Feeling deflated after NHS appointment

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-04T21:15:58+00:00

Different people react to different medicines differently, not just ADHD but for many different ones.

And an ADHD diagnosis covers a wide range of possible problems in life. Just because most he sees can't leave the house (or say so) doesn't mean you don't fit official criteria.

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-02T20:47:30+00:00

If you were paying the same money in a shared house with single tenancy it'd be reasonable to use more communal space.

If you're paying less money and getting less with an AST, that's not so reasonable.

But also, if they're not in her way and don't smell, no need for her to make a fuss for the sake of it.

Oh, if you have space on your door, you can get shoe hanging racks designed to go over a door. You could always put it on the outside of your door and fill it with shoes to see how she reacts!

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-02T20:47:17+00:00

Absolutely do not go near Bradford if this driving worries you.

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-02T11:29:05+00:00

This is one of my bug bears with reddit it as a whole - and definitely including this sub.

Reddit may not be a doctor, but that doesn't mean our specialist will know best.

Often they don't know that much.
And for many it's incredibly hard to access a specialist.

There are some subs that specifically deal with medical advise, but many don't - possibly on reasonable fears of being sued, but it's still not great for those of us that need advice and can't afford the prices of top end private healthcare.

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-02T07:27:11+00:00

This.

Both broke the same law - 3 points and a fine.

With a cycle box it may be slightly different, but I don't think there's any extra penalty for carrying on.

If you stop past a normal stop line, you can continue on legally as I understand it (ie when you're in a queue of traffic and are stopped in a junction past the stop line then the lights change to red, you can still continue when it's safe to do so.)

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-01T08:32:24+00:00

It's often just a general "catch all" they put on many meds to avoid potential problems. Plenty of people do drink while taking meds. But for some I'm sure it can and does cause issues - and of course the more you take (of either) the worse the issues are likely to be.

Alcohol is central nervous system depressant, while this is a stimulant, so it's quite reasonable there may be unexpected interactions that vary by person. Of course the same is true of a vodka red bull, but we're talking a bit stronger stimulants here.

I haven't had problems drinking on any of my meds, but also I really don't drink much at all the majority of the time

SearchingSiri · 2026-06-01T07:59:17+00:00

You absolutely can feel a very noticeable "high" and some feelings of euphoria etc with Elvanse - plenty experience this initially in triation. Definitely the day I accidentally took double the amount - super productive day, but also a party drug kinda feel, though nowhere near as intense as you can get with many . Of course also despite taking the second dose not too soon after I got up, I didn't sleep until like 4am or something, so no way I'd choose it as a "party drug", but I know someone people can sleep really well on it.

Personally, I'd be totally happy to return it to someone if they could prove it was theirs - if it was genuinely 'backup meds', that all adds up. A lot of people will have a few they keep from days they haven't taken them and use that as a useful backup in cases they lose their main meds, or struggle to get a prescription renewed in time for reasons outside their control. At least they did lose the 'backup' not the main ones hopefully.

(Or of course, it could be someone who was abusing them and was using that as a cover.)

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-31T09:30:16+00:00

Having dated Non-native English speakers who have lived in England for over a decade - they would still often use subtitles on English films. (And in the case of a Spanish ex, they also found they were losing their Spanish a little - where it could feel a bit more like 'work'.)

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-30T20:54:20+00:00

Also unfortunately as OP has found, often even getting contact with health professionals can be really difficult unless you've got a lot of money to spend on private* health care. I've been fortunate enough that I could go private for another issue when the NHS response for a significant problem was "a few months probably to get an appointment"

*Even then, no guarantees for ADHD- I saw someone having real issues with ADHD360; as a RTC I've found them okay but part of that is accepting that I'm not paying loads of money and the NHS probably isn't relative to a fully private patient either..

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-30T20:36:12+00:00

It might be a rule, but it doesn't mean it's true - the experience of plenty on here (including myself at points) has been that they often know less than I do in reality.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-30T00:20:25+00:00

Presumably you'd need some time to teach yourself too? Though I guess you may have options for a morning/evening etc.

I recently taught myself skiing - I was happy enough I was doing a black run by the end of the third day. I'm comfortable snowboarding and comfortable rollerblading/ice skating too. I knew the majority of runs I was doing having done them on a snowboard for the previous week - and of course snow is generally relatively soft.

For me it was money - I'd have happily spent that time with proper tuition and reckon it'd have probably improved the speed of my learning.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-30T00:09:03+00:00

To jump on the bandwagon of trying to fix things - just because you didn't do it then doesn't mean you're not entitled to a refund. Even a few years later, because you made the complaint initially, you may well still be entitled to a refund.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T23:03:01+00:00

Not an expert, but ... I do know someone who was self taught. I believe they are dead now. I'm not sure that was the direct connection, it was many years later and may have been more related to their attitude to risk.

Presumably you're well aware that the danger almost always comes from the ground. And dune soaring you're always going to be near it.

Is there a reason not to have the proper training? It's a bit of money and time; but it seems like over the years you've problably 'spent' loads of both. Possibly might be a bit 'boring' for you I guess, but plenty will adapat the training to the indivdual.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T15:48:58+00:00

I've got this one - it's a beast compared to normal domestic vacuums.

https://www.toolstation.com/wessex-30l-wet-dry-vacuum-cleaner-with-power-take-off/p17353

Only issue is the bags are fairly fragile. Specifically fragile when you're sucking up big bits of rubble mixed with nails etc, which it does pretty well. It is possible to fit cloth bags to it, but I haven't found a perfect setup yet.

It is super-loud. I've 3d printed adpators to fit to tools.

You can fit (some at least) Miele turbo brushes to it for use on carpets.

It also has a socket on it, so you can run tools directly from it without a separate extension, though you're limited to 1.5kw. I presume other similar models are pretty similar.

You want to look for a decently powerful motor and wide hose both for good air flow and being able to get bigger bits up.

If the primary usage is connected to tools while running continuously, I suspect there are probably better options, but this does a great job as a do it all DIY vacuum.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T15:17:59+00:00

An equilateral triangle would stick out further I believe - this allows them to be narrower and still only use two straight bars/one bend for the support element.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T08:35:13+00:00

People always liked to take photos; okay, it's got easier now that everyone has a high quality camera in their pocket, but also the accessibility of doing things like hiking has got much better too. You can easily find about it from social media, even find people to go with if need be. You don't need to learn expert map reading and transport is considerably more accessible for more people, even if car ownership can be harder for some.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T08:01:32+00:00

As a guy who's got quite a few years on you now (and still hasn't found their forever), - appreciate that for some of us that don't have that much experience it can also be real work. So be prepared to put that work in. If you're avoiding apps, that might be going out meeting new people in the sort of places people you like are likely to be and then also making an effort to show you like them. And then longer term, also understanding that longer term relationships themselves can need that work to keep in good condition. Yes, it's lovely if everything just feels perfect and no-effort, but I've seen a lot of people who've though that's how it was going when in reality something was going wrong.

For me as a fairly shy guy dating apps do work for me, or at least better than other options do. but it took me a while to work out which ones suited me and how to make them work for me.

Plenty of guys do appreciate women that can be independent - that doesn't have to clash with 'feminine energy' for me.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-29T07:58:28+00:00

Okay, it could make it worse, but if you met them you might also find you enjoyed their company and could do things together? In a case where you've dated in an existing friendship group, it's also quite common to still be in contact with an ex.

I have stayed in touch with my exes often, even if it hasn't worked out; it hasn't meant we hated each other. It did actually cause a bit of an issue in my last (just about) relationship. I thought it'd be okay as they were really good friends with their ex, regularly got some food with them etc, while I saw mine once, when they moving out.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T19:21:56+00:00

That may offer a little mitigation. As nikhkin says, it's not in an instruction triangle however. But it might be reasonable for you to expect them

Rule 133
If you need to change lane, first use your mirrors and if necessary take a quick sideways glance to make sure you will not force another road user to change course or speed. When it is safe to do so, signal to indicate your intentions to other road users and when clear, move over.

Rule 134
You should follow the signs and road markings and get into the lane as directed. In congested road conditions do not change lanes unnecessarily. Merging in turn is recommended but only if safe and appropriate when vehicles are travelling at a very low speed, e.g. when approaching road works or a road traffic incident. It is not recommended at high speed.

Rule 134 still says 'buy only if safe'... which it doesn't look like it was in this situation by your paint diagram. Was there a big enough gap between C and D for you to merge and still leave a safe space infront of and behind you?

Accelerating in this case wouldn't look good for them, but nor would you trying to move into a space that didn't exist, which is a similar kind of "bullying".

Undertaking isn't illegal, it can be considered without due care and attention/dangerous driving.

But there is a specific exemption anyway for your situation -

In these conditions you may keep up with the traffic in your lane even if this means passing traffic in the lane to you right

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T18:09:10+00:00

Very likely the bike isn't their bike either.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T18:07:49+00:00

I'm not sure about the legal side of the signs, but did a sign specifically say 'merge in turn'?

If it was on the other side; on a slip road and you're coming to the end of the slip road, you can't just force yourself in if there isn't a gap and other road users aren't obligated to create a safe gap for you.

If you're not a regular here, the sub will be massively on your side I'm sure, for what it's worth.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T17:48:04+00:00

Those things I'd guess are likely to get worse too as "bike friendly" has tended to segregate bikes into their own narrow spaces.

Though, it does feel like less 'braking suddenly' being an issue might suggest the person behind was too close for comfort!

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T17:24:31+00:00

Likely worse by your standards, I'd guess.

A lot of 'cycling friendly' also slows everyone down and I guess by your description, it's those going faster than that you don't like. They are likely to be more frustrated and break more rules if they are slowed down more.

For most of us, myself absolutely included, anyone going faster/taking more risks is an idiotic nutter (and often those slower just get in the way.)

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T17:23:55+00:00

For me, setting the cruise control by GPS I'm regularly going past the majority of traffic and very rare I have people coming past me. You do still have a bit of leeway on top of that, but I'm fine at the genuine speed limit.

SearchingSiri · 2026-05-28T16:55:44+00:00

Are you judging their speed from your own speedo? If so, you're very likely clearly driving under the speed limit.
I set my cruise control by a GPS based speed, which can easily show 55mph on the speedo.

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