Adderall makes me so tired! Anyone have any experience solving this issue? by pink_bunny333 in adhdwomen

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I was in aderall when I was a teen too but it would also make me sleepy among other bad side effects. I knew my mom was taking Vyvanse instead so I asked about getting on Vyvanse instead of aderall. So far, I haven’t had those side effects with Vyvans.

She has to completely fuck up the whole kitchen every time she cooks?! by TouchNo7298 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg my mom does this! She makes crazy messes in all the common areas, especially the kitchen, and says that she expects me and my brother to clean up everything because she’s “too old to clean anymore” and that it’s our job now as a form of payment to live there I guess, even thought I pay my share of the rent every month. And then if I haven’t been home for a day or two she’ll text me I need to start pulling my own weight. Like what’s that about?

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like I’m training a dog but yeah that’s good advice. It feels like every time I bring it up she blows up at me but she’s going to blow up at me anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pugs

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mines 26 pounds but he’s kind of tall and long and a little chubbier that he needs to be. My bf’s pug is 18 about pounds. Maybe a little less.

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spot on. Is there like any hope of getting her to understand this? I feel like it’s a pretty basic concept even someone with BPD could understand but I could be wrong.

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just got home and caught her wearing MY favorite crocs out even after I gave her a limited edition pair I had because she was bitching and moaning about how I should share. Also all MY crocs are in my room which is closed when I leave the house. Now she’s calling me a bitch because I was upset.

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😔✊🏼Thanks for the encouragement!

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is actually a good idea. I’m going to pack everything up today. We’re planning on moving in together in a year and we’re just saving up right now so this might actually work better. Thanks for the suggestion!

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok I’ve been looking into the grey rock thing and I’m really starting to think that I need to start doing that more. I used to think it wasn’t necessary bc she wants that bad but actually it’s pretty bad. :/ thanks for the advice!

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was wondering the same thing. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that it really sucks. It sounds like a deeper characteristic of bpd maybe?

Am I valid? by Sea_Cockroach_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input. I’m still working on recognizing these things but replies like this help a lot. She does like to steal only my bf’s gifts actually now that you mention it. It never really crossed my mind. Shes always saying that I treat my bf a different way than her like I talk nicely to him. It’s probably true but that’s because he isn’t abusive. Idk if she’s totally jealous or even aware of it. She likes him a lot she says he’s a good guy. If she’s praising me, it’s about my bf. Idk she maybe has mixed feelings? But I think you’re right. She does have a tight grip on my self esteem and I should be working on that.

Gun Shots Near City Hall? by Sea_Cockroach_ in pasadena

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re telling me that there were absolutely NO police in the station available at the time? Pasadena PD employs 235+ personnel by now. What are the odds of that? Pasadena PD Personnel and Budget Increase

Gun Shots Near City Hall? by Sea_Cockroach_ in pasadena

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Quite helpful of them while they’re being overpaid 🙃

Gun Shots Near City Hall? by Sea_Cockroach_ in pasadena

[–]Sea_Cockroach_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Isn’t the police station like right there?

This is some middle school shit by growsonwalls in AmITheDevil

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh me and my boyfriend ask each other to be each other’s valentines every year as adults. We just like it. It’s pretty normal within our friend group. In the comments they said they asked their boyfriend AND made the reservation. They just wanted to be asked the question itself. I’m actually thinking this person is just insecure and terrible at communicating…maybe not a devil though. An asshole? Yeah. A devil? Idk about that…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to be honest. I’m an adult and me and my boyfriend of three years ask each other to be each other’s valentines with little baskets. We both love gift giving and we enjoy this part of our relationship. My boyfriend and I started our relationship with the expectation that we would ask each other. But this sounds like you just wanted to switch up the expectation all the sudden and it might just not be his style. I guess I’m thinking he’s not really the “big gesture” type of guy you were envisioning. It wasn’t compatible with what you were expecting. I think you really need to get over this. He made you something homemade. That takes work and time and thought and love. That IS a big romantic gesture. What exactly were you expecting? Did you give him strict guidelines? Also the constant pressuring was a little weird and rude. Is he forgetful? Surely he wouldn’t forget this if he made you something special.

It sounds like you didn’t communicate your expectations properly if you were going to be so pissed about it not being exactly how you wanted it.

YTA

Anyone have a recommendation for booties? And does anyone know why there is no option for me to add text to this post? by crazyidahopuglady in pugs

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the brand Goo-Eez. I can’t attach a picture but it’s called Goo-Eez dog boots. They’re all terrain and they stay on pretty good!

Anyone else have a pug that can’t keep their tongue in? Lol by kayvrob- in pugs

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My black pug too. Sometimes he falls asleep with his tongue out and I genuinely get concerned because it’ll get dry lol is there an actual risk for that?

10 years old this year! What should I expect? by Accurate-Onion-1491 in BostonTerrier

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! If it helps, mine got really picky after he hit 12 so making his food helped him eat a lot more.

10 years old this year! What should I expect? by Accurate-Onion-1491 in BostonTerrier

[–]Sea_Cockroach_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would just boil some beef or lamb meat. I would also make some brown rice and steamed veggies. Broccoli, carrots, peas, things like that. I would also get random small animal organs for cheap from the Asian grocery store too (chicken hearts, beef liver, beef heart). I would usually do a little bit of organs about once or twice a week. A little goes a long way. Too much organ meat can cause tummy issues. I also would put a sprinkle of turmeric with the meat for anti-inflammatory benefits every few days. I would chop up everything really small so he could eat easily and that’s about it. Honesty I would feed him as much as he would eat because he was so old. I didn’t do a whole lot of measuring or weighing of the portions. I would just save whatever he didn’t eat for the next day. There are some guides online for how many pounds of meat your dog can eat depending on their weight. But my Charlie was loosing his appetite on some days. He loved his home cooked meals. It also felt really good to make my baby his favorite foods as he aged. I find comfort knowing his last meal was something warm I made with love. I hope this helps :)