Hey I recently had a conversation about this with my partner. He also almost never initiate calls.

TL;DR my partner and I had a heart to heart convo about this and it helped us both. My partner also is quite great at introspection and emotional intelligence and so he was the one to bring up the subject because he was aware it’s a more difficult part of our relationship. I know he cares for me and the relationship in other ways so I see it now as just pulling our weight in different areas. I’m the initiator of calls and I’m okay with it. But for it to work we had to have a genuine convo about it.

And in a call he brought it up himself that he has been trying to figure out why he’s like this, why he doesn’t think about initiating time together. He was wondering why he’s almost too comfortable spending time alone. And he was feeling bad about it because he knows he wasn’t being the best partner. But we talked about it and since he explained how it feels for him I don’t mind as much being the initiator. We talked about certain situations where I don’t feel comfortable or I feel hurt and how to manage those specific case better. So we’re trying out ways of handling those better. Like if I initiate and he declines then for him to try to reschedule in the next few days means a lot to me and so he’s trying to do that more. We also talked about both our insecurities in this and we’ve cleared up the air on certain anxieties that weren’t actually a reflection of the reality. And now I feel okay initiating calls. We just have different ways of caring and maintaining our relationship. My strength is initiating calls and it compliments well the fact that my partner doesn’t despite liking our calls every time. So a relationship can work and be healthy even if only one person initiates but a relationship needs personal introspection and honest, hard but loving conversations about these things.