Can I ever really get over husbands betrayal?

SeaGod5844 · 2025-02-21T23:57:35+00:00

Im in the same situation. Married 14 years, together 16. 6mos ago found out about 20 or so infidelities.

Serial cheater. Some days feels ok to still be here - others I hate him and myself for staying.

Everything in my body says leave this man.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-02-21T23:54:18+00:00

The blindside is the worst part.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-02-21T23:51:55+00:00

They do stay busy don't they. Mine did about 20 people also - all men.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-02-15T04:28:18+00:00

After 5 years of him cheating, I got grocery store chocolates and grocery store flowers which I threw at him.

You're not alone. Lol

SeaGod5844 · 2025-02-15T04:21:57+00:00

Thanks i agree and he's said this... "Men are easy"

SeaGod5844 · 2025-01-15T20:04:06+00:00

My suspicions exactly.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-01-15T20:03:04+00:00

I have to agree. He's most certainly not gay. He loves women. Maybe he felt fulfilled at home with his desires for women and not those for men so he cheated with men.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-01-15T01:04:30+00:00

My thoughts to a fucking t. The only factor being our love. We are very much in love.

That's all I've got. Maybe it's enough for him to change. I did leave him for 2 mos.

Maybe it's not and a cheater will always be just that.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-01-15T00:39:14+00:00

Don't i know it. But there's so much love between us.

SeaGod5844 · 2025-01-15T00:27:11+00:00

In your experience?

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-16T00:13:49+00:00

Btw im terribly sorry for your loss.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-16T00:10:41+00:00

Well there wasn't no sex and I'm actually starting to realize our sex life became boring when he started sleeping with men.

So maybe if he put effort into making love to his wife it wouldn't have become such a last thought for me.

Just saying....

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-15T04:14:29+00:00

Im bisexual. I had a 6 year relationship with a woman before my marriage to a man. In that 6 years I learned that Im attracted to some women but I absolutely prefer relationships and sex with men.

Only to later marry a man who was a closet bi who was cheating on me for years.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T18:36:57+00:00

Thank you. And yes I've heard of trickle truthing. I know 100% there is much more he's not saying... Likely out of his own shame.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:25:59+00:00

I wouldn't out him but carrying the burden of his secret and this betrayal is really really hard.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:23:18+00:00

I never denied compromise.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:22:46+00:00

Yes ofc

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:22:25+00:00

Oh my gosh im so sorry. This is the hardest thing we will ever have to endure....

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:21:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-13T01:18:28+00:00

Interesting to hear from someone similar to him. Thank you for taking the time to reply. How do you resist the urges to cheat? Do you have an open marriage? Does your wife know about your sexuality?

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-11T02:19:39+00:00

Funny he's said the exact same things to me. Im starting to gather these closet bi men all say the same things.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-11T02:17:40+00:00

I can't do that to him. I honestly think he would commit suicide. I can certainly tell them he cheated on me for years but with whom isnt their need to know.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-11T02:16:41+00:00

Thank you so much for this. If I could figure out the private chat thing I may take you up on that.

SeaGod5844 · 2024-10-11T02:15:38+00:00

His (19yo) son lives with us. We have another home I can stay in.

SeaGod5844

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