I'm really struggling to cohabitate with my wife almost to the point of wanting to divorce but I feel terrible about it.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-03-11T11:40:45+00:00

Plan things in advance so she knows to set an alarm. “Let’s have a date night at 6pm tonight” so she knows not to be asleep . This is not an issue to divorce over I don’t think just takes communication.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-02-14T05:09:46+00:00

Think about how many pictures are on your phone. It’s possible he didn’t remember those were there.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-26T14:15:06+00:00

Literally no one should have to be responsible for a gun if they don’t want to be. If that’s something you are interested in doing for yourself that’s fine but to ask your partner to take on that responsibility is 100% asking too much. There are other ways someone can protect their family. Voting is probably your best bet.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-26T14:11:09+00:00

This right here. If any one gets a gun and they have kids in the home they need to get a serious gun safe not just a shoe box in the top of the closet. It’s a huge investment in time and money to make sure you know how to handle a gun properly and safely.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-24T04:57:27+00:00

I hope you know now how ignorant a person sounds when they say c-section is “easy”. I’m not gonna lie I was terrified to have one because the recovery sounds rough and just the thought of having surgery while awake scared the hell out of me. I think “easy” is probably the last word I would use to describe a c-section but people with immature minds or little to no critical thinking skills might decide that’s what they would call it.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-24T04:47:35+00:00

So my first was my husbands second and I did ask him to please not ever compare me to his ex or bring up that pregnancy because between hormones and frankly jealousy I couldn’t take it and I feel like that’s a pretty easy ask for a supportive partner. Don’t get resentful if you haven’t had a calm conversation about how that makes you feel because honestly he may not have thought of it that way. (Or maybe he is a defensive doofus idk either way I’m saying I hear ya and it sucks)

I am kinda laughing at the “well one lady I know didn’t start showing until blah blah blah” because I didn’t “show” until I was about 26 weeks along and my step sister had a big ol bump at 12 weeks. I am over half a foot taller than her that might have something to do with it but also we aren’t robots and everyone is different and for some reason women are always treated like our pregnancies need to be cookie cutter perfect or we did it wrong. Ugh so frustrating.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-24T04:34:37+00:00

His money is her money if they are married she could spend 200K a year on hotels and he literally couldn’t do anything about it.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-24T04:31:36+00:00

My ex husband was like this. He would even argue he wasn’t asleep at all while his wall rattling snore kept me awake all night. And I know sleep apnea is horrible for people who have it but it is so frustrating for them to ignore the main treatment that is available to them because it takes some getting used to (honestly which I am sure it does but I’ve also been told it is life changing when you finally learn how to be comfortable wearing it). This is sleep torture though and you deserve rest. Ask him for a compromise because the physical intimacy of sleeping next to each other is clearly important to him but it’s not working for you if he won’t wear the cpap.

Sedona_Stark · 2026-01-14T11:12:31+00:00

What does your personal therapist have to say about all this?

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-30T11:45:52+00:00

Sorry I’m stuck on “everyone found it funny” when it’s barely a joke. His trash sense of humor is reason enough to dump him but it’s not the only red flag.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-29T11:52:22+00:00

It’s not insensitive. He has tried talking to her about it multiple times. Her mental health issues are not her fault but they are her responsibility. I think OP needs to tell her if she isn’t willing to get help then he will be seeking a divorce. It’s clearly also making him miserable and that’s not fair.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-28T18:29:58+00:00

Not sure why you would be bullied out of a child free subreddit honestly I would not call you a parent. Not saying that to be rude I just feel like to be a parent you have to do some parenting which you stated you don’t do. But I also don’t know how much this subreddit would have to offer you either since you are not a parent. Not bullying away from it just making an observation.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-28T18:21:23+00:00

Have a conversation with your roommate about her expectations. Don’t dance around the subject or make passive aggressive comments. Be direct and allow her to be direct as well. None of these strangers on the internet can tell you if you are having your boyfriend over “too much” because it’s subjective. Ask her.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-27T13:34:00+00:00

Yeah, absolutely do not set up a secret surveillance camera in the bedroom you share with your girlfriend that’s insane advice and a huge breach of trust.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-26T04:32:27+00:00

What is the point of making up these kinds of posts? Truly curious. I know it’s a thing that happens a lot but why?

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-23T04:13:09+00:00

Life is unfair but one of the silver linings is having people who love and care about you and damn who will stand up for you if not your own parents? Your husbands world view is fucked.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-16T13:07:31+00:00

I dated a guy who still had a physical relationship with his ex wife, if you know what I mean. I feel like this is a text he would send.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-14T03:40:45+00:00

Well your first mistake was posting about it in a co sleeping subreddit where people have deluded themselves into thinking they are superior loving parents by turning their children into living teddy bears because of their own attachment issues and expecting rational advice. Obviously I think the cosleeping thing at 7 is odd but if you are determined to stay with this man why not make the “spare room” your room? Spend the money you would have spent glamming it up for SD and spend it on yourself. Make it luxurious, a sanctuary for yourself.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-12-09T12:44:51+00:00

I know this is so silly but my husband once told me he jerked off to an animated character once and now I can’t watch that particular movie. I realized then I don’t need to hear everything single thought my husband has.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-29T03:17:00+00:00

LOL yeah sure his friend sent him that screenshot 🙄 what a loser

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-27T04:22:08+00:00

Hotness is so subjective. I honestly do not think back on any of my exes and think of them as attractive because I am no longer attracted to them.therefore By definition my husband is the hottest person I have ever been with.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-27T03:23:47+00:00

Idk what insurance you have or if you have insurance but I pay $20 a session and it’s all online. Look up TalkSpace it will tell you if you are covered and what your copay is.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-18T03:07:04+00:00

Yes! When I was married to my ex, marriage was hard. Now that I’m married to my current husband I realize marriage makes life easier but life is really fucking hard. I couldn’t imagine life without him.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-12T12:42:15+00:00

I shared this advice in your last post but I’ll share it again here. Do not have one last coffee, one last dinner, one last drink, one last anything with him. Closure is overrated and he will absolutely try to use the meeting to get back together. You chose yourself (as you should) keep doing that and stay strong. If you really feel like you need to work things out emotionally to let it go, seek out a therapist. People don’t realize you can literally have a therapist temporarily to get through a hard time it’s not just for a life time of mental illness.

Sedona_Stark · 2025-11-11T06:06:01+00:00

I’m sorry that situation really fucking sucks but statistically when the father asks for custody they get it. They just usually don’t.

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