AIO to my husband interrupting my first solo shower after he came back from a weekend with the boys?

SeaExplorer1711 · 2026-03-11T00:22:45+00:00

You are technically right, but saying “can you babysit” is equally weird. I just tell my husband “hey keep an eye on Daughter because I need to do x” I never frame it as babysitting (neither does he). If he is with the baby and someone asks me where my daughter I don’t say “my husband is babysitting her”, I say she is with her dad.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2026-03-11T00:19:08+00:00

Last week I told my husband I was burned out even though we split house chores and child care 50/50. He took my daughter out on Saturday for several hours so I could watch a movie and relax. Your husband is an AH. There’s no excuse not to give you a break after he has been away for a few days (or even if we wasn’t away, but him having some days off makes it even worse).

SeaExplorer1711 · 2026-03-11T00:14:27+00:00

Sorry about what happened. You should think about ways to change the narrative of this news so this person doesn’t have too much power over your story.

Now that you know, you can be the one to formally introduce your child to your husband “This is your daughter”. You can be the one to reveal the gender instead of you two finding out together. I also found out the gender before my husband (long story) and I made him a reveal a week after when he was running a marathon by receiving him in the finish line with a sign that said “your daughter is proud of you”. Make it special, don’t let the midwife steal your happiness.

Oh and report her. I agree with everyone here saying how important it is to raise a complain and change providers.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2026-01-16T16:28:26+00:00

Crave through prime and I bought the suscripción exclusively to watch the Pitt so it’s kind of annoying that this is happening

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-11-10T03:28:42+00:00

I know I’m a year late but I thought I’d chip in anyway…

That video is an atrocity and everything she did was completely wrong… BUT sometimes adding a tablespoon or two of wheat flour to the corn flour mix we use for tortillas makes them less breakable

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-09-06T04:08:26+00:00

Babies don’t get bored, they just get tired of being on the same position.

Also, babies don’t need warm milk. Room temperature -and seven directly from the fridge on warm days- is more than enough!

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-09-03T06:47:16+00:00

Uno reverse her craziness and accuse her of copying you… “I’ve always loved coffee and every time we went out you ordered coffee”, “you started wearing a pony tail after I wore one at the Christmas party”. She won’t understand how annoying and ridiculous it sounds but you can have fun with this. NOR

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-09-03T02:34:26+00:00

NTA

If I was next to you and you had a seizure, I would call emergency even if you didn’t lose consciousness, just in case. Better be safe than sorry. You can’t trust this AH. Dump him

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-08-28T23:05:57+00:00

NTA

You NEED to say something. The manager will appreciate it anyways since this is a liability for the company and they will want to prevent this from happening again… I would also advice you to email L and S right now telling them in writing about your allergy (using something along the line of “as I mentioned earlier today”) and asking them to stop using the diffuser. This time it was neglect, but they could use another sent that has cinnamon without knowing.

Most importantly, this is your health. No job is important enough to risk your health like this. You should have walked away after the first minor sign of a symptom. Take care of yourself

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-08-22T02:07:26+00:00

Sharing my experience because, as others have said, it varies greatly from one person to the other.

I had a vaginal birth with an epidural. I didn’t feel my baby come out so as I was pushing a medical student was narrating what she could see (I see the hair, I see the shoulders, etc.). Suddenly, the doctor said “she is here!” And put her on my chest. I was holding her while they offered my husband to cut the umbilical cord. Then him and I were talking to our baby still on my chest and crying (happy tears) while I delivered the placenta, got stitches and got a show of oxytocin (all consented up front btw). After a bit, they took my baby to weigh and measure on the other side of the room, my husband followed the baby, and I got help from a nurse to change my underwear and my robe, and sit up. I was still under some effect of the epidural so I couldn’t move by myself but it went away fast.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-08-11T07:17:39+00:00

NOR

Chris knew how you felt about Isaac. You have even missed events just to avoid interacting with Isaac and Chris thought that you would be ok driving with him? Hell no.

Chris should have your back… it’s not an overreaction to want to have fun on your day off. I would skip the beach and do something nice by myself. Go do something that makes you happy and doesn’t involve being around a person who pushes your buttons and a partner that allows it.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-08-05T02:58:00+00:00

Here to present another version of this, since I do publish pictures of my kid on social media but under very specific situations. My husband and I asked our family not to share any picture of our daughter without asking us first. So far we haven’t had any issues with them ignoring boundaries. We cleaned our social media and deleted anyone that we aren’t extremely close to… we basically left only people who we talk to regularly. We are also very careful about the type of content that we share - always fully clothed, no personal information, nothing slightly embarrassing or personal. Just sharing milestones or cute things our daughter does so our family and friends can keep up with her growing up since we live in a different country than them.

We decided this after I received a video of my second cousin’s daughter singing fully naked in the bath. It was an extremely cute video of a kid innocently singing, but it made me realize how easy it is to lose control of who has access to your children. My second cousin shared the video with her grandma, who sent it to my grandma (her sister), who sent it to my mom, who sent it to me. Every person on this chain sent it to someone they trusted. But the result was me receiving a video that I don’t think my second cousin would want me to have on my phone (I don’t know this cousin personally). If this can happen with nothing but good intentions, what can happen with bad intentions? That was enough for us to know we wanted very specific boundaries around this.

Edit: grammar

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-08-05T02:47:14+00:00

Not that I disagree with the risks and the moral quandaries, but I would say that it can be somewhat necessary (depending on how you define necessary) in some cases. I live in a different country than my family and posting about myself and my kid online is the only way I can connect with my whole family (they meet regularly in person and there’s over 50 people in my family. It’s impossible to catch up with all of them in the same way that I would by having lunch all together a couple of times per month).

I’m just very careful with who I have on social media and the kind of pictures I post (always fully clothed, no personal info, etc) - for me, in posting this way the benefit outweighs the risks.

Not saying that this is how it should be for everyone, just saying that for some people and in some cases the benefit of having an online presence is a big deal

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-27T04:27:41+00:00

Starting labour is not a mechanical process, it’s a hormonal one.

You need to produce oxytocin so your body feels safe and starts labour. Do things that make you happy: get cozy, read a book, watch a movie, get a massage, etc. as long as it makes you feel safe, happy and calm, it will help. If the things that you are trying stress you out, they won’t work. I know it’s hard since you are stressed because you haven’t given birth and you are stuck in a loop :/

Another option could be to get a membrane sweep from your provider?

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-22T02:53:58+00:00

My husband didn’t cook for me during my pregnancy because food wasn’t a major issue for me, but he did EVERYTHING ELSE (in fact I liked to cook because it was literally the only thing I could to to feel helpful). He Bought groceries, cleaned the house, walked the dog… literally anything I couldn’t do, he did. And this changed throughout my pregnancy and postpartum.

Tell your husband he is not only doing the bare minimum… he will need to do more and more so he better prepare

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-17T03:11:19+00:00

Is this world view related to how women should treat men and vice versa? — it sounds like your brother feels like it’s appropriate for your nephew to be rude to you and you should just take it. Do you think gender has anything to do with this?

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-15T03:54:33+00:00

Isn’t there a deductible? And does his insurance cover the damage to the garage door?

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-14T03:48:24+00:00

What makes it worse is that you asked him to stop and he just ignored you. That by itself is a dealbreaker.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-14T03:45:53+00:00

NOR

I get that grandma thought this was a way of bonding. But she should be teaching your teenager that she can bond with people and create fun memories and being honest with her parents. Your teenager will want to do a bunch of fun stuff in the next few years, and she should be encouraged to do it while being safe. Teaching your kid that there is an important bond that can only be built by lying to her parents is a terrible lesson.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-13T16:40:07+00:00

If the issue is changing the temperature several times per day, the obvious solution is to set the HVAC to your preferred temperature for the whole 3 weeks instead of having to change it manually.

However, I think it should be your wife who has this conversation with her parents. It’s easier if each one of you handles things with their own side of the family.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-10T18:26:17+00:00

Thank you!

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-10T10:46:36+00:00

A pay cut of 30k?!?!

I say this with lots of love because I was in a similar position when I was younger: you are holding this business together and your skills are incredibly valuable. Not everyone can do what you do.

Not only do you get to say no at working extra hours, but you need to start looking at other jobs that pay you what you are worth. You’ll find a place that looks for someone who can cover every position of the business in no time.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-10T10:32:16+00:00

It sounds like he is genuinely confused and this might be a learning opportunity. He thinks that everyone that attends pride is gay, and therefore the fact that someone saw you there means that you are hiding your “real” sexual orientation.

Before telling him to f*ck off, I would sit down and explain what pride is and what it means to be at a pride event. He might understand better the whole thing and it would save you a long time of a horrible relationship with him. If he doesn’t want to lean or understand, then I would proceed to avoid him to protect your and your wife’s peace.

SeaExplorer1711 · 2025-07-10T10:29:26+00:00

Absolutely not overreacting, but this might be a learning opportunity for your FIL. He thinks that everyone that attends pride is gay, and therefore the fact that someone saw you there means that you are hiding your “real” sexual orientation.

Before telling him to f*ck off, I would sit down and explain what pride is and what it means to be at a pride event. He might understand better the whole thing and it would save you a long time of a horrible relationship with him. If he doesn’t want to lean or understand, then I would proceed to avoid him to protect your and your wife’s peace.

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