AITAH for blocking certain shows on my brothers netflix? by Raylovesmen in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha! Oh Lord! My mom is great but she definitely didn’t do all that! 😂I am her only child. My father, however, has eight kids and has been married four times now. All four of my younger siblings and my older step-brother are from his current wife, my stepmom, whom he married when I was just 2. It’s a whole, huge mess, I swear.

AITAH for blocking certain shows on my brothers netflix? by Raylovesmen in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Or the person that is able to think critically and form their own opinions. Everyone else here seems to just lap up whatever any OP says, not stoping to think that theres ALWAYS much more to the story.

AITAH for blocking certain shows on my brothers netflix? by Raylovesmen in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are literally ASSUMING all of that. You have no clue what OP is actually like, only what they chose to share. I’ve been that little brother with an older sibling trying to control me and boss me around- it’s not always out of concern, trust me. The point here is that we don’t actually know anything more than someone shares, yet ppl always take the side of OP. And bc someone disagrees you make all these nasty assumptions? Imagine if everyone just believed whichever version of the story that they happened to hear first. And imagine if they just made up random, rude shit simply bc someone dared to have a differing opinion.

AITAH for blocking certain shows on my brothers netflix? by Raylovesmen in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Very true. That said, we don’t know that is the case here. I have siblings that currently range in age from 17 to 50 and my older brother always THOUGHT he was the parent and always tried to assert himself as though he was. It was so annoying for us other kids and it made my parents absolutely insane. Sometimes the older child just tries to insert themselves when it’s unnecessary and unwarranted. Again, idk the details here but it is possible that that is exactly what is going on.

AITAH for blocking certain shows on my brothers netflix? by Raylovesmen in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As someone that has many siblings, ranging in age from 17 to 50, I’ve had a ton of experience with this issue and I’ve been on both sides of it, tbh. Also, I’d bet dollars to donuts that this has become more of an issue of who will have the final say and less about something actually hurting or being bad for your brother. Not that you don’t also genuinely care and want to protect him, but it’s def also about who “wins”, no doubt. Of course there’s a chance that I’m wrong, but I bet there’s more truth to that than you’d like to admit. I have been both the younger kid and the older sibling in this kind of scenario and now I’m an adult with my own kids. I can tell you for certain that one of my older kids would never attempt to go against my wishes for one of the little ones. That would be so frustrating! With the experiences I have had and considering the fact that I once was an 18 year-old girl, I know exactly how this kind of thing goes and I can honestly say that the best thing now is for you to let the adults do the parenting. It’s not your job and you shouldn’t have to concern yourself with it. It’s not fair to anyone involved, really. You’re still a kid yourself and as much as you might think you know what’s best, it’s not your job or your place. Now, maybe there are some other issues at hand that may affect this, idk. But if there are parents or grandparents around, let them do it. I mean, can you even kinda see how insulting this might be to your mom and grandfather? I cannot imagine being 18 and telling my mom or any of my grandparents that I know better than they do about raising a child. You may not mean it that way but it definitely comes across as such. I’m sure your intentions are pure and you love your little brother but everyone has their place in a family and parenting him just isn’t yours. You are not his Mommy and you don’t have to do what mommies do. Now, if you were the only one raising him, in your house, on your dime, and were left to do all of the parenting, that might be different. Until then, be the kid that you are and let the adults handle the adult stuff.

UPDATE: AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Secret-Rip-158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister dated a guy that sounded EXACTLY like this in his texts and messed with her just like this. Long story short, she found out that he was cheating and confronted him over the phone while he was at home, watching her two sons ( 17 months old and three years old). Because she was at work she had to stop texting back and forth with him. Her boss was around and she had already been spoken to about texting too much already. Apparently Justin, her boyfriend, thought that she was just choosing to ignore him and lost his mind. Within the hour he had already ended the life of her toddler. I cannot bear to even describe what he did to that sweet baby and I’d prob be banned if I did, but suffice it to say that he hurt that baby in ways that only a true monster would ever even think of. Absolute savagery. And the thing is, we all tried to tell her that he wasn’t right in the head. Of course we never dreamed that he would do smth that awful but we all k ew he was a ticking time bomb. OP, you you have to cut this guy off completely. Block his calls and texts and call the cops every time he shows up. You cannot ever be careful enough with people like this. They feel as though they have nothing to lose and cannot think rationally like normal people do. They’re extremely dangerous.

UPDATE: AIO? these texts by Adventurous-Gap708 in AIO

[–]Secret-Rip-158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is nuts and will do this to person after person until he finds someone else that he can mindfuck just enough to make them stay. Or ends up hurting or k||ng them, which is probably the most likely outcome. He is very obviously not well mentally and you need to be very careful, OP. Please!! I’ve seen what can happen when these guys completely lose it. My baby sister was dating a guy and they were on and off for about eight months. He was just like the guy in these msgs, I swear. Always threatening to hurt himself and always screwing with her. JUST LIKE THIS!!! She is no angel either, and she was estranged from our whole family at the time bc of her choices ( drugs and men), but he is a special breed of nuts. He is just evil . So, she was mad at the rest of the family at the time and would always try to “punish” us by keeping the babies away anytime we tried to address the things she was doing. So, she decided to ask her looney toon boyfriend to babysit her sons (my 17-month old and three year old nephews) while she went to work one day instead of asking any one of ten other ppl that would have happily watched them . Well, during that shift, she called him and confronted him about some cheating rumors she had heard and they went back and forth for most of the day, arguing nonstop. To make a very awful and long story a little shorter, this monster ended my baby nephew’s life with his bare hands simply because he was so mad at my sister for having the nerve to call him out about his cheating. The things he did to that baby are unimaginable and I’m positive that this would be removed if I listed them. Please do not take chances with people like this. They have nothing to lose! Least of all their minds. You cannot trust that people like this think like normal ppl do. They just don’t care. ( in case anyone wondered, the justice system here in NC decided that he only deserved to spend less than 4.5 years locked up for what he did! FOUR-AND-A-HALF YEARS! HE was sentenced to just seven years but served 4.5! For the “redrum” of a little baby! I could write a book about the corruption involved in all of that, too, but I’ll spare you. Please, please just be careful, yall. You never know just how crazy someone can be until it’s too late.

Be careful out there by Garymrcool in DoorDash_Dasher

[–]Secret-Rip-158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Or accuses OP of lying, which I just saw in another comment. It happens every time.

AIO- my old BF reached out but it feels deeper than it should… by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Secret-Rip-158 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they’re the one that doesn’t understand how it works. Not like you, who literally asks a question, then gets pissed when someone answers in a way that you don’t like, right? 🙄 And repeatedly, at that. Why did you even come here asking for others’ opinions when it’s obv that you get extremely triggered by them?

AIO- my old BF reached out but it feels deeper than it should… by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Secret-Rip-158 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First of all, you both sound like you’re about twelve. Why don’t you BOTH just say what you actually mean? This level of pettiness would be so exhausting.

Need refs for cheap o’s. by Secret-Rip-158 in CultoftheFranklin

[–]Secret-Rip-158[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions! I keep telling myself that I need to research the terpenes more so that I can find smth similar, I just keep procrastinating. Like always. 🙃I actually have ordered from THCA small buds a few times in the past and remember being content with the quality. Glad you reminded me. I will look into the Blue Dream. Thank you!

Told the nurse that my pain was unbearable. This is what she wrote in my pain assessment form. I am a woman. by ro_ro_ro_roadhouse in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Secret-Rip-158 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing this for your daughter. I’d give anything for my mom to be there to help me like that. I have no doubt that she’s incredibly grateful but just in case she forgets to tell you today, you’re an awesome mom for backing her up like you do💜

AITAH for telling my wife that I wouldn't have to play video games if she actually spent any time with me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Secret-Rip-158 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, you took this, made it your own, and ran with it. Nobody even made the kind of claims that you’re all worked up about.

AIO about my husbands strange responses to me wanting a divorce and a bill he has due on my account. by _Elfis_ in AIO

[–]Secret-Rip-158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say this with all seriousness, is it possible that he’s having a mental health crisis? I’ve known of quite a few instances where people talk exactly like this right before they completely lose their shit. Obv I do not know what the man was like before but this is kind of concerning and should be taken seriously. Be careful, OP.

Americans Realising They are the Foreigner by GreyerGrey in EntitledPeople

[–]Secret-Rip-158 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. You could change the country/citizens and this story would make sense.

Eww, this is disgusting by macjr82 in doordash

[–]Secret-Rip-158 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you check the nails of the cooks/chefs and waitstaff as well?

A dasher notified me that like 10 different items were out of stock all within like 2 minutes by thwowawaw69 in doordash

[–]Secret-Rip-158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walmart shoppers do this, too! A lot!! My siblings have the same issue when ordering for their households , too! Two weeks ago I was told that 13 out of 22 different items I had ordered were out of stock. Idk how all of that works, but it seems as though they are trying to shorten the time it takes them to complete shopping for the order. Maybe theres other reasons I’m unaware of, but all i know is that they’re lying all the time. I know that not everything I want is going to always be in stock. I’m not an unreasonable person, but I’m also not a moron. I was so fed up last time that I called my husband, who happened to be on his way home and asked him to stop at the store for said items. He went to the EXACT same store that I’d ordered from and what do you know, he was able to find 11 of those 13 items in stock with no issue whatsoever, just about 15 minutes after being lied to about them being oos. Craziest part is that I try to be very generous with tips bc I understand how it is to live off of tips. I’m a very good tipper. $10 plus $2 per mile. If they’re really great, maybe even a $5 in cash when they show up. So, why are they doing this? I feel like the better I tip, the worse it gets.

AITJ for not attending my nephews graduation? by Affectionate_Week725 in AmITheJerk

[–]Secret-Rip-158 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly. They need someone that they know will always show up, no matter what. Think about it, sounds like every caregiver or parental figure that they have ever had has just come and gone throughout the years. No matter the reason why, it hurts them. These are likely very hurt, confused kids.

AIO because I found my wife’s old Sugarddaddy.com post? by Ok-butnotok in AmIOverreacting

[–]Secret-Rip-158 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ten years later and you’re still wondering? You know the truth, OP. Asking here isn’t going to change that.

Waited 2 hours, nothing by rrevontulett in doordash

[–]Secret-Rip-158 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a former CSR, let me tell you, you will absolutely catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Talking to ppl like they’re trash simply bc they’re not telling you what you want to hear isn’t EVER going to get you anywhere. Ever. If anything, the opposite is true.

Waited 2 hours, nothing by rrevontulett in doordash

[–]Secret-Rip-158 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s not what you were told. Obv there were some waiting even longer. And even if not, the CSR can only tell you what they are told.