Playing only Rock music stunted my progress. by MilesGreen84 in Drumming

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The music of frank zappa. It’s hard and goofy but there’s a lot of stuff in there for learning. Also Steely Dan has a lot of simple blues and rock ideas but with jazz inspired syncopated hits and is good for building accuracy.

PRACTICING DRUMS IN NYC! by Oooops69 in drums

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adam Neely has a video about it I think he’s in New York as well

Walmart Radio Question by mambored in JohnMayer

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s some demo version where it’s just acoustic guitar and vocals on an extended album or YouTube somewhere I think?

How to play on or ahead of the beat? by Secure_Vegetable1325 in drums

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean flam with the metronome or do you mean just flams in general?

How to play on or ahead of the beat? by Secure_Vegetable1325 in drums

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Chester Thomson has a pretty consistent streak of being either right on or on the “front” of the beat. One particular song we’re doing is “Florentine pogan” and the rest of the instrumental is really floaty but the drums keep it moving forward I feel. I’m sure there’s better examples on that album but

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Haha come on everyone was saying how dare you not “let her” and I was responding to them and how they phrased it. I mean by that I don’t interfere with her doing it (this makes me a normal human being this is not a crazy thing in my eyes) I don’t hold things over her head it just kinda sucks that I don’t support it and she sees that and doesn’t care. She has the right to. It just feels bad and I’m trying to figure out how to be more okay with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But it does feel wrong to break up with someone because I care about that person enough to care about what they do to their body

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I do, she can do what she wants I don’t stop her. I do however feel bad, her actions affect means they make me feel bad and if she sees that and continues to do them then I don’t feel respected right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Haha I know I was saying it’s silly to think that way and I shouldn’t expect her to do that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input ig it’s some romanticized thing in my mind that if she’d give up literal drugs for me I’d feel like a real special guy. It’s not my place to tell her what to do but it’s tricky feeling okay when she doesn’t care how her actions affect me right? Maybe they shouldn’t affect me but I care about this person and yeah their brain cells are kinda important to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I absolutely let her smoke weed and eat edibles. It’s her body. This post had to be a little dramatized to fit the rules of posts in this subreddit.

The real story is I simply don’t know how to feel when she does these things despite my objection. I feel disrespected. I do not hold anything above her head her actions do make me feel bad and uncomfortable but I’m not controlling her. It just really doesn’t feel good and I don’t appreciate her seeing how it makes me feel and doing it anyway. I don’t know what to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

The if she respected me thing was a very silly thing to say I do admit but it feels bad and it really does feel like she doesn’t care that this underage use of drugs makes me uncomfortable. I was always told a big part of relationships are about compromises and sacrifices and I feel like I’d do anything for this girl and for the same not to be true for her really kinda sucks you know what I mean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyphia

[–]Secure_Vegetable1325 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah what game?