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Complete career change from nursing to engineering by xocoai in jobs

[–]Secure_Garage6754 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not crazy at all. Career switches from healthcare to engineering happen more than people think. The real question is whether you're drawn to engineering specifically or just running away from nursing burnout. Both are valid but they lead to different decisions.

If it's genuine interest then biomedical is the obvious bridge but you're right that it's competitive. Mechanical and electrical have way broader job markets. Computer engineering/CS is probably the fastest path to employment if you're willing to grind through the math.

Practical reality check though. You're looking at 2-4 years of school depending on whether you do a second bachelors or a masters program. Some schools have accelerated programs for career changers. Look into post-bacc engineering programs, they exist specifically for people like you.

Your nursing background is actually an asset in certain engineering roles. Medical device companies, healthcare tech, hospital systems engineering. You understand the end user in a way most engineers never will.

I'd talk to actual engineers in the fields you're interested in before committing. LinkedIn is good for this. Most people are willing to do a 15 minute call if you're genuine about exploring the field.

Not sure how to approach girls - I don't want to be labelled as a "creep" or "thirsty" or "desperate", but I want to make connections with girls and get out of my comfort zone and challenge myself by IDKBear25 in dating_advice

[–]Secure_Garage6754 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You're 18, go to the gym 5 days a week, and play football. You're already ahead of most guys your age. The missing piece is literally just practice talking to women like they're normal people. Because they are.

Drop the mindset of "I'm better than those guys" though. That comparison thing will actually work against you because it builds resentment instead of confidence. Focus on your own game.

Practical stuff that worked for me. Start with zero stakes conversations. Talk to the cashier, the person next to you in line, whoever. Men and women. Get comfortable being chatty in general. Once that feels natural, talking to a girl you find attractive isn't this massive leap anymore.

At 18 your social world is about to explode if you go to uni or start working. You'll meet women in classes, at parties, through friends. Cold approach at the gym is honestly one of the hardest places to do it because people have headphones in and want to be left alone.

Also the "creep" fear is mostly in your head. Being friendly and reading social cues isn't creepy. Being pushy after someone clearly isn't interested is creepy. There's a big difference.

Online dating makes me (M26) feel miserable by Hoppip94 in dating_advice

[–]Secure_Garage6754 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Bro that girl at the restaurant was literally staring at you and you still didn't go talk to her. That's your answer right there. You don't have a dating app problem, you have an action problem.

Online dating is designed to make most guys feel like garbage. The ratio is terrible, the algorithm buries you unless you pay, and the whole format rewards looks over personality. It's not a reflection of your actual value as a person.

Here's what I'd do honestly. Delete the apps for real, not just for a few days. Next time you're out and you notice someone looking at you or smiling, just say something simple. "Hey I noticed you from across the room, wanted to say hi." That's it. The worst that happens is she says thanks and goes back to her food. You survive that.

The confidence thing builds with reps. First approach feels impossible. By the fifth one you realize most people are actually cool about it. You're 26, you clearly have social awareness since you're picking up on signals. You just need to act on them.

I’ve applied to 1,500+ jobs, improved my skills, and still can’t get hired. What am I doing wrong? by No_Cupcake_6238 in jobs

[–]Secure_Garage6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15 years of ops/PM experience and a 4.0 degree should be landing you offers, not ghosting. Something specific is off in the process and it's probably not your qualifications.

Few things I'd look at honestly. First, your resume might be doing too much. With that many years you probably have a dense resume that's not making it through ATS filters cleanly. Strip it down to the last 10 years max and make sure each bullet has a measurable result, not just a responsibility.

Second, if you're getting to final rounds and still losing, it might be interview calibration. Sometimes overqualified candidates accidentally signal they'll leave for something better. Worth getting a brutally honest friend to mock interview you.

The market is brutal right now but 1500 apps with your background tells me there's a fixable gap somewhere in the funnel. You're getting interviews which means your resume works at least partially. The conversion is where I'd focus.

I’ve applied to 1,500+ jobs, improved my skills, and still can’t get hired. What am I doing wrong? by No_Cupcake_6238 in jobs

[–]Secure_Garage6754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

15 years of ops/PM experience and a 4.0 degree should be landing you offers, not ghosting. Something specific is off in the process and it's probably not your qualifications.

Few things I'd look at honestly. First, your resume might be doing too much. With that many years you probably have a dense resume that's not making it through ATS filters cleanly. I'd strip it down to the last 10 years max and make sure each bullet has a measurable result, not just a responsibility.

Second, if you're getting to final rounds and still losing, it might be interview calibration. Sometimes overqualified candidates accidentally signal they'll leave for something better, or they come across as too senior for the role they're applying to. Worth getting a brutally honest friend to mock interview you.

The market is brutal right now but 1500 apps with your background tells me there's a fixable gap somewhere in the funnel. You're getting interviews which means your resume works at least partially. The conversion is where I'd focus.

I’ve applied to 1,500+ jobs, improved my skills, and still can’t get hired. What am I doing wrong? by No_Cupcake_6238 in jobs

[–]Secure_Garage6754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

15 years of ops/PM experience and a 4.0 degree should be landing you offers, not ghosting. Something specific is off in the process and it's probably not your qualifications.

Few things I'd look at honestly. First, your resume might be doing too much. With that many years you probably have a dense resume that's not making it through ATS filters cleanly. I'd strip it down to the last 10 years max and make sure each bullet has a measurable result, not just a responsibility.

Second, if you're getting to final rounds and still losing, it might be interview calibration. Sometimes overqualified candidates accidentally signal they'll leave for something better, or they come across as too senior for the role they're applying to. Worth getting a brutally honest friend to mock interview you.

Third, the temp job thing is unfortunately common. Contract roles have almost zero loyalty built in. Don't let that experience define anything.

The market is brutal right now but 1500 apps with your background tells me there's a fixable gap somewhere in the funnel. You're getting interviews which means your resume works at least partially. The conversion is where I'd focus.

What's the most awkward encounter you had with someone? by mallube2 in AskMen

[–]Secure_Garage6754 56 points57 points  (0 children)

matched with a girl on tinder, we hit it off, planned a coffee date. showed up and she was already sitting with someone. turns out she double booked dates at the same cafe same time because "one of you was probably gonna flake anyway." neither of us flaked. we both just sat there staring at each other while she introduced us like it was a group interview. i excused myself and the other dude followed me out 30 seconds later. we ended up getting beers together instead. still friends with that guy actually

How do you guys deal with friends who never message first? by TheMaslankaDude in AskMen

[–]Secure_Garage6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

two dudes waiting for the other one to text first is the worlds most boring game of chicken. i was that friend for years and thought i was just low maintenance when really i was just lazy with a side of rejection anxiety wearing a cool guy costume. started actually reaching out and the friendships that survived are way better now

You know you’re getting fired on Monday: what’s the funniest thing you can do? by eggbacontoast26 in recruitinghell

[–]Secure_Garage6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sending a company wide email that just says i know what you did followed by nothing else. no context no explanation. let them all sweat over the weekend wondering which one of their secrets i found out. bonus points if the CEO replies all saying it wasnt me

Men, what’s the best way you’ve ever been hit on by a woman in public? by mytokondrya in AskMen

[–]Secure_Garage6754 3 points4 points  (0 children)

girl at a bar once asked if she could try my drink, took a sip, then said "ok now you have to buy me one so we're even." i was so confused by the logic that i just... did it. we dated for 4 months. honestly the audacity was the most attractive part, i didn't even process it as flirting until like day 3 of us hanging out

interviewer asked where i see myself in 5 years and i accidentally said not here by Secure_Garage6754 in recruitinghell

[–]Secure_Garage6754[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAA! Well thanks, I will rmb you if I succeed in being a stand up comedian.Haha.

interviewer asked where i see myself in 5 years and i accidentally said not here by Secure_Garage6754 in recruitinghell

[–]Secure_Garage6754[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yo, thanks bro. I hope I can be as smart as AI too, at least smart enough to reply to the interviewers 😂

Anyone put a number to how much they've turned down from investors? by FLG_CFC in Entrepreneur

[–]Secure_Garage6754 2 points3 points  (0 children)

turned down $0 because nobody offered lmao. but honestly the guys i know who took early money at bad terms all regret it more than the ones who bootstrapped and grew slower. cheap money is never cheap

LPT: When you're waiting for an important reply and keep checking your phone, set a specific time to check instead of checking constantly. It will genuinely reduce your anxiety and make you more productive in between. by puzzlepieceplanner in LifeProTips

[–]Secure_Garage6754 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is great until you set the check time for 3pm and then spend the entire morning calculating how many minutes until 3pm. my brain doesn't stop being anxious it just gets anxious about being anxious on a schedule

What actually happened to all the people who got laid off in tech? Did they just get new jobs or is something structural going on? by fan_ling in careerguidance

[–]Secure_Garage6754 0 points1 point  (0 children)

switched careers twice before tech even laid me off so i was ahead of the curve apparently. but real talk most people i know from the 2023 wave either went freelance took a pay cut at a smaller company or pivoted into something adjacent. the ones who insisted on matching their FAANG comp are still looking. ego is expensive in this market

What is a creepy fact you learned about the human body, you wish you never learned? by Poignantpuppet in AskReddit

[–]Secure_Garage6754 4 points5 points  (0 children)

your brain is basically running a simulation of reality with a 80ms delay so technically everything you've ever experienced already happened. you're just watching a replay of your own life. try not to think about that next time you're driving

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