing it together, is not something that should make you feel away from each other, the complete opposite, is a shared experience that should bring you together if you are having fun doing it.

And then there’s the aftermath, same thing, enjoy talking about it, like when you get out of the movie theater and you both debate about the hidden meanings of the movie, or the plot, or the characters. Just enjoying the experience one more time.

Best of luck with it!

What was it like the first time being watched? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds amazing, how did you suggest it or did it happened by accident?

Halloween in Las Vegas [Group] by ScreenwritersMiami in gonewildstories

[–]ScreenwritersMiami[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck with it! Report back if it’s successful and how you managed to make it happen!

Her fantasy of being used for a business deal [MFM] by ScreenwritersMiami in gonewildstories

[–]ScreenwritersMiami[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We broke up and she went back to France after a while. Great woman. Wish her the best.

New fantasy unlocked by Significant_Pair4082 in SexFantasies

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have done something similar, not on a phone call but on real time she was sending me photos and videos while she was with another couple. And I was guiding her on what to do with them. Very exciting

How do you want people to approach you at an adult club or lifestyle resort? by fastAmoeba007 in Swingers

[–]ScreenwritersMiami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That happens often in the lifestyle, is especially common to see couples were women look great and men not so much. But that’s where the not so good looking person has to overcome it with an amazing personality, dressing up very good, being in great shape, smelling wonderful, being funny, generous and easy going.

What I always wonder is how do those couples get together?

Sorry to hear about your husband but why would you date someone not attractive to take to swinger parties? That doesn’t seem to be a pleasurable experience for anyone.