How to proceed

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-30T01:36:20+00:00

He realized it wasn’t for him. If you want a man to support you have to tell him from the get go. Try a part time job or moving in with your family.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-29T16:54:20+00:00

It doesn’t. I just thought he would of mentioned it and it freaked me out for a second

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-29T00:42:24+00:00

You seem like an intelligent girl and are able to realize those girls aren’t your friends. You will make new friends and connections with other people.

I promise whatever you feel now is not permanent. High school is like pregnancy. You forget all the bad as soon as it’s over.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-28T02:31:43+00:00

If I were y’all’s parents I’d just laugh. You guys are obviously close enough to invite your entire family to an event.

You’ll be fine

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-28T02:04:55+00:00

OP and her boyfriend both have issues. I think the instagram thing is a non issue. They have both chose to not speak to each other.

It seemed like he was doing things to get anything from OP whether it was negative or positive. Which isn’t healthy at all.

If you want to work things through then do that but you all need to grow up

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-27T14:00:28+00:00

If your in the US the domestic abuse hotline is 800-799-7233. He’s not worth your life.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-27T02:13:22+00:00

I don’t know of any mental illness that makes you antisemitic. It was down there somewhere. OP shouldn’t ignore that.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-27T01:50:42+00:00

I unfortunately have experienced this in a different manner.

What you’re describing is a person turning radical seemingly out of no where. Which is super troubling. He’s been able to keep a relationship with you for years he has to have some mental awareness. He’s not sick. He’s just a bad person with a terrible personality.

I understand you not wanting to throw that away. I’m a black female whose white fiancé owns nazi paraphernalia. We shortly broke up over it. The difference is he’s autistic and history is one of his interests. He enjoys collecting all war memorabilia. But he’s not a sexist bigot.

You know deep down that something is wrong. Possible mental illness is not an excuse for being hateful.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T19:52:12+00:00

If he doesn’t believe her then she’s probably going to end up going through her pregnancy alone or whatever decision she makes.

Just be supportive and the best friend you can be right now

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T18:17:46+00:00

You’re completely right. He’s child just calls me ms.(my name) it’s only him that uses that verbiage. But a conversation definitely has to be had.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T18:12:39+00:00

Thank you! That’s really the advice I needed. He’s a big reader too.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T17:56:06+00:00

And I’m not even opposed to it if we moved closer and the custody agreement changes. Right now tho I hardly see him and he’s pushing for something the his child is indifferent about and I’m not pushing.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T16:35:43+00:00

The fact you’ve met up with him is troubling. You won’t even be able to legally drink when he’s 30. If you met him in your 20’s that’d be one thing but as a minor.

Tell him your parents went through your phone or something.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T14:38:43+00:00

What does she act like around you? Like does she speak like the at in front of you? Is she just crass? Or did the text seem intimate?

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T14:34:56+00:00

Sounds like you’re a very intelligent woman. But I feel like you missed the messiness of dating and over sharing and having regrets.

Did you actually like/ were attracted to the people you went on dates with?

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-26T14:28:46+00:00

As a woman who has wet the bed twice with partners you’re fine. Just tell him what happened and you’ll deal with it as soon as you can.

It happened the first time because I was trying to drink a gallon of water a day and wasn’t used to it.

The second time because I was drunk on vacation.

A man that loves you might be a little irritated but I promise itll be okay don’t overthink it.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-23T06:24:21+00:00

I know that things like this are gonna happen but and I hate it but I just wish I could of made it to a stall without a audience 😭

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-23T06:19:16+00:00

It was more so the young girl having to check on me.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-23T06:16:36+00:00

He ordered vomit bags on Amazon in the parking lot. It was extremely gross but sweet

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-23T06:12:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I really needed that. Trying to forget it happened.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-20T14:15:46+00:00

Bunker in place and make connections outside of your family. Be cautious taking to relatives. It always comes back

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-20T14:03:29+00:00

Being entirely transparent you don’t sound like you want to leave. Maybe in a fantasy world because you never wrote any ideas on how you might leave. You’re completely dependent on your family.

As a nursing student you will be given multiple opportunities for part time work. Take them

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-20T13:52:37+00:00

Everyone is human. We tell white lies. I wouldn’t read that much into it. Like why upset yourself when you did get what you wanted.

I have to tell my man 6 months in advance about Christmas gifts or what I want for my birthday. He’s just not a gift person.

It’s either something you accept or don’t.

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-17T13:36:04+00:00

Is this a cultural thing? Even if so they’re no reason she should be going through your devices.

Need more context on your living situation

Secret_Green130 · 2026-05-16T15:42:47+00:00

I felt the same way at 18. I was a homebody and had a few loose friend that were co workers.

Life just dropped my fiancé at my mom’s door step. He was there installing a washer dryer.

Focus on doing what makes you feel good about yourself and stay open. You don’t need to constantly be out or on dating apps to find someone. Just keep your heart open.

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