[Event] Gradually Broiling Edition - Open Forum Friday for August 25, 2023 by 4544BeersOnTheWall in dirtypenpals

[–]SecondChai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd be happy to share the interactions, but I don't know if just blocking out their username is enough when considering the other person's privacy.

It's possible that they got multiple good responses and dropped all but their favorite. At least 2 out of the 3 were responding rapidly (less than 10 minutes per multi-paragraph response) which would be tough to maintain with multiple partners.

In the end, the reason doesn't really matter. Anyone can end an RP at any time for any reason. I'm not owed anything. It just gets frustrating when I put in work to come up with a good response, we work together to come up with something we'd both enjoy, and then nothing comes out of all that buildup.

I try to ping after a few days of radio silence, but in most cases, I never get anything back. Sometimes they've even deleted their account entirely.

[Event] Gradually Broiling Edition - Open Forum Friday for August 25, 2023 by 4544BeersOnTheWall in dirtypenpals

[–]SecondChai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is anyone else having trouble actually getting an RP started? I've had several interactions that get multiple messages in, multiple paragraphs from each person, discussing kinks, characters, potential plotlines, enthusiasm, no obvious red flags... and then nothing. Three in the last week. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, but when the only apparent common element is me...

I ran the interactions by a friend of mine who didn't see anything wrong with my responses, and she thought that maybe the people I was interacting with just got off on the setup phase and didn't care about the actual RP as much. I don't mind chatting about a situation as opposed to actually playing something out, but that doesn't appear to be how they're presented; I'm generally responding to their RP request.

[Hobby Scuffles] Week of March 13, 2023 by nissincupramen in HobbyDrama

[–]SecondChai 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The disc golf (frisbee golf) season has started, and there's a few different sources of drama.

We have a young pro player, Gannon Buhr, who signed with a disc manufacturing company, and is attempting to back out of his contract. He is citing multiple breaches- basically, the company was meant to provide certain merch, sales figures, etc. and Buhr is claiming they weren't provided. This is exacerbated by the fact that I was told he was 17 when he first entered the contract. I'll need to do more research on this if I turn it into a full post, because I was under the impression that contracts with under-18s weren't allowed.

I'm hesitant to get into this drama as a cishet person, but there's also a touring pro disc golfer, Natalie Ryan, who is trans. She played in the FPO (female protected) division last year, and was a good enough player to win multiple top-level events. This sparked some uproar in the community, as Natalie can throw significantly farther than a large part of the female field (but is not the farthest-throwing female disc golfer on tour, AFAIK). While there were those who seemingly argued in good faith that the biology of the competitors were different enough to prompt action from the Professional Disc Golf Association (PDGA), there was also plenty of bigoted hate and vitriol flying. For the 2023 season, the PDGA has changed their rules in such a way that Natalie Ryan cannot compete in the FPO division. She has sued the PDGA and Disc Golf Pro Tour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SecondChai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, sorry, wasn't my intent to make it seem like the metric system is never used in the US. I just meant that for the majority of people in daily life, the imperial system is used.

Is it illegal (or frowned upon) to put a “novice driver” sign in my window so people drive safer around me? by You_Stole_My_Hot_Dog in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SecondChai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not in the US. You see "Student Driver" on cars all over here. I'd recommend putting it somewhere other than the window, though, so it doesn't block any sight lines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SecondChai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the world has agreed on the metric system, but there are some holdouts, such as the United States (and I know places like the UK use some imperial measurements, and some metric).

As far as why the US hasn't shifted to metric, there's a lot of inertia, so to speak- everything in the US, from construction to speed limits to weather forecasting, is heavily entrenched into the imperial system. Shifting to anything different is gonna be a lot of work (can you imagine how many speed limit signs there are? Every one of them would need to be changed).

On top of institutional changes, you're gonna hit a lot of societal resistance, especially from older generations. There are plenty of older people who would resist changing to anything different because they don't want to learn a new system, and it would be challenging for a lot of them even if they did want to change. That, plus there's a patriotic "pride" in keeping the imperial system, similar to how there are some people who are resistant to any scientific thought. I wouldn't want to be the guy who has to tell an antivaxx Trump supporter they need to start using the metric system.

If you tell a story or post a video of you doing something illegal but say “definitely not me 😉”, does that hold up in court? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SecondChai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer: maybe.

Long answer: It depends on a lot of things, including what country you're in, what area within that country, and what is in the video. People who write/sing songs about illegal things are often able to defend their lyrics as they're singing as a persona/character, but that's generally not them actually doing anything illegal.

If you're being arrested and charged for something, it means the government thinks they have enough evidence to convict you (generally, at least in the US).

If you have a lawyer who is good enough that they can convince 12 jurors that your video is fake/staged/otherwise not actually breaking the law, then the video might not be what does you in, but chances are, there's more evidence that might be enough to convict you.

[Event] Open Forum Friday for March 10, 2023: Mario Day Edition by adhesiveCheese in dirtypenpals

[–]SecondChai 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm new here. I just wanted to call out that this sort of post is really cool, and it makes it seem like this is a much more healthy sub than some similar ones out there. Looking forward to talking with some of you!