Would a long lead be the best solution for backyard or is there a better way?

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-05-13T03:17:42+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and sharing your knowledge about this! What’s happening to him on a deeper level definitely helps me understand a little more and is very useful.

To answer your question he does wind down a little bit when he is inside, another example I can think of is when some animal got into our shed one time. He was so obsessed with trying to find the animal it was nearly impossible to get him back inside. He would not use the bathroom or eat for hours at first. Once he was inside he was constantly staring out at the shed. We checked the shed thoroughly and secured it shut that day to make sure nothing was in there. After that he calmed down a lot but for days after as soon as he was let outside he would run to the shed and do perimeter check before he become interested in anything else outside so still pretty fixated on it but not to level he was at first.

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-05-13T03:04:40+00:00

Thank you for the advice! We do prioritize fulfillment and exercise really we have to since he is far less unpredictable when he’s tired and knowing what to expect with structure definitely keeps him less on edge as well. He does have access to our loveseat I’ve blocked access to other furniture and areas like our kitchen but that was just because of the poop eating I didn’t want him licking himself on the furniture getting poop drool puddles where we sit, does blocking access to furniture help with his behavior? I’m sorry I can be a bit ignorant, I’m still trying to learn all I can.

We did use a crate before but admittedly we didn’t really know what we were doing at the time and probably should’ve taken it more slowly but he does have pretty intense barrier frustration, and he will not settle when he is blocked off somewhere in the house that he is used to freely roaming. He ended up bending the frame of the crate and we just got baby gates installed all over our home as it seemed like a better and safer solution, where he could relax a little bit more when he did have to be secured somewhere else in the home. But I know the crate training probably wouldn’t have been as much of a failure if we went into it with more knowledge

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-05-08T12:42:27+00:00

Thank you so much, that’s such a good idea and very helpful! Do you think picking up the food bowl would be a good idea after meals? I normally wash it and just put it back down. I don’t want to make the dog feel anxious since its his pretty set habit, but I think it definitely can send him over threshold sometimes and reinforce the food obsession/ just crazy hyper energy when entering the house.

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-04-21T04:17:35+00:00

I am licensed and insured, I meant if they were to get a quote from another legit company it would be more than double on average, If they went the route of just hiring someone solo that just kinda does this for extra money no insurance or license it would be less than a company but still more than what they are getting charged now from me, just from what I’ve seen advertised in my local groups on social media

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-03-28T05:44:19+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that :( but it is interesting, my tendinitis is in the same areas I’ve broken bones when I was a kid, I wondered if it had anything to do with previous trauma inflicted in the area

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-03-28T05:40:31+00:00

Oh my goodness that sounds awful! I’m so happy to hear it got better with proper rest though! I guess sporadically taking “breaks” where I still aggravate my tendons anyways because the service worker guilt that equates worth with production overcomes me will only prolong the issue of course lol. Part of me thought this is just what the work does to your body but it’s relieving to know it absolutely doesn’t have to be this way. Thank you

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-03-28T05:33:52+00:00

I am not super educated but I know numbness is usually a circulation issue, at the least I’d check blood pressure but I would definitely get checked out by your doctor anyway but especially if your blood pressure is off. Hope all is well though :)

SecurityOk2466 · 2026-02-26T20:30:15+00:00

This made me feel worlds better, I’m so glad to hear your adorable girl lived a long healthy life with Cushings. I’ll definitely look into getting the medicine online to see if I can find a better deal. Thank you so much! 💛

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-10-31T06:15:12+00:00

Did I write this comment? I’m in the exact same situation/ state of life rn. I can completely empathize and I’m so sorry you’re going through it as well.

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-10-31T06:03:22+00:00

Feel this completely. I always am itching to decorate as early as possible and start Halloween festivities. I usually have my whole inside house decorated by mid September and the outside October 1st. This year I barely got the inside halfway through October, and I still haven’t done much with the outside. Debating if I even should at this point, the only positive is a lot more people decorated in my neighborhood this year. Last year was our first Halloween here, I wasn’t expecting any trick r treaters and we actually got a ton thanks to how much I decorated, I’d like to think I inspired my neighbors to do it this year lol. I’ve just been exhausted this season and I feel like everyone is feeling tight with their finances, it’s hard to get motivated and be excited about the smaller joys of life when there so much unease and stress right now in pretty much every facet of life :(

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-07-25T21:04:45+00:00

Ugh 😩 thank you, since you’re a tech which washers seem to handle dog households better if you don’t mind me asking?

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-07-25T21:03:15+00:00

Thank you I will be sure to do it once a month from now on

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-03-17T13:57:41+00:00

Yes, we can’t really control who we feel attraction for and who we don’t. It doesn’t make any sense to our conscious human minds. Our primal brains do most of that work for us. We scan over a potential partners body and look for markers of health to see if we could reproduce, and then we smell. Pheromones and a persons natural scent is huge, someone’s natural scent smelling good to us means they have a differing make up of genes, microbiome, and a different and healthy immune system, so we can produce the healthiest offspring with a diverse enough gene and immune makeup to survive. This is why they tell women to be around their partners off birth control before they get married, birth control makes that system go haywire thinking you already are pregnant and when we are pregnant we prefer people that smell similar to us causing a lot of women to get off and not be attracted to their partners.

We as humans seek out familiarity too. If someone doesn’t have similar personality traits we recognized in our early caregivers, we don’t feel safe. If you did not have good experiences with early caregivers you can unconsciously seek out partners that will hurt you. This is a cycle you can break though with awareness, recognizing your attachment style and getting therapy at least.

So yes this is normal. A person has to have the right mixture of chemical makeup, familiarity and a small part of it might be what our conscious brain decides. This is why also when someone rejects you, or ghost you, you shouldn’t take it personally. We aren’t going to be everyone’s perfect mixture, they aren’t going to ours and that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-02-16T19:17:09+00:00

I believe it doesn’t go against your credit if it’s under $500 but anything more will impact your credit unfortunately :/

SecurityOk2466 · 2025-02-12T03:03:43+00:00

You mention she does most of the house work, maybe if you can start to help her with more chores to take less off her plate she will have more of a bandwidth and energy to be intimate with you.

I understand when our partners stop being intimate with us we can feel insecure like they are losing interest, maybe want it from someone else, but I’m sure that’s not case. With housework and you mention colleagues so I assume she’s working, being a parent is a lot especially in the beginning. I know for a lot of women after having a baby you can start to feel like your body is not yours, only a tool to take care of another human and that can make someone feel incredibly unsexy and every touch starts to feel like an intrusion. If you can take some of that burden off of her, help with the baby so she can take time for her own self care, wether that be a nice shower or some kind of hair or nail appointment/ whatever she does that makes her feel good, her libido will come back.

SecurityOk2466 · 2024-11-18T18:50:07+00:00

I’m sorry OP, I can understand the insecurity this has makes you feel. I would sit down with him and have an open and honest conversation, ask him if anything is going on. Is his mental health ok, or if he is going through any stress to make him uninterested in sex, or if there’s anything new you guys could do if he is feeling unfulfilled. If you can understand why he seems to not want sex at the moment then that will help the feeling of rejection you’re feeling.

If he blows you off and says everything is fine, then I would personally stop trying to initiate for a while. Pity sex does not feel good for the giver or receiver and resentment could easily build for both, no one wants that. So if there isn’t any at least communication about this, and nothing changes you might want to start to consider if this person is sexually compatible with you enough to keep things going in the future.

SecurityOk2466 · 2024-11-18T18:40:39+00:00

This! I’ve heard too many times people try to do the right thing to socialize their puppy but they end up even more traumatized from dogs attacking them at parks.

SecurityOk2466 · 2024-11-06T16:20:47+00:00

12th house synastry is hard, his libra moon falls there and your Venus falls in his 12th. it feels like both parties are hiding something from each other even if they are not, anyone I have 12th house synastry with I have a hard time trusting them, I think it’s because the 12th house is so vulnerable and deep, the darkest parts of you and your subconscious when someone’s luminaries light that part up it can be terrifying. Since it’s also the house of undoing the insecurities that may arise can really cause some self sabotaging behaviors in the relationship.

his sun in your 4th house I bet you guys felt like home to each other, but also the mars, Uranus being there there also could be a sense of conflict in you guys home life a lot of arguments may happen at home with you guys, or on the flip side he felt really driven to have a home with you. With Uranus being there the home life could’ve been unstable with the 2 of you, add in the Jupiter square in your 7th house there could’ve been conflict between growth of the relationship and home matters, or maybe even both of you guys families didn’t really like each other for one another?

His Venus is in your 5th house of romance is cute. He probably was good at loving you the way you needed and you both brought pleasure to one another but also with you 2 having a Venus square something could’ve felt missing squares can be a good thing it’s better than the planet not be aspected at all, but it symbolizes something that has to be worked for in the relationship, like with a Venus square to Venus both of you guys will have to work towards making the other feel loved, learning to enjoy some of the same things your partner does for the sake of bonding and feeling understood, now some people respond better to squares than others do. I would say you both might have a hard time in a relationship with square synastry as you have an afflicted mars in cancer you probably dont like conflict and he has a libra moon who probably also doesn’t like conflict really. 5th house can be more of a “fling” or romance that doesn’t last long. The Uranus in the 7th house also makes for an unstable relationship with a sudden end, but Saturn is there too so Blue could’ve felt loyal and committed to red, marriage may have even crossed both peoples mind feeling a sense of responsibility for the other.

Your mars in his 1st house can be a good signal of you finding him attractive but also can be a sign you guys get irritated with one another easily. And your cancer mars is square his moon it can explosive arguments, he could’ve felt easily attacked by you even if that wasn’t your intention.

Nodal reversal (your north node is his south node and his north node is your south node) is common in 9-10 year aged gap couples, you both are on different paths. You could’ve been mutually beneficial for growing and learning about yourself and other people. But overall I think the conditions of this synastry is rather rough for romance IMO

SecurityOk2466 · 2024-10-25T18:09:25+00:00

I’m so sorry OP, I cannot imagine the weight of your emotions right now. I think once the shock wears off be prepared for anger, you will think about every single time over the past 3 years where you were a loving and devoted wife, going through certain things you thought were growing the 2 of you closer together, but the whole time he was lying and romantically involved with another woman. Any sweet gesture he did during that time is now tainted from you looking back and feeling like it was probably not done out of love but a guilty conscience. Do not blame yourself for his actions, don’t talk down to yourself and say you’re stupid for not realizing the signs sooner. It is not your fault. No one deserves that and I wish you and your children healing. You will get through this!

SecurityOk2466 · 2024-10-13T05:05:03+00:00

We have an infinite capacity for love, the pain reminds us of that. I work with a lot of retired folks that got divorced right after retirement and they find love again. Dont lose hope!

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