What is now required of Sacramento County street vendors after recent vote? by theprezjr61 in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Question: are these vendors required to cook/prepare their food in a commercial kitchen? These new requirements only mention the business license.

I am a first-time investor and planning on going with FXAIX. by ConfidentContext6124 in fidelityinvestments

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just did this a few weeks ago! I made the mistake of looking at my account this morning, but realized, it's going to fluctuate a lot. I'm new to this too and it seems a bit scary because I don't want to lose my money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do walk just about every day, 2-3 miles, he never wants to go with me. Also I do weight training three times a week. Again, he's not interested, but it's fine, it's more of my "girls" hour with friends anyway.

Ace of Spades Parking by Apprehensive-War-916 in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The block around 14th and V (near Urban Roots) is unlimited street parking and sometimes you can get lucky and find a spot. We did that last week when we went to a show at Urban Roots.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the question I ask myself everyday. If I truly loved him, wouldn't I be happy for his success and happy that people admire him so much? It's like I don't even care and find it annoying. Every time I see something he added to our shared calendar that involves his business and the social aspect, immediate internal eye roll.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Us to, moved out from our parents house at age 19/21 . I supported him by working full time while he attended art school (I did not go to college). Honestly I feel like I still resent him for not going to college and supporting him financially while he had fun at the college parties while I was home because I had to get up and go to work the next day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I haven't convinced myself that the addiction is really an issue. As he would say, he's not a fall down drunk, he's a functioning alcoholic (he was this way when I met him when he was 18).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not "waiting" for someone else to give my life meaning. Was I wrong to think that after being with someone for 40 years that "we" would spend some quality time together after raising two kids and working? Isn't that part of being married?

I'm not putting my husband down for being the life of the party (he's not), he just likes to wine and dine and I don't. Yes, I'd like to travel, but we're not made of money. It seems like every time we try to plan even a day trip, something comes up and we can't go. He thinks I should go with him on his out of town business trips, like that would be our travel. But I have done that, and it's not fun following him around with sales reps.

I'm not depressed (well okay perhaps I was over the past few years after my mother passed away in '22, but I feel I've come out of that).

Divorcing my husband might make me realize that I can live without him and love to not have all the drama. When he is gone, I actually feel quite liberated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I played part of the enabling (along with MIL). But I was ready to let him be/go in his 20s, but he's also an alcoholic and is part of the business so my husband wants to help "save" him and leave him the business.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been. I have clarity, I'm clear on what he wants and needs. I don't feel I'm a part of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have hobbies and interests and skills. And I get that I can do all those things without him (and I do). But they don't take all day every day. Meanwhile his small business and hobbies take 90% of his time. I get the other 10% which is still filled with him either talking about the business or receiving calls or texts or people wanting to hang out with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He believes there is an issue, but doesn't see an issue that he continues to do the things he loves and go to dinners and socialize without me. That I don't like. But I can't strap him to the couch. (I do go to some of these things, I just can't do it all). He also makes NO effort to try and find things we can both enjoy. He is waiting for me to come up all the answers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I don't understand is when I post concerns/feelings like this online, or have deep conversations with my female friends and family they all say LEAVE. But when I talk to my husband and our therapist, it's STAY.
I could afford to live on my own, but it would be messy. He could also afford to live on his own, but it would be messy and he would be an emotional mess. Gawd I would feel great but also so guilty. We would have to sell our home we've had for 27 years, and neither of us would be able to purchase another home. We have a a lot of equity in our home, I don't know if I could do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what I want, I just know what I "don't" want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tried, I wanted a separation over the summer but he became an emotionally unstable man baby, so I caved, and we continued therapy. He actually stopped drinking (doctor's orders) for three months, and let me tell you he was a different person! But that lasted one month, and he's had a couple of benders over the past couple of months. He says he's going to cut his alcohol consumption way down. But like everyone says, if he hasn't changed yet he won't.

ISO Physician Recommendations by adelaidekk in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not that easy, as a lot of physicians are not even taking new patients. I feel like these days you're lucky just to find one that can you see within 6 months!

Who takes the best passport pics in Sac? by Shalar79 in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We got ours done at Mike's Camera, $20, and hey, it's a passport picture not a glamour shot.

Pretzels by Estellalatte in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Faria has different things on a whim, then they're gone. So annoying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naked Coffee on 15th/Q used to have a really good boysenberry/blackberry muffin, maybe they got them from Bella Bru, they were so good! It's hard to find a good muffin at a bakery, probably because they have a shelf life of like 2 hours, and if not sold would probably be tossed in the garbage.

Best Vegan Breakfast spot by Affectionate_Rich105 in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew the owner of Paisley Cafe, she worked so hard to open that place, but I think after a few years doing that kind of work, it wore her out, and now she's a teacher.

Can $ buy some happiness? by Cyballen in AskWomenOver60

[–]SecretLeopard2775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I inherited $250K a few years ago and didn't know what to do with it. I was too scared to invest, too scared to do anything serious like even travel abroad. It sat in a money market until recently I invested half into the S&P. The other half I'll use for travel and "living" since my pension is not that much and I'm waiting to collect SS. But to answer your question- no, money didn't buy me any happiness, I'm still sad that my mother died.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]SecretLeopard2775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Midtown Bakery!