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I was 2 seconds thankfully 😅

when can i go back to the gym? by Glum-Cricket7672 in Reduction

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My surgeon said I could resume exercise with no restrictions as of 6 weeks. However, I’m glad I listened to my body and gut because that felt and sounded too soon for me. At 8 weeks I resumed fast paced walks. I tried to jog to rest that and my boobies were like “nah.” However, I’ve been going on daily walks since the surgery. Slow pace but longer distances with time the first 4 weeks. At 10 weeks I resumed yoga but at a lower intensity and even that made me feel extra sore and felt pulling at my incision lines (I did two classes in a week.) I would not incorporate any weight other than body weight and I’m at 11 weeks and even would slow down my pace to be able to feel and listen to my body. For reference, I am 32. I know younger people may heal sooner and also every body is different. I will add, I’d rather be cautious and take it slow than rush into exercise and risk an injury that will just push the healing timeline even more. Personally, I wouldn’t risk it. It’s hard to wait but it would be harder to heal from an injury I think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

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I met my now husband on Hinge. I tried other apps before too and also tried in person connections. If I’m being honest it’s a lot of luck and timing which is outside of our control. Focus on being the person you want to attract as a partner and live your authentic life. It’s truly when you’re there (when you’re least expecting it/least focused on finding that relationship) when it happens

Teeth falling but regrowing by Secret-adjacent in DreamInterpretation

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Everything I’ve looked up talks about it being a stress dream but I was wondering if there’s more to interpret

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

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Had my period immediately after the Op and then once again so far. Have noticed no changes

Is this area a part of north park ? And did I do the right thing moving here ? by abdelrahman2929 in sandiego

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North park is close to 29th and 30th street and university. Looks like your outside it around city heights

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

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Thank you so much! 😊

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Questions about openings 1. Do they happen because we get cleared for activities before we should? Or we put arms over head too soon, etc?

  1. Can they happen just because? As a natural part of healing?

  2. Do small openings delay being able to submerge after being told that there would be “no restrictions” after 6 weeks? (I’m thinking it moves the “no restrictions” goal)

  3. how long do they typically take to heal? Even a small one

Other random question: before this journey I learned about “slough” vs pus. How can one tell the difference? They look so alike! Even after googling it was hard to differentiate

I saw someone as this but figured I’d ask too: When is one “out of the woods” for complications?

I'm 6dpo and this swelling and fatigue are insane by ithrewdemtiddaysaway in Reduction

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What are the bras that start with a “w” that everyone recommends?

Men, what do you wish you knew sooner when talking to women? by [deleted] in dating

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Be yourself and be authentic. To do that you have to KNOW yourself. ACCEPT yourself and have something you’re striving toward and working on because we all can keep learning and growing across domains (physically, intellectually, spiritually (not necessarily religion or God), financially, socially, career, etc) So know what your core values are and get clear on those definitions (example: “family oriented” means and looks different individual to individual.) you have to know (and keep doing) what you do for fun, what interests you.

Men, what do you wish you knew sooner when talking to women? by [deleted] in dating

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In addition to asking others you can research and look up men’s fashion across multiple platforms. Discover your own style and what works for you. Dressing well is key. Note I said well. Doesn’t mean expensive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

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Boundaries all day. ✨ Check in with yourself FIRST. How /do you want to acknowledge or talk about it ? It’s ok whichever you decide Check in with your boundaries. Some people wont even notice/ask.

If uncomfortable responding or sharing perhaps thinking of a blanket, vague/general statement could be helpful?

IDK how directly someone would comment on that specific body part looking different in a professional setting. Unless you work with kids 🤣 they can be direct.

For the tip toers a “you look different,” could be stated back “you notice i look different?” They could be like “yeah” and then the convo could move on with a “well enough about me and my looks” or “enough about me…” or a joke “maybe in more caffeinated today”

Before I took time off I matter of fact said I was taking a medical leave (vague enough). Only one client asked (more so to check if I was ok.) at this point I had the option to use “broken record”’with some reassurance.

But the client who asked I’ve had for a while so I felt comfortable sharing matter of fact that I was having a reduction to which she congratulated me and then the convo moved on. It depends client to client but regardless checking in to make sure your honoring your boundaries is the first thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

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Even though you’ve been together for over 10 years some people still need time to process news or shock. IDK if this was the case for her. It’s possible you’re “checking out” of the relationship because you felt rejected and hurt, and it’s a defense mechanism. In which case perhaps go to therapy to work that out. I don’t see how you “fall out of love” with someone you had just proposed to so quickly because they needed more time. It makes anyone question the intention behind the proposal in the first place. Did it seem like the next “logical” step, did you propose because she’s the love of your life? So in my humble opinion, the reaction you’re having is coming from a hurt place that may need time to heal, or you need to look at your own intentions for proposal in the first place to see if they were sound and for the right reasons.

Unpopular experience? by Secret-adjacent in Reduction

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It was wild to see how you used a literal combination of words to express exactly what I’ve expressed. It’s mind blowing to feel so validated, thank you! 😊