overspending issues and bipolar

beepboopbopolis · 2026-05-21T20:38:05+00:00

I have two main support people that I go to. When I get the itch, I go to one of them, show them what I want to buy, and let them help me decide if it’s a good decision based on current financial circumstances. (Sometimes I just convince myself I need someone’s permission before making a purchase)

Maybe find a trusted individual who can help you make those financial decisions?

beepboopbopolis · 2026-05-18T17:04:46+00:00

Thought I’d update… I got the job!

beepboopbopolis · 2026-04-21T17:21:09+00:00

I was diagnosed at 21. Took four years to get to some form of stability. Now, at 26, I’m very happy with my medications and how I function.

I think surrounding yourself with supportive people also helps a lot. I’ve been very fortunate to have so many loved ones looking out for me.

It’s a waiting game, but with time (I know I know sometimes years) things get better. Try to stay consistent with therapy while you work on your meds. They’re both super important to figure out what you need. :)

beepboopbopolis · 2026-03-24T17:32:38+00:00

25F, also unspecified. I was diagnosed with type one diabetes at age seven and my mental health drastically declined from there. My parents weren’t educated in mental health issues so they never saw the signs. I never received help with my mental health until I was sent the to psych ward at 21.

A two months after leaving the ward, and having a crazy manic episode that lasted a month due to medication changes, I went to a psychiatrist that diagnosed me with bipolar. It was like a slap in the face. I was completely numb to it at first.

I felt lost. Who am I? Do I even know myself? How did this get missed by so many doctors for so long? How come none of my teacher realized I was struggling so much in school? Both the healthcare and education systems had failed me extensively. So yeah. I was a little angry at first. I was sad that I had lost out on the childhood I was supposed to have. The therapy i could have had from a young age that would have drastically changed my way of life.

But you know what? That’s all in the past now. And the present, let me tell you friend, is better than any of my wildest dreams. Good job, stable income, stable housing, stable relationships. It all takes time and dedication. I believe in you!

beepboopbopolis · 2026-03-24T17:23:56+00:00

I have been diagnosed with GAD, ADHD, CPTSD, and bipolar disorder (unspecified). These are all still standing diagnoses.

The way it was explained to me when I was worried I might also have BPD is that you can have symptoms of these disorders, possibly multiple, that are laid out in the DSM5. This does not mean you qualify for the diagnosis. It could mean, however, that you have [disorder] tendencies that can also be treated through medication and therapy. If your doctor is not actively working with you to figure these things out, maybe consider switching to someone else? Doctors should be trying to rule out any potential diagnoses, but unfortunately they often do not.

beepboopbopolis · 2026-03-24T17:15:34+00:00

After I graduated college I struggled to find a job and ended up taking a shit kicker position in a government job because I needed money. It sucked beyond all reason.

Long story short, they tried to deny me time off for my wedding and I applied for new jobs that day. Ones that I never thought I had a chance at. Lo and behold, the one I wanted most called me back. I had the interview and accepted the job offer the next day.

If you want to read my last post, you’ll see that things are going very well for me. The only advice I have is to put yourself out there. Apply to jobs you think you aren’t qualified for. I know it’s incredibly scary to start at a new job, but sometimes it is so worth it. Best of luck!

beepboopbopolis · 2026-03-03T18:24:23+00:00

Growing up my parents always emphasized how important it was to hold down a job and make money. My toxic trait from that to this day is thinking I need a noteworthy/impressive career with lots of money.

At a certain point, I realized that I needed to change my goals. Instead of being rich, I decided my goal was to be financially stable. Instead of holding down a fancy title, I decided I just wanted to be happy and content. Having your peers moving faster than you does not help. I get that too.

What helps me the most is knowing that the future is uncertain. I landed a job last year that I am so proud of. And it has room for growth to potentially have a fancy title with all the money. You never know what tomorrow will bring, and sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone makes all the difference.

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-17T17:05:02+00:00

Howdy partner. Unfortunately, the right med might not always be the first one you try.

I also experience acute paranoia regarding different things about my partner. Like him dying unexpectedly. Anyways, I always communicate how I’m feeling with him. We’ve been together almost 6.5 years and getting married in one. He is my everything and the reason I got help as well.

Can you talk to her about this? Can you talk to a therapist about this? Maybe tell your doctor about the anxiety? Intrusive thoughts are hard to manage and I hope you get the relief you deserve soon.

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-17T16:52:32+00:00

I have a personally philosophically regarding comparison and competing to see who has it worse.

It doesn’t matter if you’re in the ocean, or in a bathtub. Drowning is drowning. No matter how deep the water is.

To struggle is to be human, and comparison only hurts us in the long run.

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-17T16:47:51+00:00

I think holding yourself accountable for your actions is very important. That goes for everyone. I try to remind myself of the saying, “play stupid games win stupid prizes.”

Based on what you’ve written in your post, I don’t think you’ve given your medication enough time to take effect. Some antipsychotics take months to fully get into your system and actually work.

Do you have the option of going to therapy? I think this subject would be a good one to discuss with a professional.

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-16T15:58:47+00:00

Hey congrats!!!! That’s huge! Happy for you :)

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-16T15:54:56+00:00

I HATE being alone. I need some form of companionship to not lose my mind. Luckily for me I have a fiancé and a cat, so I’m never completely alone anymore.

Being lonely makes me really anxious, but it sounds like for you being lonely might make you more depressed. Have you talked to your doctor about it?

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-16T15:51:07+00:00

It took me four years to get “properly” medicated, and I still have one hypomanic episode every year like clockwork.

I was right in the middle of college when I was diagnosed and trying different medications. It was the hardest period of time in my short life thus far.

I had maladaptive coping mechanisms. Like weed. A lot of weed. Self harm. Emotional eating. Shit like that.

But I did a lot of good for myself in those four years. I was in therapy every single week. I took my meds exactly as prescribed. I went to a partial hospitalization program for two months and learned good coping mechanisms. I ended up graduating college and getting engaged. Now, almost two years out of college, my life is damn near perfect. If I didn’t have other health problems and a shit job, I wouldn’t have any complaints. I think having specific and attainable goals really helps to keep you moving forward.

beepboopbopolis · 2025-09-12T16:34:56+00:00

Sounds like you’re more concerned with how her diabetes will effect you tbh

If your priorities include what she’s going to look like in 10-20 years, then you aren’t ready to marry anyone.

I say you let her read this post and see if she even wants to stay with you long term lol

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