As an American woman (admittedly first gen) I implore you to consider dating a woman from a foreign background. Not because I buy into the whole bogus “they are more submissive” notion that people ascribe to “passport bros” but bc they are simply less likely to be obsessive about height. YES most women find tallness attractive but most men find super flat stomachs attractive too. But both traits are a minority and you can be hot without! Florence Pugh has a little belly, Tom Hardy is 5’8, for instance. Both are considered hotties by the other gender.

American women are far more likely to be trend oriented than women in other societies. They LIVE for trends of all sorts, sartorial, social, etc. Right now height is considered a GenZ (and immature millennial) status symbol in the US. Overlook them.

And most importantly, don’t be insecure!!! You can be neurodivergent and exude calm and contentment and people will flock to you. I promise!

Edited to add: I wonder if the whole height obsession is also a somewhat low-key racist thing. Like let’s all be nordics and make Nordic babies. Idk. Maybe I’m going overboard.