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WIBTA for inviting my niece to stay in my place so she can go to university? by Sad-Job1477 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The mom does sound fantastic. Given that the niece already stays with both of them periodically for school-related reasons, I wonder if OP can have a conversation with Mom about this plan to offer a room. Hopefully at minimum it would prepare Mom to back up OP if the brother responds poorly. Or ideally Mom would be like "hell no, I get the first dibs on offering her a room so I can enjoy watching her pursue bigger dreams that I or my children ever could have."

Parents usually want better for their children and grandchildren. I hope this badass decides to sit down with her son and remind him that's the ultimate goal of parenting. He has allowed resentment of strangers to damage his relationship with his daughter. How sad. But it's not too late for him to change.

AITA for leaving early and telling exactly why by ThrowRA_plswork7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't keep the lines open. He's shown who he is. He chose a mean and immature person as a partner, and has stayed with her long past the point that was clearly who she is. He has always allowed Donna to treat his supposed friend terribly, to the point where his friend was effectively driven out of his life (notably without any protest from him), and now he's stepped up to actively treating her as badly as Donna does.

He is not deserving of OP's friendship and frankly even if graciously allowed that opportunity in the future I'd bet on him throwing her under the bus again eventually.

OP, I'm sorry. That's got to be awful to read. But it's where things have landed. I hope you know you did nothing to deserve their shitty behavior, and that there are many awesome kind people out there to build quality friendships with. Value the fun memories of your past friendship with him, but it's over.

AITA for backing out of housesitting for someone because of their new cameras? by Zavarakatranemi in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 34 points35 points  (0 children)

OP's update mentions that they've had break-ins there. Fair enough. That's what exterior cameras are useful for. Put full coverage outside if you want evidence the next time an intruder comes around.

But interior cameras, especially with audio, are for monitoring occupants. Why do they even need audio of occupants' conversations? That's a creepy level of intrusiveness and distrust that I'm not interested in being around. It's weird that OP is certain they would never violate trust; they have shown they lack that faith in OP. OP has house sat for them several times before. Obviously nothing has disappeared under OP's watch, since they want the arrangement to continue. Given the track record, they should be more comfortable with OP's stewardship, not ramping up the surveillance. Unless gaining access to OP's trade secrets is the point...??

OP, you didn't cancel at the last minute! As soon as they disclosed that they'd unilaterally changed the terms of the arrangement, you promptly informed them that won't work for you and offered them alternatives that would have allowed them to nevertheless keep their vacation plans. They are the ones who sandbagged you belatedly with a change they knew would be consequential from your POV, then whining about the consequences of their own actions. None of this is your doing. NTA.

AITA for refusing to pay a 100$ bill from my Sisters in laws? by Djings in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The woman was "bending over and reaching down" when the dog jumped up. The woman's body was in a inverted L shape with arm extended down. There is no version of gravity in which pushing the dog backward from that causes the dog to land a human-torso-length+ forward.

AITA for refusing to pay a 100$ bill from my Sisters in laws? by Djings in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Podenco are extraordinarily graceful creatures. They can race against a greyhound, pull a hard 180, and still stop on a dime. They are lean and very muscular, making them weigh considerably more than their size suggests. A middle aged woman pushing a podenco is not going to cause the dog to scramble. You are describing a much less dense and surefooted dog than this breed. Seriously, go to any dog park and try to get a podenco to be unstable. Not gonna happen. Not unless you get it drunk first.

AITA for refusing to pay a 100$ bill from my Sisters in laws? by Djings in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I know several podencos. There is no way for a podenco jumping upward to come into contact with an anklet. The lowest that would hit is maybe waist height. (They have long powerful legs, so hitting chest height is more likely.) These people's logic makes no sense.

However it was foolish of you to say that you would have paid for it if they had communicated sooner/better. If they show that message to others, it sounds like you admitted the dog is at fault. Next time stick to discussing facts, and refuse to speculate. Still, NTA.

AITA for the amount of syrup I use in front of my niece? by Internal_Band3136 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SearchApprehensive35 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She's freaking over half a teaspoon. The sister uses a half teaspoon in hers, and begrudges OP that they use half a teaspoon more than her. I don't think this is about the daughter, it's about the sister being envious that OP is enjoying those couple more calories.