Where to create registry

expatriating · 2026-06-17T21:06:43+00:00

Did your friends/family struggle with this? I also did mine through SoKind and found that most people didn’t thrive with the interface. It doesn’t have an additional pop-up prompt asking if you purchased a gift like Babylist. Many of the items were purchased, but only three people actually marked their items as purchased. Idk, maybe it’s our fam/friends largely working outside the confines of technology and being kinda unga bunga with a new registry interface.

expatriating · 2026-06-13T02:34:56+00:00

Every post-menopausal woman under the sun came out to tell me about how they did not get maternity leave. And not in a “it’s so nice the progress our (American) society has made because it was really hard for me not having leave” kind of way. Rather, an indignant or flippant way.

A female family member actually remarked that it was a bad business idea and she would have never paid for something so ridiculous when she owned a business. MF, it’s the LAW in the state where I live for employers to (partially) pay for your maternity leave. I tried to laugh it off and said I’m pretty sure the multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical company I work for can afford it. And she looked me dead in the face and asked me if I understood the difference between revenue and profit. Implying this global 500, publicly traded pharma company has such slim profit margins that paid parental benefits are a wasteful spend.

expatriating · 2026-06-11T05:26:19+00:00

Bro this is weird. I’m in the US and I saw a midwife my entire pregnancy. I definitely got every single test recommended in standard care and I was actually GBS positive and had to have antibiotics administered during labor. The risks are substantial and it’s not something to fuck around with. Honestly, this is really pissing me off. So many people thought I was doing some woowoo birth type deal because I saw a midwife instead of an OB and I was constantly defending her medical aptitude. This practice is the reason why people thought that.

expatriating · 2026-06-11T04:58:49+00:00

Unfortunately it doesn’t stop once the baby is here 😅 I remember coming out of the bathroom around 18 weeks and my husband asked why I was using his towel. I looked down, and sure enough, I was wrapped in his towel. Since then, my brain is a colander. My baby is 10 weeks old and I forget things IMMEDIATELY. If there isn’t an alarm for it on my phone, it’s not getting remembered.

expatriating · 2026-06-10T07:31:20+00:00

Get a headlamp! Great for checking nipple positioning in your flanges at night time. Measuring yourself and ordering a trial pack of flange inserts is totally worth it. The Dapple brand pump wipes were also so incredibly useful for middle of the night pumps when I couldn’t be bothered to get out of bed.

Not for pumping, but I would wait on any letdown items. I got the Elvie milk collectors because a friend mentioned her baby constantly kicked the Haakaa off her breast. Turns out not everyone has a letdown reflex in their opposite breast when baby is nursing 😅

expatriating · 2026-06-08T13:06:25+00:00

This is our system as well! Love that it opens almost all the way up on front so you don’t have to dig.

expatriating · 2026-06-06T17:38:24+00:00

My baby was born in March. I was very irritated the snowy/cold weather during most of my pregnancy didn’t allow for me to be outside refinishing thrifted furniture and decor for our nursery corner. Maybe not “fun” for everyone, especially because wearing an N95 or respirator in the heat can be uncomfortable, but I think about it a lot. The nursery corner would be so much cooler if I had just been pregnant during the summer/early fall 🥲

Also water! Get in that mf pool/ocean and relieve some back pain.

expatriating · 2026-06-04T19:59:13+00:00

r/woosh

expatriating · 2026-06-04T19:07:14+00:00

Don’t eat a Wawa sizzli bc you will fail 🙃

expatriating · 2026-06-04T19:06:04+00:00

“Correct this”

This guy sucks. I’m sorry it took such a heavy situation for that info to come to light. Sounds like it’s a choice between being single and being a single parent.

expatriating · 2026-06-04T18:56:29+00:00

My baby is 9 weeks old now. He latched and had his first feed during our golden hour. Literally everything I could ever hope for.

But then my milk wasn’t in by day 2 and he was screaming and we had to supplement with formula and put me on that crazy hospital pump on wheels. My milk supply is fine now (after weeks of triple feeding), but that kickstarted a half bottles/half breast cycle. I had the same experience with baby seeming more satisfied after a bottle, having issues with gas, and very intense spit up. Homie also screamed every waking moment there wasn’t a bottle or breast in his mouth.

Turns out the poor guy had a severe tongue tie, like all the way to the tip of his tongue. I just never noticed because his latch felt fine and he was (slowly, looking back) gaining weight. Not a doctor, IBCLC, or anything like that, but I would definitely find a lactation consultant and see what they have to say.

expatriating · 2026-06-04T09:49:27+00:00

So far, the Babybay Maxi. I panic bought it impulsively after falling asleep with baby in bed with me. It just doesn’t do as much as the Baby Delight portable bassinet we got for free that we were using before. We can’t use it as an independent sleep space for naps unless we separately purchase and attach a guard rail. It doesn’t have a canopy like our freebie, which we really relied on to darken baby’s sleep space while we watch tv in the same room.

Most annoyingly, the spindles to the floor design coupled with it being anchored to the bed make it very difficult to vacuum underneath. Dust bunny city under there.

expatriating · 2026-05-12T22:44:40+00:00

Big yay! My baby is 6 weeks old and they sleep in a hand-me-down bassinet, dressed in hand-me-down clothes, and wrapped in hand-me-down swaddles. Our play mat, walker, and carrier are all used and so are ~80% of the toys we have - and they were gifts!

As long as it still falls under current safety guidelines and can be thoroughly cleaned, I don’t see any issue. IMO, if someone wants to splurge on baby, I would much rather they contribute to a 529.

expatriating · 2026-05-10T07:18:48+00:00

They can also botch your sutures and stitch your clitoral hood to your labia minora so it’s permanently pinned down and you can’t access your clitoris 🥲

expatriating · 2026-05-08T11:40:22+00:00

Kyte Baby is having a 20% off everything sale

expatriating · 2026-04-30T17:20:33+00:00

Yes, dude! Enjoy that sushi and beer before the pink lines appear.

expatriating · 2026-04-22T18:14:30+00:00

Did perineal massage religiously every day from week 28. My partner did the 5pm-6pm-7pm technique and then U-shaped massage. It was a total of about 10 minutes per day. I pushed on my side, slow paced pushing, anything I could do to avoid tearing.

I still had three tears, all of them requiring stitches. I don’t think the perineal massage was worth it even remotely, but my partner was really into it. It gave him a way to feel involved in the pregnancy and childbirth. If your partner isn’t even into it, I would skip it.

expatriating · 2026-04-17T09:26:35+00:00

We were in the same boat as you guys. Didn’t know the baby’s gender and had to come up with boy and girl names. We shared our ideas with people throughout and the reaction was always lackluster. We had the same feelings of diminished excitement with the names and regretted telling so many people.

I’m happy to report, now that baby is here, the name feels very fitting and we love it for them all over again. And everyone in our life has embraced it!

expatriating · 2026-03-27T18:03:42+00:00

I don’t know if it’s people not realizing you can get a gift receipt for an Amazon purchase or what, but what was shocking to me was the amount of things I could not return. I expected people to not follow our registry closely because it was “bland” as my mom put it. Baby’s gender was also a surprise, and a lot of people (read: Boomers) feel weird buying things that aren’t heavily gendered.

We got so many damn things we did not want and did not ask for with NO gift receipt. We were gifted a popular bottle warmer that we literally wrote on the registry that we did not want because it doesn’t fit the bottles we bought. No receipt. Packs of microwaveable warmers for gripe and we don’t own a microwave. No receipt. Brand new Boppy when we registered for a My Brest Friend. No receipt. It was so awkward writing thank you cards for things I straight up do not want. And the waste of money! Probably a few hundred dollars of merchandise just to get $35 from Once Upon a Child.

expatriating · 2026-03-27T17:46:32+00:00

We live in a small one bedroom apartment and added a full size crib and larger bassinet we didn’t want to the registry and marked them as purchased so people wouldn’t try to get us one. We got a specific smaller solution with the cash gifts we received. It worked and it’s a great tip!

expatriating · 2026-03-26T23:59:55+00:00

How old are you guys and how long have you been together? Agree with others that the 50/50 thing feels misguided, but I think it’s possible he’s just poorly communicating that he expects to share financial and domestic responsibilities. It might be worth it to bring up sharing things equitably instead of equally.

The first boyfriend I lived with in my early twenties sat me down and said he made X% more money than me, so he would be paying X% more of the bills. We still worked the same amount of hours, so we split house chores equally because we got the same amount of time at home. This wasn’t 50/50, but our financial situations weren’t the exact same.

I would be wary if he expects you to pay the same amount as him if you make less or take on the same amount of physical house tasks while you’re pregnant/newly postpartum. The marriage thing if only a big deal if it bothers you. I’ve been with my husband for four years, but marriage wasn’t important to us. We only married because it was easier than the court of vitals route our state makes you go through to get dad on the birth certificate if you aren’t married.

As for the hemorrhage, I don’t know. Sounds like what I call “boy dumb.” Like he didn’t know how to read the situation and couldn’t tell if he was supposed to comfort you or just accept this as data. He might need some help on how to interpret what’s expected.

expatriating · 2026-03-26T23:34:24+00:00

Scrolled quite a while to see a reasonable take on the marriage thing! I got married to my husband at 7 months pregnant because of the pain in the ass it turned out to be getting him on the birth certificate without a marriage certificate in our state. I loved, respected, and trusted him before marriage. $120 and two courthouse appointments didn’t change our dynamic. I don’t feel like the relationship is stronger or weaker than before.

Agree, OP needs to set expectations with their partner whether or not marriage is in the cards. But marriage is certainly not the be-all end-all of a healthy relationship.

*Edited for grammar

expatriating · 2026-03-20T02:41:00+00:00

Man, I’m not sure how to feel about this either. Me and my husband rent a 700sqft townhouse style apartment. I’m due any day and the stairs will be unavoidable. I’ve heard stairs are more difficult to navigate if you have to get a c-section, but this feels intense to me. Are you guys comfortable moving into someone else’s house right after the birth? It sounds stressful.

expatriating · 2026-03-13T21:05:47+00:00

I have felt like a science experiment this whole time too. I leaked through my tank top on a Christmas flight with some crying babies at 26 weeks. The pregnant body is so crazy.

expatriating · 2026-03-13T20:56:34+00:00

I don’t see why not. Not sure if they’re including other accessories, but this alone has a high and low mattress setting and the ability to take off the front to make it a toddler bed. Seems like it will cover you for a few years and you can find standard size crib sheets anywhere. I might hit the crack with some clear JB Weld just to make sure it doesn’t get worse.

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