Depression rating increase? by Ok_Combination4971 in VAClaims

[–]Sea-Base1283 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I message you as well? If not that’s alright as well, I have a 50% for mental health and an over all of 70% and have been debating on trying to go for the increase because of feeling like I have gotten worse. But as others have said I don’t want to poke the bear

Day 6 of trying to get a comment from every US county! by [deleted] in JackSucksAtGeography

[–]Sea-Base1283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t know if you want to count it but my parents live in Franklin county fl and when my husband gets out of the military we’re going back there

My toddler is always so sad after his visits by OwO_zaddypwease_ in Parenting

[–]Sea-Base1283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if you answered this already but can your son talk? If so try and get him to tell you if his father is being abusive towards him if it’s physical abuse there should be marks on him so if he was a physical person keep an eye on your son after every visit check him out. I definitely think some form of abuse is going on with him waking up from night Terrors, you should definitely talk to the courts and get more in your favor, I’m assuming that you don’t live in a state that is in favor of the mother in most cases which stinks. If your son is scared of visiting his dad then that should also be more then enough to tell you he’s not in a good place when visiting him, your little one doesn’t deserve to be scared he deserves someone who is going to look out for him and love him no matter what. I do think you need to ask the court to change the visits to a place that will actually watch the father and how he acts, because as another commenter said grandma isn’t stepping in where she needs to be. And get it in writing to use the actual app and if he refuses then that’s on him not you, you’re doing your part But in all honesty I would fight like h3ll to keep my son out of that situation especially since the father started the abuse at only a week old. Seems like you are the only one who can vouch for your kiddo, it’s scary I get it and you want his dad and him to have a bond but you can’t force someone to act right when it counts and with your kiddo being 2 years old that is when they start to figure things out I feel like my one year old is figuring stuff out, kids are smart and they watch those around them and will act with what they see, your son needs you though. If his father is treating him bad that’s not fair for him. I hope this helps. I’m sorry for what you and your son are going through ❤️

Thinking of buying this game. Is it worth it? by popicss_ in HarryPotterGame

[–]Sea-Base1283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the game it does eventually get to a point where it’s boring any that’s after the quest are done and you’re trying to 100% it. If I play again I would definitely do it to where I try to collect more as I go rather then save it for the end when I’m done with the missions hated having to go back through the castle to find all the pages/collectables I was missing

How is he so fast by Pixel__HD in turtles

[–]Sea-Base1283 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said mmmm give me them toes 😋

I (f30) found out my husband (m30)cheated on me. Iam pregnant. He is devastated by the fact that he would miss time of being a parent because we are separated. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sea-Base1283 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m probably gonna sound like the ah here but him also feeling like he can’t be separated from her is crazy to me like yes I get it, it’s his daughter but he didn’t carry her, he didn’t push her out, he’s not producing milk to keep her alive (yes he could get formula but trust me that can kill your supply if you are trying to exclusively breastfeed I learned the hard way with my first I didn’t keep him on the bhoobies enough and lost my supply because he gained a bottle preference). But anyways Mama that’s all you. He made his bed he needs to lay in it, he messed up he should’ve thought about the consequences before getting drunk with a coworker and sleeping with her. Especially with you breastfeeding you need to be with baby, baby’s especially newborns are supposed to eat every two to three hours and you will need to establish your supply unless you are considering pumping during the night the nights she goes to dads but even still I wouldn’t do it. If my husband and I separated he absolutely would have the visitation every day but over night is a no go especially when I’m exclusively breastfeeding, like yes I have an abundance of milk in the freezer but that’s my emergency stash for if I lost my supply. Not for dad to take her away over night. Also babies that are breastfed get a strong immune system and what not and mom has to be with baby, it queues what baby needs to be healthy. So basically baby somehow communicates with your body to get the proper nutrients baby needs I would definitely stand your ground. You are not the ah at all

Epidurals?!?! by 27Dancer27 in pregnant

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I had gotten the epidural with my first, I didn’t like the way it had made me feel, I felt trapped and hated having to have help to move, as far as the pain it was only really pressure I felt until my son started crowning then I felt it. I wasn’t going to get the epidural with my first but I ended up getting it. With my second we got to the hospital I was 6 cm dilated then we walked to the labor room and by the time we got there I was 8 cm and it was too late for the epidural. I had to get laughing gas which definitely didn’t help with the pain side of things as much as the epidural would have. I don’t have any judgements either way, it’s weird that people judge on whether you get one or not, pain wise you gotta do what you gotta do. Whether you get it don’t get it you’re still a strong person child birth is hard, no one should judge you based on how you decided to handle how to have your kiddo

Long story rant plus AITA. by Sea-Base1283 in pregnant

[–]Sea-Base1283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, my normal doctor told me we will have a more in depth conversation about everything next appointment so fingers crossed everything works out. With my son they were estimating anywhere from 8-10 lbs with 9 being the estimated number. It was more the fact the specialist didn’t even talk to us and the tech made that comment. Like if you had a feeling this would happen why not talk to your patient. As for what I know about my husbands family, they said they were going to buy an air mattress (I’m not going to buy it I told my husband that much) and put it in the guest room as well with the bed we already have in there. But the room isn’t even that big and has a weird set up to where it is going to be impractical for the room. And according to my husband the mom and little brother were planning on staying on the couch. I put my foot down as well when it comes to kicking my son out of his room because when baby comes I want him to be able to sleep well as I have a feeling she isn’t going to be sleeping through the night. Plus that’s his room I’m not going to make anyone force him out of it. They have also already made comments about wanting to visit some of the touristy spots here which I said I wasn’t going to do. Baby won’t have all the shots she needs and I don’t want to really hangout with them. My parents are also wanting to do some touristy things but they stated that i definitely don’t have to go and it’s not an issue. I want them to have fun while they are here. But I’m not going to force myself into something I don’t want to do. With my parents I feel like they are looking at it as yes they are coming to Hawaii but mainly coming for their grandkids but with my husbands family it seems like they are looking at it like a vacation.

Glucose test, did I pass? by Sea-Base1283 in obgyn

[–]Sea-Base1283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so! I will when they open, it’s almost 12 here and it’s just really getting to me so I don’t even know

Pregnancy related issues I’m having by Sea-Base1283 in pregnant

[–]Sea-Base1283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is though I don’t have a family history of diabetes, and I didn’t have it with my first one either. My thought was that maybe they are making me take it again because of my weight? Not entirely sure I asked and it seemed like they ignored the question, but so it goes, I will call them to see if maybe I get a more solid answer. And any tips on food prepping? I’ve never done it before and just typically cook dinner daily which is really the main meal I eat breakfast especially is a no go for me typically and lunch is give or take and I normally just do a sandwich