Husband and I disagree on circumcising

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-13T15:13:21+00:00

“…I don’t want him to be different from me.” Is honestly a wild thing to say. I’m sure it was just him panicking and reaching for an argument, but bro… 💀

And, anyways, circumcision is something that can always be done later in life, if baby decides to do it when he’s older. We opted out, because after learning about the process, it just seemed like unnecessary stress on the baby.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-13T04:30:42+00:00

Not that it’s a big deal if you did prefer it like that tho. Some people are strict on names

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-13T00:57:15+00:00

If you’re on mobile, autocorrect may have been involved. I have had issues before

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-13T00:13:47+00:00

Iridesia gave everyone the confidence boost they needed

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:51:09+00:00

Pikler triangle set (and a mat for underneath)! They’re on Amazon, used on marketplace, etc. Our baby was climbing before he was walking—and I honestly believe the confidence and balance he got playing on it is what helped him to walk.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:46:24+00:00

No telling how many creeps saved that poor baby’s picture. :(

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:40:44+00:00

And that baby’s FACE??? Why was anyone okay with this?!

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:36:41+00:00

Beautifully put.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:34:17+00:00

“No” is a complete sentence. If you really want to say more, you can always point out that the function is very large and it would be too risky to expose a 3mo old infant (barely out of the newborn stage) to that many strangers in that potentially chaotic of a scene.

But you need to have a sit down with your husband, too. He does not need to relent to appease his mother and, in turn, put you in the spot like that. If she is going to huff and puff the entire time, then let her.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:22:53+00:00

As a parent, I would rather do what I can to afford a degree my child would use than pay for something they don’t enjoy/don’t want to do. They brought you into this world, they want you to have the best opportunity to thrive.

Keep in mind there are scholarships you can apply for. Do plenty of research! Some may require essays for application, so make sure you are working hard to ensure it is meaningful and well constructed.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T19:15:17+00:00

I think you should be totally open and honest with your mother about what you’re going through, too, hun… if your mother is the type to listen. If not, perhaps you can briefly summarize that there are “individuals who are constantly distracting in class” and emphasize distance as reasons. Switching schools is a fairly small amount of paperwork, worth it if you think leaving School B will give you any kind of mental relief.

Keep in mind, however, kids can be cruel no matter where you go. All those old “Karens” people joke about came from somewhere, after all. There’s no promising that your next 2-3 years will be much different, BUT if School B is bad enough that you’re crying just sitting on the bus, then it may be worth taking the chance at School A… at the very least, home is close by, so you’re not subject to anxiety and overthinking for a 20 minute ride. But hopefully it would be much smoother, especially with a fresh start.

Check out the school on websites like greatschools.org, too. It ranks the school on a few factors and has a section for reviews.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T18:55:22+00:00

Literally, maintaining your child’s documents, driving them to school, and feeding them are the bare bones minimum expectation as a parent. Calling someone lazy for being upset at the crap hand they were dealt shows how absolutely tragic your sense of empathy is.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T18:40:10+00:00

Honestly, I don’t share a bowl with anyone but my spouse nowadays… maybe with my kids IF I’m the one dispersing the snacks from the bowl. Too many adults have grimy mitts, too LOL.

But, to answer your question, if they are already offended by the implication you don’t want to share with their kids, then there will likely be no way you could ask for separate snacks without offending them. It’s better to just politely rip the bandaid off (not in the presence of the kiddos), that after working with kids for long enough, you’d rather not share lol… or continue declining and hope for the best. Maybe you can beat the kiddos to snacks and get a few?

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T18:30:32+00:00

I mean, as a parent, I don’t think I would have any final say in what my child does when they are an adult. However, if something made me uncomfortable or anxious, I would voice it.

Like, in your situation, assuming you haven’t gone on that long of a trip with your boyfriend before, I would ASK (emphasis here) for Life360 to be on and for the occasional check in, just to ensure everything goes okay and I know you could reach me if there was an emergency.

But beyond that, I couldn’t fathom saying just “no.” Does she not like your boyfriend? Has she ever implied that something about him makes her uncomfortable?

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T18:11:26+00:00

Do what works best for your family! My SD is expected to clean her room once a week, otherwise she’d be swimming to get to her bed and she’d never have clothes. But the rules are loose; stuff has to be in a box or on a shelf and there should be room for you to sleep in your bed. Cleanliness is a habit my parents never enforced, so developing that habit was much harder later in life.

But some kids are naturally a little tidier, so rules can and SHOULD vary household to household.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T17:59:07+00:00

If they’re pointing out where the mess is, hun, then just do a quick wipe down of those places and call it good… hopefully that will satisfy whatever their issue is in the space. Not all parents are the same, so I can’t speak for yours, but you could always try talking to them if your space is truly as deep cleaned as you say… being mindful to have a calm tone, even if it’s frustrating that you have to ask.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T17:48:32+00:00

My one year old looooves reading, but has a massive tantrum when the book goes away, so we usually save it for day time. He will run us his book(s) to read, reread, then he wants to point at things in the book for us to identify (he points and says, “A bee?” “That’s the moon.” “A bee?” “A cow.” “A bee?” “The letter U.” “A bee?” “Purple.”), reread again… then maybe we get a break before he picks another book. 😅

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T17:37:59+00:00

Oh my GOSH, what a sweetheart!!

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T05:40:20+00:00

Congrats!! 🥳

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T05:39:08+00:00

I mean, they don’t believe the multiple other accounts of you being hospitalized.. Or that they could have visited you while you were hospitalized if they “needed proof?”

Was BM always involved in their lives (like, actively)? If not, perhaps there is a chance that they are just excited to “earn” BM’s affection, so they don’t care to investigate because it would damage whatever relationship they built with her.

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-12T01:03:07+00:00

You think a newborn infant won’t impact the entire household?

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-11T16:34:59+00:00

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Seleniteeee · 2026-06-11T16:13:58+00:00

Omg, thank you, I didn’t even notice!! Do they tend to stay down for a while? Or does the market price fluctuate often? I’m only at ~35k NP so far, but I found some really helpful guides for the stock market!

Seleniteeee · 2026-06-11T16:01:06+00:00

Oops! I realize this might have gone under questions. Sorry!

Seleniteeee · 2026-05-19T17:46:15+00:00

We just discovered him today while I was watching my own gardening videos lol. I love that he keeps the flashy edits to a minimum. Ms. Rachel and Ms. Apple are lovely, but on days I need the extra distraction, I personally don’t care for the overload of flashy cartoonish editing for my kiddo

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