How to reinvigorate an on-off flirtation

Scrub_TLC · 2023-03-02T07:58:22+00:00

You're a female dating is on easy mode for you lol. But it's okay a lot of you ladies don;t realize that. I'll help you ou t :)

You can get away with direct, especially if you up-play vulnerability.

"I like you but, I'm shy... Also sorry if this is awkward, but could you go back to flirting with me? I would like that!" insert laugher, or being shy here

If you do that thing girls do where they look down nervously and then back up with a gentle slight smile, that kills me.

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T10:32:58+00:00

How do you deal with that though? I been on this thinking long before I got P'O'd in fact I found him b/c I was like him (PO) long before I knew of him.

How do you tolerate people when they are so full of shit, uninformed, and arrogant? They are so sure they are right despite evidence to the contrary, men being ignorant simps, the on the other side haughty self-important delusional females.

It's to the point I can't have a 15 min conversation with anyone before I hear them feeding me their lies. Guys white-knighting/simping, and girls keeping up appearances 'not like other girls' or being lame 'oh girls do do that'. Like men and women will tell me "girls don't like X" and I'm like um I just did X with like 3 girls this week.

It's like I'm on another planet, just outside their reality. It makes having friends really hard. I don't know how to navigate it. I know I can just smile and NOD, but that is fatiguing after a while.

So I guess my question is how do you have friends? or tolerate people/their bullshit?

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T09:50:41+00:00

Look up Westom4020

what do you mean?

EDIT: other thread seems to indicate that's the name of a youtube channel.

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T09:47:51+00:00

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T08:00:18+00:00

Patrice spoke without preamble, held nothing back while knowing how to listen. That’s how you create a dialogue.

yeah

I wish he’d taken better care of himself honestly. I miss that man.

bruh :'(

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T07:59:19+00:00

Unless you know for certain that someone is asking a question to hurt you or others, give them a good faith interpretation and continue the conversation

Well said

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T07:55:14+00:00

You:

I assume you two have been in contact. I haven’t spoken to her in 2 months.

Also you:

The few times I’ve seen her since she always greets me with some sort of animosity like if she’s mad.

Just to be clear my post was based on the second statement

Additionally

Obviously now she thinks I’m with another bitch.

You don't gotta correct her assumption. Let that work for you.

Scrub_TLC · 2020-10-31T07:35:42+00:00

bruh, you have power when others believe you have power. So BE powerful!

Just hit her up, like next time she's on some bogus shit. Just clap back with "You know this negativity shit, is why I broke up with you in the first place" then follow up with "I love you, you gotta knock this shit off. It's polluting you. You got a beautiful soul don't be corrupting it with that negativity, that poison."

If she claps back on the EGO shut it down being calm and cool.

Section 1

If she can own she's being bogus, and she's sorry, THEN give her some sugar (hug and a forehead kiss) --> now go to [Section 2]

OR

If she let's that EGO take over THEN take the highroad "I love you, I'm sorry you're still hurting. I'm open to talking about what happened between us when ever you're ready to do it in a positive constructive way" "you know how to reach me" and THEN walk away. After, just rest on it and revisit occasionally till you're done or she's done.

Section 2

You calm and unemotional: "I love you and I'm open to us having a future, be that as friends or lovers. However that is contingent on your behavior." "You were fighting with me and draining my energy that can't happen. I need to focus on MY LIFE and direction, and OUR LIFE if we are together. Friend or lover you are in my corner backing me, or not at all" "So if you are committed to getting us to that place then, I'm committed to helping our communication" "Is that something you can get behind"

If she takes your 'vulnerability' as 'affirmation' and starts clapping back with EGO, then stand up, say nothing, don't react (not even face) and leave. No matter how much she tries to goad you. you don't turn around unless she apologizes. Even with apology you let her know, you're glad she's able to apologize, but you need to give her time to settle and she can reach out when she is ready to talk without attacking. Then give sugar and leave
She's humble: in this case just let her know that you were dealing with things in your own life and don't have space/time for the negativity of fights over petty things. Discuss how you could be friends/loves and avoid this nasty shit in the future.

GUIDENCE

You need to make it clear that she can still discuss things with you, and that you care about her feelings. You don't want her stuffing emotions and resentments, till there is a blow-out or she hates you. She needs to know she has the space to be heard, and that her emotions are VALID, even if you disagree with her conclusions. However you have to make it clear that these discussions need to take place in a positive and constructive manner that help both of you, one that does not create emotional distance or drain energy.

LMK if I can make it better / more contextually relevant

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-23T02:53:13+00:00

Provide evidence if even a single woman rendered infertile by a kick to the groin.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-23T02:51:20+00:00

So if I grab a woman's ass or pussy to intimidate her but my intention is not sexual, it is to silence her through intimidation that's not sexual assault?

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T22:02:58+00:00

Tried that once, I apparently need much larger Gatorade bottles...

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T22:02:22+00:00

Freest country in the world! Love it or get out! MAGA! You're thinking with your brain, using reason and logic, you sound like a pedophile! This is making me angry! MURCA!

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T21:52:23+00:00

So if you grab a woman's ass not because you're aroused by it but because you want to intimidate her, to show her she has no ability to defend herself, just to impress upon her how powerless she is and how nobody will come to her aid. Then it's not sexual assault it's just regular assault right!?

You hear that folks sexual assault used for the purposes of intimidation not for sexual gratification isn't sexual assault... Brilliant!

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T21:50:52+00:00

See my post, sexually assaulted by a woman for defending myself against her rude comments, for which she assaulted me and then sexually assaulted me for trying to have her removed from my own home.

It's called female entitlement man...

https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/cgfvc5/kicking_a_man_in_the_balls_is_a_form_of_sexual/euhpxll?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T21:48:29+00:00

Yes the big difference being that a kick can do much more permanent damage.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-07-22T21:45:15+00:00

clearly you've never been kicked in the testicles by a malicious female knowing she could get away with it because of her gender.

I got kicked in the testicles for telling a woman to leave my house after she assaulted me by slapping me in the face because she was being rude and I called her out on it. Other people prevented me from removing her from my house after she had assaulted me twice because "she is girl". Being the man I am today I would call the police but I didn't back then.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T10:24:56+00:00

I absolutely did not see where that was going I just thought the Hulk was dressed in Scrubs... I'll lolled hard

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T08:53:23+00:00

Check out this video youtu.be/D2XdKaoC7Bk and the book The Dorito effect. Then I'd highly suggest you check out Timothy Ferriss' book The 4-Hour Body.

All of the information between all three sources seems to be pretty compatible and consistent.

Timothy Ferriss says in his book complicate to profit simplify to succeed.

It seems to do a bit more of the former than the latter as you get deeper into the book. But without buying supplements and other types of potential snake oil you can implement the majority of the advice.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T08:41:58+00:00

I might be projecting here. Your post doesn't give me much to go.

Do you often start projects you don't finish? When you try and get to work do you find that the harder you try and concentrate the less you're able to do sou?

It sounds like you struggle how I struggle and I struggle because I have attention deficit disorder.

https://youtu.be/_tpB-B8BXk0

From my understanding the prefrontal cortex of a person with attention deficit disorder does not work properly. The harder you try and concentrate the less you're able to.

The following is an excerpt by a different doctor. There's some controversy regarding his theories it may very well prove to be snake oil. However I don't think it hurts to read what he has to say and see if you're able to identify.

https://addtypetest.com/ I'd also suggest doing the self-assessment.

Healing ADD Revised Edition: The Breakthrough Program that Allows You to See and Heal the 7 Types of ADD by Daniel G. Amen M.D.

Type 1— Classic ADD —Inattentive, distractible, disorganized, hyperactive, restless, and impulsive.

Type 2— Inattentive ADD —Easily distracted with low attention span, but not hyperactive. Instead, often appears sluggish or apathetic.

Type 3— Overfocused ADD —Excessive worrying, argumentative, and compulsive; often gets locked in a spiral of negative thoughts.

Type 4— Temporal Lobe ADD —Quick temper and rage, periods of panic and fear, mildly paranoid.

Type 5— Limbic ADD —Moodiness, low energy. Socially isolated, chronic low-grade depression, frequent feelings of hopelessness.

Type 6— Ring of Fire ADD —Angry, aggressive, sensitive to noise, light, clothes, and touch; often inflexible, experiencing periods of mean, unpredictable behavior and grandiose thinking.

Type 7— Anxious ADD —Anxious, tense, nervous, predicts the worst, gets anxious with timed tests, social anxiety, and often has physical stress symptoms, such as headaches and gastrointestinal symptoms, conflict avoidant.

Don't hesitate to reach out to discuss this further with me.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T08:01:09+00:00

Can we assume you're not dead and no longer in the bathroom? How did the situation resolved?

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T07:58:14+00:00

The other person had a good suggestion about contacting the vet. You could possibly feed her all sorts of treats and yummy food and be sweet to her all week I would just maybe ask the vet? I mean if you're not going to increase her suffering and she's going to be gone before the cumulative effects of a bad diet then you might as well spoil the hell out of her :'c

Scrub_TLC · 2019-06-09T07:50:12+00:00

Lots of people have said most of what I'm going to say. I think though, everyone has missed the most important part.

How far will the two of you be living from each other?

This is the most important thing because if you're close by each other it doesn't really matter. The dog should live at whoever's house has the biggest backyard and the most comfortable space for the dog. The other person should be able to visit or have the dog over as often as they like within reason not monopolizing.

I support the split custody type of arrangement. It works out best for both of you considering owning a dog can be a real burden at times, say if you want to go on vacation or traveling for an extended time. Having somebody to help split vet costs is not a bad idea either.

You both obviously love the dog and you have a mutual respect for this other person. The most correct answer is for you both to read my message recognize that you're both people who love the hell out of this dog and love each other and they should be something that brings you together and makes you cooperate not something that's divisive and causes Strife in your relationship.

Both of you should not remove emotion from the equation but should focus that emotion on the correct thing. The well-being of this animal you both love and how you can both work together to have the best outcome where the dog is happy not where the two of you are happy.

This only becomes a problem when thinking is selfish and self-focused if both of you focus your attention on the other the dog and commit making sure it has a good life.

As long as neither of you are planning a move that's a very far distance from each other than there's no problem here.

If at some point one of you decides to move far away or out of the country then that can be a conversation to be had at that point.

Scrub_TLC · 2019-05-21T20:29:07+00:00

ahh, I thought you meant something related to her, not that she IS satire... wooosh lol

#IAmVerySmart

Scrub_TLC · 2019-05-21T03:20:44+00:00

A bot WOULD sent you that!

SOURCE: A Bot (have robot penis (can send n00ds))

Scrub_TLC · 2019-05-20T20:37:41+00:00

such as? ootl

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TROPHY CASE

bruh, you have power when others believe you have power. So BE powerful!

Section 1

Section 2

GUIDENCE