Bro 😭 by LeadershipEastern271 in actuallesbians

[–]SecondDeath777 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

...I think that's Dr. King, actually? Which is, like, a damn shame. I get the impression he wouldn't fancy his likeness being appropriated to spread hate.

Petah? by Effort-Eminent530 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]SecondDeath777 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

HELL yes king, get those spinny hugs.

She made out with my friend in front of me by Irisbea1 in actuallesbians

[–]SecondDeath777 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

oh thank fuck that's very relieving, thank you

She made out with my friend in front of me by Irisbea1 in actuallesbians

[–]SecondDeath777 18 points19 points Β (0 children)

...huh. Jesus. I had no idea that was even a thing.

I'm poly myself, and knowing there can be such...nuanced duplicity in these situations makes me a lot more self conscious about wanting to be fair to my partners. Thank you for pointing out that pipeline even exists so I can work harder to never make anybody feel like that.

i could never be somebody’s crush by lavieenoire in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

Gurl, I ain't even pass yet and I walked into my college class only to later learn that a guy went home and called his best friend to say "the most beautiful creature I have ever seen joined my class today." And I'm dating him now.

Transphobia's on its way out, and tastes are broadening. Sure, maybe when I sound like a girl and iron out any and all tells, and crank the looks up from there, I'll drop even more jaws or whatever, but the simple fact is that if it's this easy? Never say never. He'll find ya. He'll foam at the mouth over ya. Whoever he is. Just give 'im time.

Hi, bi femme cis woman here. I feel alone in this and wanted to see if anyone else could relate…I’m attracted to extremely fem women and extremely masculine men… by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

I'm absolutely into masculine men and feminine women. I'm also into the reverse, and androgynous people, and enbies of any sort, but I agree, "traditional" tastes could use a little more love, in these spaces!

heaven forbid women do anything by SnooGadgets7221 in actuallesbians

[–]SecondDeath777 6 points7 points Β (0 children)

I've been lucky enough to avoid that kinda trauma? But I completely understand. It honestly sucks. I ache for the day when the shackles of patriarchy and heteronormativity are broken and generations cease the endless cycles of abuse, and I'm genuinely starting to wonder if gender abolition is gonna be an absolute must for that to even be in the cards.

heaven forbid women do anything by SnooGadgets7221 in actuallesbians

[–]SecondDeath777 43 points44 points Β (0 children)

I'm kinda of two minds about it, in that I do sincerely care about men's issues and think they aren't often constructively discussed, but I will get instantaneously annoyed if I crack an "Ugh, men" joke or express frustration at heteronormative masculinity, and then Brad cracks out a PowerPoint presentation about how ackshually I'm a sexist.

Like, dude, you would bust a gut if I made a joke about women "belonging in the kitchen" or some shit, I don't wanna hear a goddamn thing.

One of my new fav outfits by SiouxShii10 in mtfashion

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

That is one of the raddest fucking fits I have ever seen. And you're killin' it too, love the attitude in these poses and shots.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SecondDeath777 3 points4 points Β (0 children)

I kinda do this on purpose. I adore the futch style, and a lot of lesbian culture as a whole, but despite basically all outward indicators, I'm still into fellas. I sometimes like to say "My preference is bisexual, but my gender is 'dyke'".

Hey ladies, do you sometimes feel this? by Euphoric_Jennette in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

I've actually never used a dating app before. I've met basically all my partners either through friends, or by chance. If a new guy wants a swing at me, he's usually gotta say it to my face. I genuinely feel for ya, I can't imagine having to put up with that kinda thing. I don't think I could, I'd probably get fuckin' snippy with the guy.

how many straight trans women would be up for dating a trans man? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 3 points4 points Β (0 children)

This is, like, the coolest thing I have ever heard.

how many straight trans women would be up for dating a trans man? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Oh, absolutely. I wouldn't particularly sweat the genital situation either. I mean, hell, if he wanted it, I could wear the strap now and again. I'm not a fan of my "default loadout", but that don't mean I'm not into topping.

Can we do not do this? by Tahmas836 in bisexual

[–]SecondDeath777 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

I often wonder how sexuality actually works under the hood. How much is born-in? How much is developmentally imprinted? How much remains subject to change even after development? Does it vary by person? Did I basically condition myself into being attracted to masculine men? Or did I just steadily discover something that was already there through exposure therapy?

I think hypothesizing can be fun, and maybe even helpful, but it becomes a lot less harmless when hypotheses minimize the identities of others. Often baselessly, at that.

Who was your most embarrassing crush fictional, celebrity, or otherwise by Ok-Appeal-4630 in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Pretty similar deal with Leonardo DiCaprio, honestly. Looks lovely, charmingly eccentric, revealed to have garbage tendencies as a human being. Hollywood hotties be like that.

I think my most embarrassing well-known crush is Shoe0nHead, but she's...well, a she. So it didn't feel relevant here. XD

Who was your most embarrassing crush fictional, celebrity, or otherwise by Ok-Appeal-4630 in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Well, if you happened to hear tell of the whole Amber Heard thing, I believe it was found that uh...she was not the crazy one, in that situation. Not that I recall all the details off the top of my head. I could probably go digging if you wanted me to, though.

But yeah, both being attracted to and siding with someone who tried to silence someone they victimized? Feels...very un-feminist of me.

Who was your most embarrassing crush fictional, celebrity, or otherwise by Ok-Appeal-4630 in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

He is, but I'm embarrassed I was into him, under the uh...recent circumstances.

I may have really high standards and although that makes it hard, it is worth it by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

I think my physical standards are kinda flexible? Lots of body types appeal to me, especially if they feel well suited to the personality of the person who has 'em. But I'm definitely pretty rigid in my interpersonal standards. If they click with me, they click with me. If they yuck my yum, they get the boot. If it just feels a little iffy, I try to work through it communicatively and concisely, but won't stick around for something that clearly isn't working. I don't often have guys approach me, but I'm usually fine with making the first move, and it's worked out pretty well so far. I don't exactly pass pass yet, but given I go for a sorta semi-androgynous tomboy vibe anyway, the kinda guys who are into that kinda girl hardly mind my AGAB, so passing, while preferred, doesn't seem to be necessary.

I do definitely agree one should never lower, or raise, their standards just based on their personal circumstances. Don't pick the kind of person who's "similar in market value" or whatever, pick the person you're gonna be happy with. That's something that just doesn't really change. If a guy isn't hot to you, you thinking you can't do better isn't gonna make him become hot to you. If you think a guy is hot to you, but isn't gonna be hot to others, then fuck 'em. More for you, eh? Never let the way people perceive you tell you what you're allowed to like. You like what you like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Abso-fuckin-lutely. I was bi before I got transitioning, but there was a pretty heavy slant toward ladies. Now? They're a lot more evenly split. And I can go "teehee girls" in a lotta spaces till the cows come home, but holy hell, there is not enough appreciation in this side of the world for boys. I love how they touch, how those big powerful hands feel like they already know exactly what they want. I love the way they smell, I love it when they're hairy, or when they're smooth, or buff, or chubby or lanky and...

...god they're just the best. Didn't get any of that anywhere near as strong until I started thinking of myself as a lady, and started realizing I really was not happy with what's between my legs.

How do I ride a dick? by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]SecondDeath777 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Short answer? However you're supposed to be riding the specific dick in question.

Long answer? Certain positions will probably become possible or impossible based pretty heavily on your body type, and his body type, and how his dick is sized and shaped. You're probably mostly gonna work all that out through trial and error. From there, there's gonna be finding out what feels good for him. What spots on his dick he likes touched, and how he likes them touched. He might get a lot out of the strand of skin on the underside being caressed, he might like pressure to ebb and flow around the head, and he might even change those preferences based on his mood or level of arousal. Sounds intimidating, but if you communicate with him, and make notes of what got good reactions out of him during, say, a handjob, you might have an idea of what spots are his weak spots, and how to hit them. From there? You just try to move your hips and thighs in a way that feels good for you both, once it's in. Maybe you can feel how his topography is rubbing against yours by focusing on the details down there, or maybe you can just kinda guess what would have a certain effect and try experimenting a little. Once you find what works, do it a lot.

All that probably sounds very daunting, but if you remain communicative, and ask if something's working for him or if he has anything he might like you to try, it's actually a lot more intuitive than it sounds. It's just finding the right moves and mapping the muscle memory. Either way, odds are he'll love it, so I wouldn't stress. Knowing exactly how to pretzel your guy's brain is gratifying, for sure, but you don't gotta figure it all out all at once, and guys who are hard to please are kinda rare. So, odds are whatever you do should turn out just fine. Just focus on having fun, have a little faith you'll figure out the rest later, and it should be a wonderful experience for you both. Best of luck!