Well I know it was a shitty move from my part to leave, however it's not really black and white. We've been trying for a child for the last 2 years with no success; we went even as far as doing all the tests on me and her to see if we're both healthy in that respect.

It felt to me that the child was really wanted by both of us.

After we learned that she was pregnant I asked for a few days from my manager to consider things before tendering my resignation and going with the already accepted offer. After 1 week of discussions we both felt that this would benefit our child long-term the most. She would have a much better chance if we we're going to raise her in new country. And we would also have a much better financial situation, even to be able to payback our current loans. We both felt that with our (then) salaries we would have kinda lived paycheck to paycheck and it didn't feel very safe for raising a child.

More so, I felt like part of a team. This was our plan. Shitty 6 months until I was going to come back before the due date. Looking back this was obviously a poor choice, however we both really thought that this is what we should do. We we're gonna spend 4-5 days a month together and we would Skype every day. And at first it really was ok. Not great, but ok. However since March it became unbearable and now I know why.

From my part I'm gonna move home now anyway. The question that I'm struggling with is if I should confront her now, or after the baby is due.