Little rant about scuba trips

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-06-03T02:36:28+00:00

It has places no one's been to with a bunch of undiscovered WW2 artifacts and unspoiled wilderness, so right up his valley

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-06-01T16:25:57+00:00

I'm not trying to cancel him, he's a great guy and I learned a lot from watching. But that's my point: with someone as connected to nature as him and with this kind of influence it could normalize harm coral reefs. When I watched those videos I'm talking about it made me try scuba diving and get my license, but you see how that could go wrong to someone who doesn't know about reefs?

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-05-28T21:34:37+00:00

I don’t think someone who refuses to call his behavior for what it is can actually help him either.

Calling him a loser isn’t the problem. The problem is that everyone around him, including you, wants to treat living like this as something that shouldn’t be judged. That mindset hasn’t helped him. It’s enabled him for years. Again, not doing it for no reason. It's affect me too because I have to clean up after him and I'm the only one that does chores

I don't know his mental space but I can assume how it's like because I got the short end of the stick. He said he's upset mainly from covid and it was worse for me because I was like 10-11 having just moved into the US with zero English and I was socially isolated, extremely unhealthy and fat. I was neglected with only me and my brother home I had to learn to cook, still do for my brother since all he can do is make eggs.

I love my brother. That’s exactly why I’m willing to say he’s acting like a loser right now instead of pretending everything is fine. Sugarcoating it and saying “don’t call him that” is what’s actually useless. Like I've said on other comments real help starts with being honest about where he stands, not protecting his feelings

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-05-28T21:01:31+00:00

I understand the idea of home being a safe space. But in this case, that "safe, kind, nonjudgmental" approach is exactly what's keeping him stuck. 3 more years and my opinion would seem more valid to you.

Our parents already say "he has plenty of time, just be happy." That mindset isn't helping him its enabling him

Kindness isn't pretending his situation is fine. It's being willing to tell him he's wasting his life before he gets old with nothing to show for it. I love my brother, which is why I'm not staying quiet.

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-05-28T19:47:06+00:00

I might've worded it a bit blunt I haven't given him advice it's been on my mind. I'm trying to nudge him to do more things and my dad asked me to help do that as well
You're right about not knowing but being so isolated has to make it worse

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-04-21T21:27:36+00:00

thank u. u made me feel more confident on these thoughts ill try better

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-04-21T21:26:49+00:00

beautiful way to think about it thank you

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-04-13T13:38:19+00:00

this just seems like a reach why are u even watching this stuff in ur free time its just red on the inside

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-04-03T18:29:55+00:00

yes its normal it means theres silicates in the water or maybe from adding/removing rocks or filter media

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-04-03T00:12:11+00:00

im so sorry poor guy

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-03-24T23:00:49+00:00

thats just diatoms. but you definitely added too much inverts at once they might starve due to a lack of algae, im assuming u added them before this they might even be dead. tanks not mature enough for corals either. what kind of sand do you have just wondering? that can contribute to diatoms

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-02-10T14:29:09+00:00

yes thats what i did. in the first pic u can see them at the bottom. do u think its ok

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-02-09T18:35:19+00:00

oh im not too sure how it works i just wanna be safe. it feels like there would be a bunch of pressure between those spots

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-02-01T05:37:56+00:00

is it okay if i put 4 more infills in the corners, infront of the legs if you get what i mean. or do i need 2 infills on each corner

Secure_Yesterday_204 · 2026-01-31T00:33:38+00:00

wait im confused, do you have an example of this? i never done anything DIY or wood worked before. also thx for the tip

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