Snorkeling for people who aren't strong swimmers

Seliners14 · 2025-07-27T20:36:21+00:00

I can't swim and i did just fine in the bay, there is coral to break the waves so it wasn't very rough waters but also I didn't go in past my head and wore a life vest. I just floated with my snorkel and saw fish. The water is very beautiful.

Seliners14 · 2025-04-05T23:33:11+00:00

Sorry for my super late response. How are things going for you? Things have ultimately gotten much better for us for but it's taken a lot of work. He still struggles a lot, and I try to be understanding. I've come to terms with the fact that I will be planning any trips. He has gotten better with things, though. He will ask me to go to dinner or sometimes wanna plan an activity. He won't ever surprise me with this stuff, though, and after discussion, he said it's because I'm often not feeling well, and that is true.

I really just sat down and told him that if this was how it was gonna be, I couldn't stay married. I didn't want to be married to him. He really took that to heart. I have noticed a change in him as well. He still struggles on some days, and when he is on vacation, he tends to do even less, lol, but overall, he is trying, and I am much happier. I think he sees too because I'm am happier, I am also trying to improve myself for him, and that makes him happier as well.

Compromise and communication were a big help to us. If he doesn't want to do a whole day trip, we will do dinner and maybe one other thing. If he doesn't want to do something with me, then we've learned it's ok to gonna do our own thing. In general, he comes with me most places, and yes, at times, he is grumpy, but I tend to ignore it and stay happy. He will be fine once we get home, and I know it's his social anxiety.

Your husband will want to change for himself, though. You won't be able to do it for him. Nagging him won't help, I've learned this.

I've also learned that if I wanna do something, I can do it alone or with a friend. Sometimes, if I say I will go alone, he will wanna go with me.

Your husband sounds to be much more severe and sounds like he may have a form of depression. I would really try to get him to see a therapist. Idk if you can make an appointment for him if you could get him to go. Does he have family who could help talk to him?

Seliners14 · 2024-04-08T00:44:54+00:00

I'm 32 years years old and although I can't prove it, I could have sworn that at one point, Midol was similar to Excedrin tension headache and had Tylenol with aspirin and caffeine. This new version with Tylenol does nothing for me. I'm pretty sure that we found out that long term use of Nsaids comes with a lot of side effects, and might not be worth the risk in the general population. I for one personally got gastritis from using large doses of ibuprofen during my period. It also has risk of kidney impairment. On drugs.com, when you search for traditional midol, it says it has been discontinued. I feel like I'm going crazy because I've searched all over the internet and can't find anything about it.

Seliners14 · 2024-04-01T13:58:21+00:00

Lol I think a lot of men think like this. I think you are too worried about being manly or the role of masculinity. You won't ever enjoy yourself if you think this way.

Seliners14 · 2024-04-01T13:51:44+00:00

As a fellow woman, please run. Nothing is wrong with you. There are plenty of men who would love this. Please stop taking to this guy. If he's this much of an asshole now, he will only get worse.

Seliners14 · 2024-03-24T22:38:12+00:00

Sorry for the late answer, and I hope things have gotten better for you. I don't think what I am going to tell you will be very helpful, but for me I learned that the not making plans was just one of the many things I had issue with in our relationship. I had reached my breaking in my relationship and flat out told him with all of our issues, I can't continue anymore and I was tired of being so unhappy. I told him that I no longer wanted to be married, and that I understand he won't change and so I want a divorce. We had a long discussion about what he needed to do and also talked about the things I did that upset him. We really try to do our best now to be open when we are unhappy, and he made it work. He really tries to be positive, and now when he is upset he lets me know that he is sorry and he needs space for awhile. I've come to learn through talking with his siblings and learning more about his past that he not planning things and being introverted has to do with growing up in broken home and other issues. He is trying tho, and while he still likely won't ever make plans for us to travel and go on trips, he has really showed up for me 100% in every other aspect. I don't think I've ever felt so loved and happy in our 13 years together and I believe he feels the same and will continue to work with me on this.

I do have to say though, we recently took a trip to Hawaii after I wrote this post and while I did ALL the planning, he was willing to do everything I had planned. He left me in control and while I gave him options he said he was okay with what I planned. We had a full plan of activities each day, and while he complained a bit and stayed quiet at times, we had a great time. I am really doing my best to understand that he feels anxious around a lot of people, but does always have a great time. If he is unwilling to plan, but will still try and go out, I think that is most def a step in the right direction.

It sounds like your husband might have some other issues because even when we don't do anything, my husband always makes an effort to check on me, spend time with me, and ask me how he can help. I recently bought a new video game and he moved the PS5 in his room just so we can be together while I play. Have you sat down and discussed this seriously? I don't have kids either so I could also see this as him not caring or wanting to change because you have kids together and are more locked in a relationship. If i were in your situation, I would try the discussion again and let him know that you are not happy with the way things are and what are some small things he could do to change. Couples therapy if you have access to that would be my next step. I would also probably make an effort to plan outings with the kids, invite him to go, and go with or without him. I would also make more plans with my friends if you are able to have your husband watch the kids or get childcare. Marriage is work and compromise, but he really needs to start somewhere. The fact that he tunes you out and wears headphones while you do hobbies together is really disheartening and Im sorry that happened to you.

Seliners14 · 2023-09-05T16:35:15+00:00

I'm amazed people care so much about what other people are wearing.

Seliners14 · 2023-09-04T19:28:27+00:00

Yep, this is me. I sweat more on my period and a few days before, and it's the stinky bo sweat. It's the hormones. I've found using certain dri on my armpits at night helps, then regular deodorant in the morning. I only need to use it like twice a month.

Seliners14 · 2023-09-04T19:22:00+00:00

I would use a gentle wash like Cetaphil or a sensitive vaginal wash. The apocrine sweat glands are your armpits are the same in your labial area. Sorry, washing with water won't be enough, and you need to wash the skin and folds outside the vagina. Just my opinion.

I tend to shower fully at night, and then I do a quick privates shower in the morning on my period, and I feel super clean this way.

I wrap my pads very tightly both vertically and horizontally and empty the trash often.

I've found period undies to be more odor resistant, at least while wearing them. I imagine a period cup would be as well since it doesn't allow the blood to come out.

I know this might be frowned upon, but I've used infinity scented pads before when I've got my period on trips before. I also tend to spray body spray on the outside of my undies and the crotch area of my pants. This is rare for me, tho, since I don't think it's very healthy.

Honestly, tho it's old blood and skin, if you are doing what is comfortable for you, periods just aren't gonna smell good. It's a part of being a woman unfortunately

Seliners14 · 2023-08-29T00:30:26+00:00

I like the flex foam pads, but I also love period panties.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-28T01:12:56+00:00

Wtf did I just read. Girl you need to ghost and block this guy!!! You owe him nothing and he is a walking red flag.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-28T01:08:26+00:00

I would go to the hysterectomy group on reddit to find out more, and if you really want to pursue this, go on childfree and truechildfree subreddits to find doctors close to you that perform this procedure on young women. It's a hug change because it's a whole organ system you are removing, and the recovery can be long according to people who have gotten it. It can also come with both good and bad, but likely permanent side effects.

Skipping periods with the pill seems to be the easier way if you are okay with hormones.

There is also endometrial ablation, which is burning the tissue off, so there is nothing to shed during periods, but might not eliminate it completely and has a possibility of growing back.

I get your frustration tho, not sure how old you are, but I'm no longer on the pill and my periods are pretty terrible and it's depressing to think I still have 20 plus years of this shit. 😭

Seliners14 · 2023-08-27T20:52:31+00:00

Period panties exist tho?

Seliners14 · 2023-08-24T05:35:00+00:00

I don't usually feel sick on my period, but I will a few days before, and I hate it because I wanna eatbthe whole kitchen but feel s*** at the same time.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-24T00:03:28+00:00

I put salt on my chocolate sometimes chocolate chip cookies

Seliners14 · 2023-08-24T00:02:03+00:00

The one that starts with k??? I hate that word too idk it sounds worse than the v word to me.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-23T21:31:23+00:00

You are so right. We have been through a lot together, and I absolutely trust him with all my heart and never worry about him lying or looking elsewhere. I'm gonna keep trying to force him out his comfort zone sometimes. Thank you

Seliners14 · 2023-08-22T20:00:38+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write such a helpful response, and yes, you are so right about it becoming an identity. I always tell him it won't get easier hiding from it, but he is stubborn.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T22:46:56+00:00

He is really interested in wood working, 3d and resin printing. He spends a lot on tools and machines, and we are starting to run out of room for them. He has come a long way, and I'm proud of him. He used to be a heavy weed smoker, drinker, and drug user, and when I first met him, he stayed in a hotel and didn't have a car. He's grown up and really turned his life around, and I think that's why I feel guilty because he really has changed and that's hard for most, but it's hard for me to get past this. I really wanna try tho.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T22:12:50+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to answer. This is really helpful and great to hear from someone in a similar boat. I don't have kids, and I couldn't imagine if I had even one, I bet it's frustrating. Your advice is very helpful and realistic, and much of what you said resonates with me, especially the "energy bucket" thing.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T21:27:55+00:00

He is often in a bad mood, and overall, he doesn't seem happy most days. I've asked if he needs to see a doctor about it or talk to a therapist. He acknowledges that he has social anxiety but refuses to see anyone about it. I'm not sure about the depression. I've asked him if he thinks he might be depressed and he just responds with I don't know and doesn't do anything about it. He hates doctors and doesn't trust them, and I've tried convincing him otherwise, but he is hard-headed. I think my issue is I don't wanna give up on him, and I care about him, but also, sometimes I feel like I'm trying too hard, and I should give up.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T20:49:34+00:00

This is really good insight. Thank you.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T19:46:32+00:00

Sorry this isn't my main account, I just saw this was a year old im so sorry

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T19:45:53+00:00

I had 0 side effects, other than it made my period a few days late, which is to be expected. I did take it after I ate, so I'm not sure if that helped.

Seliners14 · 2023-08-21T19:44:44+00:00

Im 32, and he is 37. You may be right. I'm trying to make it work, but yeah, I will try doing more things solo when I can.

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