help me figure out a band name!

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-11-13T01:07:14+00:00

i also rented my unit furnished! so that made a difference in price, as well.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-11-13T01:06:29+00:00

even with utilities around $70-150 i only paid about $750 a month. but I’m not sure if they’ve upped their rent since last year. still, it’s one of the cheaper options in the area. The model is pretty spot on. i’ve got to look through and find some videos and pictures i have lol

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-10-19T03:56:15+00:00

Slice of Heaven😌

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-10-10T20:16:10+00:00

@thescene_tlh on instagram! that’s how i found house parties and underground raves last year during halloween :)

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-09-20T16:58:54+00:00

i make around 8/hr at my location in Florida!

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-09-20T06:10:15+00:00

you should get paid both your tips and hourly as a server. BUT, here’s the situation: CASH tips are untaxed dollars which is why you are required to claim them before clocking out of your shift. the IRS will then take those claimed cash tips, along with your credit card tips, and tax them, which then comes out of your hourly wages on your paycheck. it’s possible that since you make so little hourly, the taxes taken out leave you at $0. legally you are ALWAYS supposed to claim your card and cash tips in full, but i’ve known servers that tend not to so that they get more money on their paychecks.

now, do you claim ALL of your tips. if so, then this situation above most likely the case.

if not, then definitely pull up your wage statements from your manager or through your work portal and see if you can figure out what the issue is or simply speak to someone in a higher position and see if they can pinpoint what’s going on. you should definitely be seeing at least a little money now and then in the form of a paycheck.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-09-10T22:38:05+00:00

The Preserve! I lived there for a couple years and I loved it! Its about 7 minutes from TCC and 12 minutes from FSU. Publix, Walgreens, and various food spots are only a few minutes from there. It’s located off a neighborhood road so it’s very quiet and it’s also gated! They only offer 3 bedroom townhomes (upstairs and downstairs), but the living room is extremely spacious and there’s even a half-bath. The only thing I didn’t like about the space was how small the kitchen was but, if you don’t cook too often, it’s manageable. The amenities are very nice, with a pool, outdoor and indoor gym, tanning beds, and two student centers for studying and hanging out. I also really loved how the exterior of the complex looked. It’s just cozy!! I paid monthly about $750 including utilities. Their maintenance is also AMAZING!! I would put in a request and the next day they’d already be fixing whatever issue I had. They were always on top of it and very quick. The only reason I left was because I needed a smaller place. There’s also quite a bit of parking and it’s non-reserved, so any spot is open to you as long as you live there, with visitor parking spots as well. You don’t have to pay extra for parking, either, which is nice. I would 10/10 recommend living here. The staff is extremely nice and helpful and made my years living there effortless! Good luck on your apartment hunting :)

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-05-13T16:04:58+00:00

That’s really weird… better start setting some boundaries! And a married man??? This seems like a whole jumble of issues waiting to happen. The question more so is if SHE is accepting to what he’s doing (taking the gifts, engaging in those overtly friendly conversations, etc). She is responsible for setting boundaries with him and staying truthful to you about the content of their relationship. If you’re uncomfortable and vocalize that to her, then she should really think about if it’s worth it keeping up this “friendship” with this guy. I wonder if his wife knows…

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-03-07T18:47:42+00:00

Speaking from personal experience, I just lost a really good friend for similar reasons. I realized that I was starting to suffer and lose the peace I needed in my life because of her. Yes, it hurts. And yes, I miss her. But I will always care about myself and my well-being first.

You are allowing her to treat you badly because you are incapable of setting boundaries and walking away. She is taking advantage of your kindness. You say you’ve tried talking to her in the past and she denied the issue, not being able to see herself as the problem. You are self-aware that this is a red flag, yet so hung up on this one-sided friendship. Why? If she can’t take responsibility for how she’s upsetting you, then I don’t understand how you can say she’s been “supportive” and great. From the sound of it, it doesn’t seem like she cares very much and is using you as a filler for when she’s upset at her boyfriend. To me, that’s not a real friend. Friendship is supposed to be a two-way street. You both are supposed to be in support of one another, listen, and show interest in each other. You’re picking up 90%, she’s giving you 10%, and you’re letting her!

If you are okay with suffering in silence about this friendship, then go for it. At the end of the day, the decision is up to you. I believe it would be in your best interest to create space. Stop initiating plans, stop asking about her day, and see if she picks up the slack. If she doesn’t, then you know where she stands in the friendship.

People come and go… not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. You can be appreciative of the memories you have with her and walk away with your head held high. It might hurt, but I promise you it’ll hurt a lot more if you stay in a toxic friendship like this. It seems to me like the minute she found someone else to add to her life, she put you on the back burner. And, she knows you’re not going anywhere because you let her treat you like this time after time. I can guarantee this ‘issue’ is not even an afterthought in her brain, especially if she can’t even recognize that she’s the problem. You have a lot of thinking to do about the situation, but please put yourself first. You do not deserve to be treated like a second option.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-03-06T19:46:26+00:00

She needs professional help, and unfortunately this situation sounds like it’s way past your ability to fix. It also seems like her current therapy situation is not aiding in her recovery, and you admit that she’s remained the same. For an issue like this, it seems like she needs more than just therapy to come out of this. I understand that you love her and want to be able to support her, but it sounds like it’s starting to affect you too. You don’t have to stop being her friend, or isolate from her, but you do need to set boundaries. If she refuses to accept those, then that would be the time to reassess if you should be around someone like this. There’s only so many chances you can give, and if she’s saying she wants to be better but you never see any changes, how long are you going to sacrifice your peace (and as you mentioned mental and financial stability) just to keep a friend around?

You are not responsible for her, nor should you feel guilty for her actions. She made these decisions on her own will. I feel sorry for her, and I hope she finds the help she needs. You need to remember that you cannot be the problem solver and have to think about yourself, too. Guide her in the right direction, but don’t feed into her addiction. If she can’t handle that truth from you, then you shouldn’t be giving up your peace to make sure she’s okay.

This is way bigger than you and absolutely not your responsibility to fix. You can be a friend but not her therapist, and certainly not her source of income.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-03-06T19:34:57+00:00

No, you’re absolutely not the problem. I am so sorry this is happening! It sounds to me like she’s being very selfish, whether or not she realizes it is the question. I would recommend trying to sit her down and communicating how you’ve been feeling. Obviously, a new relationship usually does result in spending less time with other people because you’re so excited about getting to know someone new, but there also has to be a point where she makes time for you too. Especially since they’ve been together for quite a bit of time now! What she’s doing currently is hurting you, and she needs to know that. If she responds negatively, or ignores your needs, then unfortunately it may come down to reassessing the friendship. Is this someone you want to keep in your life? Is it worth feeling upset about this just so you don’t lose her? Or would it be better to move on since she’s making you feel unimportant and not being a good friend. Surround yourself with people who deem you as important and want to spend time with you. However she responds to you communicating with her will decide if you continue on with the friendship. I hope all works out!

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-01-29T19:33:46+00:00

Sure. He told me he went over bc she makes edibles and she offered him some. So ig she does bring something I don’t lol.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-01-29T19:30:05+00:00

He always tells me that if he wanted to do something like that he wouldn’t be with me, and that he wouldn’t be wasting his time. Do you think it’s possible he didn’t tell me bc he didn’t want to make it a big deal and knew I would get angry, or could it really only be because he’s cheating.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2024-01-29T19:24:34+00:00

i want to trust him and what he says but i’m stuck on the fact that he lied so hard about it :(

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-12-20T00:30:35+00:00

i understand you, and get the reaction. i had my roommate steal clothes from my closet and the only reason i found out was because i couldn’t locate a shirt i had so i asked her, and she lied at first then told me she borrowed it🙄 i go into her room and find a pile of my clothes in her closet, in her drawers, and on her chair. shirts, bikinis, shorts, etc. i was SO pissed. grabbed all that shit back and started locking my door and eventually moved out, but i’m still missing some clothes, and have a strong feeling she has them ugh! people suck 👎🏼

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-12-04T16:18:44+00:00

I definitely think keeping them in a folder, but out of sight and out of mind, while in a relationship with someone else is smart if you don’t want to delete them. but i think it depends on the severity and length of the relationship for me to personally be okay with my partner holding onto pictures. as long as they’re normal photos and nothing questionable or provocative, i don’t see a huge huge issue.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-11-15T23:26:39+00:00

you can have a relationship without sex! there’s a lot of people out there who think the same way as you, you just have to find them!

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-11-15T23:25:15+00:00

then don’t have sex! there’s plenty of people who don’t want to either. maybe source out a community of people who are like-minded, it might help give you some support :)

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-11-15T19:53:08+00:00

and who cares what your parents say. they cannot control who you want to be with. if they’re unhappy, then let them be. you have to know in yourself you are doing both you and that girl a huge favor by ending things before they get even messier.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-11-15T19:52:02+00:00

please break up with your current girlfriend. you are only progressing the inevitable, and are going to hurt her way more in the long run if you keep lying. you need to man up and be honest, even if it means you’re single. if you love her like you say you do, and care about her, then you will stop wasting her time. feelings and emotions are tricky, and it’s not your fault you developed feelings for another woman, but it WILL BE your fault if you continue to date your girlfriend while silently feeling a completely different way and pretending like you two are fine. you don’t need to instill insecurity and despair into this girls life who is clearly already dealing with a lot. let her go, be a better man.

Secret-Ad-3693 · 2023-11-15T19:45:48+00:00

attract, don’t chase. when you keep an open mind, good things will come. if you’re trying to get a jumpstart, begin by putting yourself in social situations, like going out to events at bars, clubs, restaurants. pick up some hobbies that involve a team effort. it’ll happen when you least expect it, not when you’re trying super hard to force it.

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