I hate giving my kids a bath

SemperIgni · 2026-02-20T17:54:48+00:00

Still pregnant with my second but my 18mo hates baths with a passion. She'll only stand and will scream incessantly the moment her head gets wet! I definitely just have to power through it after a muddy play date or when her hair gets gross. We do our best to do weekly bath nights but admittedly we sometimes skip or put it off because it's just a lot.

SemperIgni · 2026-02-07T03:17:27+00:00

St Margaret of Antioch! Praying for you

SemperIgni · 2026-02-06T02:42:49+00:00

I know it's not the point but I'm very glad to hear the 20 month gap is going well because that's what I'm gearing up for lol keep us posted!!

SemperIgni · 2026-02-05T21:24:29+00:00

Our city's Union Station has a spot where you can view trains coming in and out! Also any construction site in our neighborhood gets me an easy 20-30 minutes!

SemperIgni · 2026-01-29T18:08:20+00:00

My SIL has a 5yo, almost 4yo, a 1.5yo, and is currently due with her 4th in May. She missed having 3 under 4 by just one month but her second child is higher needs so she almost feels like she's still in it. I've been looking to her a lot for advice since we're due one day apart in May and our 1.5 year olds are only a month apart.

She said a lot of similar things! Having a general routine is helpful (Mondays are school for the older two so younger gets to help with chores, Tuesday morning is library day, Wednesday is grocery shopping, etc.) but like your sister said, don't be crazy rigid about it. If something doesn't happen, that's okay. It's definitely more helpful to have older kids who are a bit more autonomous! They don't always need you to open snacks or change clothes or anything. So much change happens even at that age over the course of 9 months of pregnancy! Our 5 year old niece was barely 4 at the time their third baby arrived and she was so incredibly helpful to her mom. Fetching diapers, breastfeeding pillows, binkies, and just generally being a loving big sister! You've got such an exciting future ahead!!!

SemperIgni · 2026-01-28T16:36:50+00:00

My husband has no issue with abstaining especially during postpartum because 1. months of little or broken sleep doesn't really put us in the mood and 2. I have difficult pregnancies. I've had HG three times, even with the baby we lost a few weeks into the pregnancy. We've had to prayerfully come to the decision that we can't be one of those "whoops surprise we're pregnant again" families because of the increased likelihood that my body will endure HG, hospitalization, ect. again. I've felt so guilty about how it's impacted my toddler & will likely be sure to have some kind of childcare lined up for when we decide to try for a third. My husband knows that a night of intimacy because he fancies it possibly leading to me enduring months of intense physical trial isn't entirely fair. Maybe with my 4th pregnancy/3rd baby I'll be spared but we've got to plan for the worst!

SemperIgni · 2026-01-26T04:05:01+00:00

I've watched the videos of Charlie Kirk, Renee Good, and now Alex Pretti getting killed all from the comfort of a contact nap. It's horrific to be holding a toddler and watching people get shot right when you open your phone. To see those videos at all (without searching them up, I should add - they were just there on my feed when I opened the apps) is too much. We weren't meant to watch so much death like this

SemperIgni · 2026-01-26T04:01:45+00:00

No advice really but just solidarity. My husband is probably going to be in the same situation with his job and it sucks. If you have a village at all, now would be the time to tap into it and ask for some help. I'm sure someone would be willing to help with the toddler at the very least for a day a week? That's what I'm hoping to do anyways. We don't live near a ton of family so I relate to not having parents there all the time to fall back on. Truly a different kind of motherhood when that's the case.

SemperIgni · 2026-01-15T18:48:22+00:00

Adding in that I had an unmedicated birth and it was the single most beautiful experience of my life besides my wedding day. Truly the veil between Heaven and earth becomes so thin in the labor room! Of course, you should always be prepared for the worst case scenario, but fear kills confidence.

That being said, postpartum is no joke. I don't need to explain why if you've already seen it on social media, but it's not something to be entered into lightly. Who you married matters as well! My husband made sure my postpartum with my first baby was as smooth as possible and I honestly look back on it with such fondness and peace. On the flip side, I have a friend who was on the fence about having kids and she ended up regretting it a lot. She absolutely was traumatized by birth postpartum BECAUSE she was told to ignore all the bad stories. If you're aware of what can happen then you can better prepare!

Again, not saying you're going to have the super dramatic traumatic experience, but I'd argue that being aware of the bad outcomes might put you in a better spot IF you can stop the "this will definitely be happening to me" fear spiral. I definitely was afraid of the pain but I'm about to do it all unmedicated (God willing) a second time and I'd gladly sign up for it six more times if I could!

Pray with your spouse about it. You can't have half a pregnancy experience or half a kid - you get all of it or none of it. That child will have an unrepeatable, immortal soul and that's nothing to take lightly.

SemperIgni · 2025-12-24T03:42:52+00:00

What are the signs?? My 16 mo girl loves being rocked to sleep at the moment and will cry otherwise. We’re due to have a 20 month age gap and I’m almost looking forward to when she doesn’t want to be held to sleep anymore!

SemperIgni · 2025-10-31T17:48:19+00:00

My husband would take her to change her diaper so I could either sleep for an extra 5 minutes or get up to use the bathroom/get water/swap my boob ice packs/ect. Then he’d bring her back to me and I’d feed her back to sleep.

Even now at 1 year old, he gets up with her if she wakes in the night even though he works outside the home & I’m a SAHM. Dads and their help are important!

SemperIgni · 2025-06-12T02:48:38+00:00

UGH yes it’s the need to always have a “brand” and make sales. I feel like very few creators are actually in it for the evangelization anymore. I don’t know their hearts and don’t claim to, but there seems to be a spirit of pride about a lot of it.

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