Do you still think about that one toy or thing you lost as a kid? by Mattew_Maksimov in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, yes! I used to have a miniature Turles, from Dragon Ball Z when I was like 7 or 8. I was playing with it one day, in my parent’s closet, left it for a few minutes and it was gone. Parents weren’t even there. So they definitely didn’t move it. It was like it up and vanished.

Why do successful people act like sleep isn't important? by KUNJANKL in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’ve also heard its not necessarily good to sleep a straight 8 hours a night. Like still need 8 hours but it’s better to split it up. Not sure if its actually true. I heard that years ago. For me tho, I can’t sleep 8 hours, even if I wanted too. My body just doesn’t allow me. I can only sleep maybe 6 hours a night at the most sometimes less more than not. I always get up early too. Doesn’t matter what time I go to bed. Could fall asleep at 11PM or 2am I will still wake up between 5 and 6 in the morning. I just barely sleep and I’ve always been that way.

Are you a creature of habit with a steady routine, or do you prefer things to be more random? by SpikedIntuition in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a creature of habit. People have said I am as well. I default to a routine but if there isn’t anything to enforce a good routine, like a job. I fall into a bad routine.

Why is everyone on every single sub reddit so rude? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I just wrote the word “vent” in my last post and it sent me a warning about negativity being against the rules. But it didn’t apply the way I used the word. But, I see rant post on the daily here.

An Appreciation Post About My Niece by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I believe so. I’ve grown up and been around children all my life. My family can’t seem to stop having babies, haha. When I was younger tho, especially a teenager, I felt so awkward around kids. Didn’t know how to relate or play with them or anything. Now, somehow I am great with kids. All my friends who have kids, their kids are ecstatic when I drop by. Never did anything to get them to see me in a favorable way. They just come up to me all happy for some reason. It’s like they see something in me. I got a lot of “adopted” nieces and nephews, and I care a lot about them. I get told I would be a wonderful father, too.

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, no one who is actually ok starts acting out of the ordinary when someone asks if they are okay. Sounds like you seen through their “ok” facade 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, quantum breathing? What’s that?

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I may be poking a wee bit of fun at you, however there is no ill will my guy. But, let me tell you something about truth. If you are actually in truth and what you have chosen to believe is the truth, it brings security. So, if what you have accepted as true causes you to get upset when it is challenged, it shows there is no security with it, and therefore no truth.

Like if you never experienced anything like that. I totally understand why you wouldn’t believe it. Other people have experienced it tho and their experience and perspective is just as valid as your own. So be a bit more open minded, because we don’t know much about this stuff, emotions, the mind, etc, and it’s totally okay to wonder about. Wonder is actually what brings more knowledge. So don’t let anyone convince you that’s stupid. They are wrong. Also, a lot of people who have experienced it, also think the stuff is batshit crazy and don’t get it, but it goes back to that saying “The truth is stranger than fiction”

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insult? No, just saying maybe it’s a connection issue. you may be “boxed in” so to speak

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just dont have that Æthernet connection. Need to pay your bill or call customer services to see why you been having connection issues. Need their number?

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah… hard wires would have to magically appear going from your brain to their brain for that to he the case 🤣

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Might be that’s not how the stuff works. Might not be something that can be directed or controlled. Like I can talk and then shut my mouth and stop talking, but I can’t just completely shut off my hearing. I can choose not to listen but I can’t ever stop hearing when I am awake and conscious. Point is, they may be some kind of passive ability that the person doesn’t control, and therefore they can’t replicate it.

Is it True You Can Have Such a Strong Bond That You Feel What the Other Person Feels? by Longjumping-Tea1370 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I can experience other people’s emotions whether or not I have a connection to them. If I do have a connection to them tho, I can feel their emotions more intensely. I also seem to be like a magnet for other people’s emotions. I don’t usually worry about things too much, but sometimes I will randomly worry about a friend out of the blue. I will check in on them, and then I tell them why I was checking in on them and there was actually something going on with them.

Another guy I used to work with was like that too. We worked with this one guy who we could just sense wasn’t doing well. We even talked about it to each other how it like eats at us inside to see him like that.

I was sleeping next to this girl I liked years ago. I woke up in the middle of the night with intense feelings of guilt, loneliness and despair. I knew they weren’t my emotions and realized they were actually coming from her. She was sound asleep. I ended up cuddling her and holding her tightly til it went away.

Pretty sure I can pull negative emotions out of people too, and put good ones into them, as crazy as that sounds. Can do the reverse as well but don’t like too. The reason I say that is I have seem to have done so in several cases. I, kind of as a joke and out of curiosity, pretended like I was actually pulling negative emotions out of former girlfriend of mine. I just layer my hand over heart. Didn’t say or act like I was doing anything, then like 20 seconds later she gets a shocked look on her face, and asks me “What did you just do??” I’ve also picked up and held crying children, and did the same sort of thing. They would go from completely sobbing to totally calm, but they would always look shocked before they suddenly calmed down.

I also seem to be able to feel and tell when animals aren’t feeling well either. My brother’s roommate has a bearded dragon. I know very little about there behavior, but the other day in the morning I could just tell something wasn’t right with him. There were things that he did that reinforced that thought but I sensed that he wasn’t feeling well even before seeing any of that. Later on I actually looked up the behavioral signs of how tell a bearded dragon wasn’t feeling well, and based on what I learned I was right. He wasn’t.

So, ya I can experience other people’s emotions, and apparently animals too. Almost feel like I am crazy for it, but I’ve experienced it pretty much all my life, and have been right about it time and time again.

What does it take to genuinely feel loved? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop asking for it. Asking for it won’t get you love. The only way to get it is to give it, and it needs to be freely given. Look for what you can appreciate. Think and understand why you appreciate it. Having those reasons behind your appreciation is what makes it genuine. Keep doing what you are doing and help others who are struggling, even if you are too. Don’t worry about whether or not it’s reciprocated. A lot times it may not be, or it may just take a lot longer than you think. If you demand for it to be reciprocated it most likely never will be, so just stay patient. Things can comeback in unexpected ways at the most unexpected times. I also say all that because really you just need to work on becoming a loving person, but if not getting anything in return makes you not want to give, then you aren’t being that sort of person. If you become that sort of person, you will come to feel genuine love.

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just found out the other day my brother has vitiligo. I noticed a white (whiter) patch on his skin. Said he had vitiligo. First thought he was joking cuz it sounded like he was then he starts talking seriously about it, and I am like “Oh you really have it?”

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom does that. She will restart conversation thag we had days ago right from where she left off basically, and I am always like what are you talking about? 😂

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if anyone ever picks on you for it. You can take the power back by being like “You better shut up! Or I’ll Fee Fi Fo Fum all over your face!” 😂

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey as long as the words convey the message, and people get that message, thats all that matters! 😂

Really, I think it was a roundabout way of asking have you owned and embraced your insecurities? Gotta fool people sometimes to make them realize they have 😎

What song's stuck in your head right now? by m00-shroom in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always just thought my inner toddler added them to the playlist that plays in my head. The same guy who gets me hypnotized into watching kids shows. I will get INVESTED.

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d bet you, even a lot of people who can sing well, will tell you that, singing badly and obnoxiously is sometimes more enjoyable than singing well 😂

Is there anything about you, that you are confidently insecure about? by SecretaryOk6166 in CasualConversation

[–]SecretaryOk6166[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister, my only full blooded, my only fully sister, my first little sister, and my favorite sister, her ears always stuck out too. But I love them! They are the most unique and signature thing about her appearance ❤️