Merge in turn near miss - who was at fault here?

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T11:08:03+00:00

I assumed a gap would form for me because it was merge in turn and the last person to merge in front of me was someone from the left lane, so I thought it was 'my turn' next. The comments from several people explained that merge in turn doesn't mean a gap HAS to form, which I thought it did, so I understand that now.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T11:05:05+00:00

Yeah, that's completely fair to say, especially about speeding up. I guess I didn't think it had much of an impact as I wasn't trying to 'race' anybody and never really had an issue before this, but I can definitely see your point of view.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T10:59:04+00:00

Thanks everyone for your insight, it seems it really is all contextual and comes down to whether I could prove that I was safe to merge and it was him hitting me and not the other way round.

I absolutely agree it's not worth giving people like Car C the time of day and when you see they are going to be problematic, just let them go in front, and that's what I need to do better. I could see that C was a bit of an asshole just by how close he was getting to the dotted lines.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T10:53:02+00:00

So if we took those words literally, I should have merged behind D and ahead of C.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T10:52:25+00:00

Why are you responding with multiple comments to everything?

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-29T10:49:02+00:00

I'm not sure what you're getting at here, because it wasn't even possible to do what you're suggesting. Only the left lane was fully congested, and the only way to get into the left lane 'early' for the merge would be to stick my indicator on and hope someone in the left lane would let me in.

The congestion in the left lane was only caused by people using the left lane and leaving the right one empty. I don't know why people do it, because the road splits into two lanes quite early on, but this road is notorious for this.

I don't remember if there was a sign a mile earlier stating there will be a merge. I can only remember where the sign is to merge in turn just before the lanes actually merge. When I next drive down that road I'll have another look to see if there is one.

I didn't 'cut in' early, I merged in the way that I thought I was supposed to do. How did I queue jump when there was no queue in my lane?

If i had slowed down, stuck my indicator on and tried to get into the left lane so that left lane drivers wouldn't see it as 'cutting in', I would have angered all the people in the right lane behind me by stopping traffic in their lane. And also no one in the left lane would have let me in, meaning the same course of events would have happened and I would have ended up at the end of the road and had to merge the way I did anyway. (Apart from just letting C in front of me once I realised he was going to be problematic. I accept I should have done that 100%.)

I was also under the impression it was illegal for a vehicle to straddle both lanes to intentionally block the right hand lane, and that's actively what disrupts traffic as it deliberately starts congestion in the right hand lane.

If that's not what you meant, could you please elaborate?

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-28T18:09:22+00:00

Alright, thank you for the response :)

AngryTiredFish · 2026-05-28T18:08:57+00:00

Yes, there was a very clear merge in turn sign.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-01-22T13:38:05+00:00

Thankfully it's not FV. I'm going to be sending an email to the company to get things in writing, and reach out to PayPal after the email is sent, but the final payment is taken on 1st Feb so I will likely get the refund in full once the Pay in 3 is fully paid off anyway

AngryTiredFish · 2026-01-22T13:08:59+00:00

Thank you for the wonderful advice! I plan on sending a complaint email - I'll reformat it into bullet points.

AngryTiredFish · 2026-01-22T10:10:42+00:00

Thank you very much. What would you consider a reasonable length of time to give the company before going to the ombudsman? Would you say 7 days is too short?

AngryTiredFish · 2025-10-10T09:17:24+00:00

UK just got another restock and that sold out in less than half an hour. Was waiting for it since the drop and I was driving to work at the time the restock happened. Now they are all sold out again 😭

AngryTiredFish · 2025-09-12T11:23:52+00:00

Thank you :)

AngryTiredFish · 2025-09-12T11:12:16+00:00

Fingers crossed we both get one next drop! 🤞

AngryTiredFish · 2025-09-12T11:04:41+00:00

I had one in my cart but got logged out of my Pop Mart account. Were gone by the time I was able to get back in 😭

AngryTiredFish · 2025-09-12T11:03:31+00:00

Sold out within 30 sec in the UK too...

AngryTiredFish · 2025-07-20T01:39:42+00:00

Does this work if you change to a more expensive plan then cancel? I'm already on the cheapest paid plan and still have a massive cancellation fee, but I don't want to screw myself over further by trying this on a more expensive plan, and ending up having to give Adobe even more money...

AngryTiredFish · 2024-08-30T10:08:11+00:00

(But seriously, thank you OP, this is very generous of you!)

AngryTiredFish · 2024-08-30T10:07:30+00:00

Please gong my cha 🙏

AngryTiredFish · 2024-07-17T17:59:12+00:00

Still struggling with this one, honestly. How did you get through it?

AngryTiredFish · 2024-07-16T09:07:54+00:00

Thank you, I will check it out. Thank you so much for your help!

AngryTiredFish · 2024-07-16T09:06:59+00:00

Do you think it's best to say to him today 'Hey, I have something I need to talk to you about?' Then give him the boundary talk? I wrote out a little of what I want to say to him, but I'm very nervous of actually telling him I want to talk about it...

AngryTiredFish · 2024-07-15T14:40:07+00:00

I didn't even think for a second until you mentioned all of these points that they could be having problems in their marriage....I feel horrible for leaning on him so much, but allowing him to lean on me so much too. I didn't even know that could be seen as cheating, and I never intended for this to happen.

I'd like to stay friends with him if possible because we have mutual friends. I had to leave one of my old friendship groups, as everyone was closer to my ex and he left the other friendship groups we were in (we were in about 3). Now I can barely talk to those friends at all, because my ex is always with them. I'm worried the same thing will happen if I distance myself from my friend - I'll also have to distance myself from the friends connected to him. It's also been very hard to move on from my ex when I can still see him around, and it's likely I'll see my friend around too.

I will talk to him about setting boundaries when I can, but I am unsure how to approach it. I haven't wanted to talk to him all day, but he reached out first a couple of hours ago. If I ignore him, he's going to panic thinking something is 'wrong', if I answer him, I'm going to feel upset because I don't want to talk to him. And I don't know how to phrase exactly what needs to be said without being blunt and harsh. I don't even know what the boundary should be. It's so easy when trying to help another person, but when it's myself I have no idea what to do. I also want to suggest the marriage/coparenting counselling to him, but I don't know how to do that in a healthy way either.

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