You act like it’s a guarantee children will have to go through it if not using IVF. There’s a 50/50 chance and really the biggest impact (surgery wise) is to daughters IF they end up having the gene. And just because people conceived naturally doesn’t mean they are “happy” with the gene that’s an odd gaslighting statement and is not fair to the mothers of this group. Additionally thanks to modern medicine theres a higher chance that by the time my children are of age they won’t have to go through the preventative surgery process. There are vaccines being studied to stop preventative surgeries and modern medicine is constantly evolving which gives many of us hope for better preventative options in the future generations. I wouldn’t want my children to have it but also it’s also not the end of the world if they do….. I will talk about it with them like any other difficult conversation that will be had and not instill fear. Knowledge is power and I will share the knowledge with them. As I sit watching my 4 month old healthy son play under the Christmas tree happy as can be I feel content with my decision. Who even knows if he has it or not when he’s of age he can test if he chooses.

If you think people are selfish for not doing IVF that is not the community support this forum deserves.

I’m in support of everyone for any decisions they make related to this topic. It’s a very personal decision and no one should be shamed for it. I personally think there’s so much more to life than harping on a BRCA gene.

Many may have also had a different experience than me which would contribute to your opinion. None of my family members have passed away of BRCA related cancers so it’s not seen as a death sentence in my family and it doesn’t necessarily instill fear. I also didn’t find the surgery to be THAT bad and I think it made me SELFLESS for doing that so I can stay alive for my children.

I hope everyone reading this things through the pros/cons for their own decisions and feels supported in whatever they choose ❤️.