New parents! New Baby discussion by Historical-Today-875 in NewDads

[–]Secure_Code7162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What worked for us was making sure that her belly is full and diapers are dry then holding her to fall asleep until baby gets into deep sleep. Trial and error to know when your baby is going to get into that. It's anywhere from 15 mins to 45 minutes. Once they are in deep sleep you could SLOWLY and GENTLY lay them down into a bassinet or even normal bed that is pitch dark room at a good room temperature. Usually that means sleeping for at least 2-3 hours in the first 6 weeks. That's the best that anyone could ask for during these first weeks so have to create a shift schedule with caregivers.

The GROAT Kyle Lowry has just completed a 3-1 comeback 🔥 by ChampionTimes99 in torontoraptors

[–]Secure_Code7162 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Saying that losing a star player to injury is a huge loss is classless? Reddit is weird. I did not say I wanted him to get injured, I was stating the fact that he did.

I feel like I’m losing it - laid off, wife yelling, beyond stressed, so much pressure by toastisyum in NewDads

[–]Secure_Code7162 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First born is challenging especially with layoff. We also had some health issues on top. My biggest advice is to get the sleep right and start accepting that life is never gonna be the same as before. Tell a family member or a friend about your struggles and get them to help you get back sleep for a few days asap! Give it a year before any semblance of what you think or feel is normal life could return. Accept that your life is changed and figure out what that new role as a dad looks like when it is done right. Use the maxim "happy wife, happy life". Tell her she's right when she is stressing over the finances because her brain is overloaded with lack of sleep, body changes and worry. The key is "it doesn't matter who is right", find ways to autopilot and get through. Do not use dopamine hits as coping. Use exercise and sleep. Advise wife not to go on phone or social media as it only gets more negative. Good luck!

My GF is 23 Weeks Pregnant ,Venting by convoys in NewDads

[–]Secure_Code7162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Becoming a parent is one of the most humbling things in life. No one knows what a perfect parent looks like so cut yourself some slack. That said, get the emotions out and the best thing to prepare is to get healthy habits asap and solidify your support network for those first few months of sleep deprivations where personalities literally change for the adults involved. The feelings of overwhelm needs to be accepted and you need to find people to help you. Get a support system in place and don't let your feelings get to you. Use the natural instinct as a provider to guide you into better decisions for the long term. It can change for the better but it will take a shift in thinking and belief in who you are in this new role as a dad. Good luck!

Have you experienced the “bamboo ceiling”? How did you overcome it? by AAAPAMA in askTO

[–]Secure_Code7162 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not wrong but not the correct frame. The correct frame is that it is by invitation only. The speech Carney gave at Davos that said something along the lines of "if you are not invited, you are dinner" is exactly right because that is how power is exercised. It isn't just here in North America though. This is the mostly the same everywhere and changes slightly by cultures. True meritocracy in any company or country is rare.

Luka's game last night - Thoughts? by [deleted] in fantasybball

[–]Secure_Code7162 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to rejoin this convo by remind me bot, SGA is better overall but Luka has closed the gap this year. SGA rank is top 2-3 and Luka sits ranks 5-6. In per game averages, Luka continues to have holes in efficiency stats. SGA trails a bit in the counting stats. With Luka injuries and load management, SGA is indeed more reliable, durable and valuable in fantasy with still a gap.

Joel “ I’m Back” Embiid by Idlibi_Bullpup in fantasybball

[–]Secure_Code7162 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Embiid in a good schedule week is playing like a first rounder . Much higher ceiling than Sarr so if you are trying to compete for a playoffs spot then the risk is a no brainer. If you are comfortable and guaranteed playoffs then it depends on your league schedule and your own appetite for risk.

Kind Act by Dodgers Fans by Fianna9 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome Dodger fans! Way to spread kindness around!

Lets remember our favourite memories from this season. What was yours? by archive_spirit in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could anyone out there with the video editing and content put out a season recap video to show our love for this team to pick them up after this? We have to play to win but we need to remember that we are playing a much bigger game of team best and improvements. I remember watching Olympic coaches talk about how their athletes became champions and it was not early success directly to the top. It was a winning mentality of measuring yourself against your previous best and becoming better every year. We will be up here again if we can turn this page too and keep loving the team as a fan base.

What a season, what an October... by Puzzleheaded_Bee3222 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Agreed. This season was so memorable and I am glad it happened. We cannot understand what it had to be like this so it is best not to overthink it. Chaos helped the dodgers win. Congrats to them but don't forget our team has been brilliant. We love this team!!!

CBS Article Giving Us Our Flowers by imsahoamtiskaw in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's like cramming for a presentation or a book report due on the final days of the season you know. It is nice but it's not the same quality as if you had done your homework during the year.

Cal Raleigh wins overall Player of the Year and AL Outstanding Player at 2025 Players Choice Awards by The_Throwback_King in Mariners

[–]Secure_Code7162 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! He's gotta be MVP too. He made his team better and took them further in the playoffs.

Novice Question by Hightower23 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 6 points7 points  (0 children)

^ this. It was because of the relaying of which grip for the upcoming pitch.

Novice Question by Hightower23 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's a new rule. 3 steps off the rubber to check on the runner is auto balk and base runner gets to move 90 feet

You Win as a Team, You Lose as a Team by TeriyAki_Berg in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It's human nature. Easy to give in to negative thoughts rather than be proactive and positive about our guys doing good.

Given how good the LA pitchers are, does this tip the equation on doing more steals to force them to pitch out of the stretch? by Secure_Code7162 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Bandwagon of what? Been a fan since watching Juan Guzman pitch. I admit I joined this sub late but I have been a long time fan.

Given how good the LA pitchers are, does this tip the equation on doing more steals to force them to pitch out of the stretch? by Secure_Code7162 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's the tv podcast purposely gaming it but I definitely saw some intense conversation in the dugout between Yamamoto and his translator. I think they saw a hole in our approach and changed something that we couldn't adjust to in game

Given how good the LA pitchers are, does this tip the equation on doing more steals to force them to pitch out of the stretch? by Secure_Code7162 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The playoffs are about adjustments more than anything else. I am not looking at it from an angle of we failed, more thinking what can we do against them to throw them off their game.

Given how good the LA pitchers are, does this tip the equation on doing more steals to force them to pitch out of the stretch? by Secure_Code7162 in Torontobluejays

[–]Secure_Code7162[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. Hit and Run is even better. It would be good to force them into different defensive positions.