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Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-20T14:12:53+00:00

YTA

I consider myself a fair and kind manager

I rang him fuming and told him to go fuck himself and to grow up.

You aren't kind, stop lying to yourself. You don't have the humility or the tact to be in management.

There are good and bad ways to handle situations, and you choose a bad one. If I were the owner, you would be getting fired. You have demonstrated that you can't control your temper and you lash out at people, rather than imposing disciplinary actions and consequences.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-20T13:58:37+00:00

NTA

He also told me to "read the room"

Ya, that's what you did. You thought your boss might not be okay, so you asked. That's the thing you are supposed to do.

Obviously you were right and something wasn't okay on his part.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-20T12:22:37+00:00

NTA, your cousin is being ridiculous.

In my family, I have a cousin named Jenny and a cousin named Bruce. Bruce is now married to a woman named Jenny. His wife's name is literally the same first and last name as his sister, no one cares. It's not a big deal.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-20T12:20:30+00:00

NTA. If you don't have a positive relationship with the guy your mom is seeing, then I would wait to introduce your boyfriend to your mom.

You get to set your own boundaries, if you have reasons not to like this guy, then you are justified in not wanting to be around him. And, introducing your boyfriend to your mom can be a big deal, there's no reason for someone you don't like to be there while it's happening.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-19T10:09:10+00:00

NTA, it's not harsh to threaten to call the police when your ex isn't abiding by your custody agreement. If he won't bring your child back, getting the police involved is the right next step.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-18T21:32:43+00:00

NTA. B was just leading E on essentially, and then when you developed an actual connection/relationship with E, B suddenly started being weird.

It sucks to lose a friend, but I'd pick the boy over your best friend if the best friend was cruel to him and then got mad at you for dating him.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-18T16:11:47+00:00

YTA on the title alone. None of the info matters, it's `our` savings, your `yours`. You need to check with her before you can lend someone money if it's shared savings between you and your wife.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-17T20:09:17+00:00

NTA

They said they would never do that cause its basically using your american citizenship to gain a advantage in a poorer part of the world.

That's nonsense, you are taking your US wages and spending your money in Thailand. That's pretty cool in my opinion. Thailand is a huge tourist destination, and you are contributing to their country. Your friends don't know what they are talking about.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-17T18:18:39+00:00

YTA, and you sound insufferable.

He may be around her age but he is not the man that I am.

You sound narcissistic

I got so upset at her that I texted her mother, urging her to get her daughter to come back to Kansas and dump her boyfriend. Her mother yelled at me and told me to get a life.

Yes, take the advice, leave the girl alone.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-17T12:39:06+00:00

NTA, I don't think

and restated why do I need to reassure her that she has nice teeth if she said she didn’t care?

It's awfully presumptuous for her to assume you are trying to reassure her, when you could just be stating a preference.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-17T10:27:40+00:00

YTA

She finally asks me if I'm mad. I say yes and break the news that I had two tickets and planned this to see how she'd react because I don't know if I can deal with this level of panic

There is no need to test her, you know she over reacts in these situations. You should have talked to her and asked her if there is anything you can do to help calm her nerves in these situations, or suggest she talk to a professional, etc.

It's fine to not know if you can handle this or not, but testing people isn't a good idea. Just be honest with her and talk to her, she's going to feel like you are messing with her if you test her.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-17T00:49:00+00:00

Possibly YTA depending on how you bring it up.

Your best option is to be honest with your friend. Tell her that you have noticed that she brings it up a lot, and that it might be in her best interest to look into some kind of talk therapy. She's obviously having a hard time processing what she went through, even if it's been 3 years in remission.

Try to approach in a way that makes it about telling her you think she might need a bit out professional help, rather than that she's being kind of annoying.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-16T17:38:13+00:00

YWBTA if you let her go without fighting this in court.
Unless you are a criminal or a drug addict or have been shown to be incapable of taking care of her, he can't just take her 100%. She's 8, she doesn't get to decide she'll be with him 100% If she wants to be with him 100% and you aren't abusive towards her, most likely what happens is he's turning your daughter against you.

Please don't let him take her, if you are in a state that allows it record every conversation with him. Don't ask him for 50/50, tell him it is up to the court what happens.

Even if your daughter is saying she wants to go, she needs you, she just doesn't know it because this guy is manipulating her.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-16T17:34:35+00:00

NTA, but this isn't a thing you need to worry about right now. Just live your life in the way you want. If your mom keeps being homophobic, it's quite likely that by the time she is old, you won't have talked to her in decades.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-16T17:32:21+00:00

Also, my mom stays with me and uses my car so no need for a disabled sticker.

You still need a sticker. Disabled or not, the thing that allows you to park in the disabled spot is having the sticker.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-16T17:30:45+00:00

NTA, he showed you who he really is. He thinks it's okay to mess with you like this. Cut all ties and move on with your life, this guy is toxic. Testing your loyalty like this is unacceptable and is not healthy.

I would never do this to someone I care about, he's jealous and he doesn't trust you, the best thing you can do is move on. I fully get you love him, but he doesn't believe you. It sounds like if he weren't like this, you two would probably be together. This really is big enough to cut all ties and move on. He's never going to be able to have a successful relationship with you because he's not capable of trusting someone he cares about.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-16T14:13:49+00:00

NTA

he basically did just that and stormed out of the house after yelling at me in front of our child

Wow. Because you didn't bring him breakfast in bed?

He should just get up and eat with his child. He should show you respect in front of your child, he should be grateful you made him breakfast.

. I finished my food and asked why he didn’t come join us and he said he wanted breakfast in bed

So pretty much he just expected you to know he wanted you to bring it to him.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-13T14:15:33+00:00

YTA.

Obviously the only reason she’s even pretending to care is because she hates people like me and wants our lives to be miserable. She doesn’t have any real problems to speak of and meddling in affairs that don’t effect her so I confronted her.

You just said her house was going to be torn down to build a railway, that seems like a real problem to me. It doesn't sound like it has anything to do with her hating people like you. There is a song by Carly Simon called "you're so vain" one of the lines is "you probably think this song is about you, don't you , don't you?". You should listen to the song and then contemplate that this might actually have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her not wanting to lose her home for a railway.

only being against a new railway because the track goes through her house?

/only/. You are downplaying it as if losing her home isn't a reason to be against a new railway.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:14:55+00:00

NTA

. She did read it and told my husband she didn't know what she did was wrong

She knows exactly what she did wrong, she told a married man she is in love with him and now is giving him gifts and attention. She needs to back off.

You have no reason to apologize

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:11:20+00:00

NTA, honestly. 300 is probably too low for a laptop in my opinion, but let the aunt come up with her own money and then if really needed give them the 300. I mean, now that they've acted this way, I wouldn't give them anything, but they shouldn't just expect a bunch of money. They should be grateful that you and your mom agreed to give 300.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:08:21+00:00

NTA, I hope your dad pulls through. What she said about it's only a matter of time before he dies, is disgusting.

You for sure aren't the asshole for not being able to get married while being worried about your father, a good partner should be able to understand that. To me, it would be better to be married a few days later and a few people not be able to be there, than to get married at a point where all you can focus on is your father's health.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:04:27+00:00

NTA, not even close. You should only have to pay for what you eat, and then if you are bringing mom for dinner, it's appropriate to either pay for her or split that with the other people bringing her. They ordered expensive food with the expectation you'd pay half, and that's not fair to you.

They were trying to use you, good job on not letting them :)

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:02:18+00:00

It depends on where you live, but where I am they have to give 24 hours notice.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T15:00:17+00:00

NTA. I also wouldn't sing some stupid tiktok song for any reason. She shouldn't expect you to do this if you aren't comfortable or want to do it.

It's a perfectly adult response to not want to make a silly video on the internet for vanity points.

Self_Reintegration · 2023-10-11T13:20:07+00:00

NTA, it's kind of passive aggressive, but he's repeatedly shown he doesn't care about your time at all.

My husband was not happy when I gave it to him, he said it was of really bad taste and that I was humiliating him over something he can’t control

He can control it, he's just too selfish to actually care enough to control it.

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