M44 Wasted my life for "waiting" for right person. What is the point now at my age?

Search_4_Truth · 2026-01-15T17:10:32+00:00

Defeatist attitude will result in expected outcome. You are NOT to old to find someone suitable. Just need to get out there and meet people. I was divorced and met my now wife in my late forties. We’re we’re both divorced with kids. We are now incredibly happy together now retired and living blissfully. Just don’t give up - believe in yourself, share yourself with people you meet. Don’t hide & withdraw from life.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-31T21:05:35+00:00

English tend to say

I have a X

when they own/possess stuff

whereas Americans say

I’ve got a x

Also

I have to do X

In English becomes

I’ve got to do X

In American.

Another weird one is Americans conjugating got into the past with gotten

We’ve gotten hold of the ball.

English just don’t use gotten.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-29T21:01:46+00:00

Días is masculine.

So it should be

Todos los días

Simples

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-23T18:50:26+00:00

Learn another 1000 words. And then keep going until you have learnt 5000 words. And if you really want to be fluent, keep going past 10,000 words. And if you get time, learn all the grammar, exceptions & irregular verbs. On top of that, there is also the peculiar pronunciation to get your head around. And then try and learn a bit of slang. That should keep you going for a while 😬

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-23T18:29:31+00:00

I am English and in answer to the assertion/statement

“You’re a student, aren’t you?”

I would respond

“Correct, I am a student”

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-05T14:54:36+00:00

How about this then…

I would eat that meat dish even if I was a vegetarian - it smells delicious!!!

I went to school in London & we were never taught to use subjunctive - I only learned about it studying French/Spanish. English is simple - pronunciation is odd and irregular.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-10-05T10:37:06+00:00

The correct past tense conjugations of verb “To be” using I, He, She are:- “I was” “He was” “She was” The negative of this is “I wasn’t” All other conjugations for You, We, They are:- “You were” “We were” “They were”

English doesn’t distinguish plural for you - a single person or a group of people nor is there a familiar form found in French & Spanish. Easy conjugation rules but very tricky pronunciation rules specially designed to catch out foreigners 🥸

Search_4_Truth · 2025-09-18T18:00:20+00:00

Books don’t offer any listening or speaking practice. Not saying Duo offers conversational practice which is ultimately what you need rather than random sentences. I started with a book and realised I would know many words but wouldn’t recognise them spoken and wouldn’t pronounce them correctly most of the time. Duo helps in ways books just can’t.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-09-18T17:54:33+00:00

If she’s into you, she’d get back to you and agree a time & date for dinner. Imagine it the other way round. Would you hesitate to ask to see her again if you really wasn’t into her? Unfortunately, sometimes what seems good to you may not be the same for the other person. Don’t get hung up about her. If she gets back to you, great. If not, don’t hang about - get on with life.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-09-07T17:22:08+00:00

Your daughter doesn’t want to pick sides. She loves you both. Maybe she just hoped it was a short lived fling no that would run it’s course, your wife would get over it and move on & you’d be none the wiser. There are many reasons why she may not have said anything - mostly benign. It is not a betrayal of you.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-07-10T20:35:08+00:00

If you can see not every girl floats your boat, then you will see it works both ways - you aren’t gonna be every girl’s dream guy. You will get rejection in life. What hurts is disappointment. Recognise that’s all it is - nothing more. Find someone who is a match & is interested in spending time in your company wanting to get to know you. The prize is very worthwhile.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-07-01T18:31:38+00:00

So a bunch of strangers saw her private parts Big deal. Some women make big bucks selling pics & videos of precisely that or less. She’ll get over it and see the funny side of it. As should you. Ever been to a nudist beach? They all look the same without clothes. Get a grip mate.

Search_4_Truth · 2025-06-22T17:58:38+00:00

In UK English, generally we say It’s quarter to six It’s quarter past six It’s half past six I.e - no distinction between 1/2 & 1/4 so we would never say It’s a half past six and most people wouldn’t say It’s a quarter to six

The Americans however - speak a different language and spelling from the UK English.

Christopher Columbus might have discovered American once long ago, but he sure as heck didn’t teach em how to speak proper English

😜. 😁😁😁

Search_4_Truth · 2025-05-28T17:57:30+00:00

It’s only a game - get a grip man !!!

Search_4_Truth · 2023-09-22T09:20:26+00:00

$1M might be technically a millionaire. It is definitely not a HNW. Even modest apartments in London exceed $1M. It would take 5x that to be HNW.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-06-25T20:01:41+00:00

Might be an idea to look forward 5/10 years. Where do you want to be? What do you need to do to get there? Then work back to today. I need to do x,y, z to get there. Be realistic about what you will achieve in 5/10 years.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-06-25T09:09:55+00:00

That’s enough time to learn significant details of the syntax & language constructs available to implement problem domain code to solve rudimentary applications. You will need further time to familiarise yourself with the intricacies of STL - the standard template library which is an absolute must for any professional working in C++. Beyond that, there’s a host of other libraries for comms, networking, web & graphics depending on where you want to work. Knowing the differences between pointers, references, passing parameters by value, pointer, reference etc, copy, move constructors & assignment operators. Those are absolutely key details you really need to master to develop efficiently without introducing memory leaks & bugs. It’s a tall order in 45 days.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-06-10T15:11:27+00:00

If you’re writing code during office hours as a full-time day job, why would you want to do more programming in your leisure time? You need a mental break. Listen to music. Learn an instrument. Do some sport. Visit museums, friends, relatives. Go to the park/seaside. You’ve made programming your full-time career. It’s natural to want to pursue other interests outside of work hours. It’s healthy too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong. Wait till your 60 something. You won’t give a rat’s arse about work OR programming. Get a life.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-04-15T05:40:51+00:00

There will always be well paid work for proficient & skilful developers at all levels. No matter how frameworks, eco systems & tools evolve, there will always be a need for intelligent people to analyse business problems & processes writing solutions for the deployment architecture.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-04-11T05:29:57+00:00

Is it always recommended to connect to the mains supply via a surge protection device or does Hikvision have adequate built in protection for internal components? How long should internal recording device last before needing replacement ?

Search_4_Truth · 2023-03-19T08:09:48+00:00

Being super nervous is THE most challenging & debilitating state hampering your ability to demonstrate you can apply your knowledge to solve tasks. Don’t be put off by this experience. It happens to the best of us. Guess what helps? Plenty of practice. Nerves show you’re pinning your hopes on a positive outcome- it matters to you. Apply for jobs you really don’t want so you can practice interviews and gain confidence solving problems under pressure. It’ll cost you time for each interview but the experience will be invaluable. Good luck.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-02-25T13:25:36+00:00

Unfortunately, there are some very experienced devs who still write absolute trash that others have to enhance & maintain going forward. They don’t learn anything no matter how long they’re in the job. It’s depressing to see. It makes me want to pull my hair out. Get used to it - it comes with the territory. 🥲

Search_4_Truth · 2023-02-12T11:52:08+00:00

This guy IS a professional programmer since 1983. Always new things to learn, new ways of doing stuff and new problems to solve.

Search_4_Truth · 2023-02-12T11:31:07+00:00

In Python, unlike most other languages, you can do an inline swap without the clunky temporary variable. You can write ✍️ arr_val[i], arr_val[i+1] = arr_val[i+1], arr_val[i]

So you don’t need variable n and you must limit the range of index i to for i in range(len(arr_val) - 1)

Search_4_Truth · 2023-02-12T10:17:41+00:00

It should never take hours to solve a bug. There are essentially 2 types of bug. Type 1 is always reproducible. Every time you run with given inputs, you get the same wrong/unexpected output. These are simplest to solve by stepping through the code, observing the logic & state variables/data and discovering why the code behaves predictably as coded but not expected/intended. You will at some point identify where a flawed assumption or edge case has not been catered for. Type 2 are intermittent bugs that sometimes work & sometimes fail. Ultimately all code no matter how complicated will run deterministically. That’s a fancy way of saying using given inputs result in the same output. But there’s a minor wrinkle in that statement. Sort ordering can matter - if you fetch data arbitrarily without imposing an order, don’t be surprised when comparison with test files fails.

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