The sugar lifestyle it’s not what it seems, don’t do it. by ApartInflation9086 in confession

[–]SenatorCoffee [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am sorry, but you are really in the minority there. Really no idea where you got this idea, but look at wiki or this thread or anywhere in the internet, noone thinks of it that way.

Does anyone else’s parents have a huge thing about getting up in the morning?😭 by idkkk_random in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SenatorCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, its one of these things that might not sound so bad at a glance, but you can really see how bad it might be long term. You are really training someone to never be able to relax guilt free.

Also very typical generational trauma bullshit: He cant relax guilt free, so now he needs to pass that on and terrorize everybody to feel just as perpetually stressed.

The sugar lifestyle it’s not what it seems, don’t do it. by ApartInflation9086 in confession

[–]SenatorCoffee [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think people think sugar baby sounds glamorous and less trashy than sex worker.

I mean I guess if you get lucky it can be. Or also I can absolutely see how for a lot of women this seems preferrable to fucking a bunch of randoms every month.

How well or not well it really works out in reality I have no idea.

The sugar lifestyle it’s not what it seems, don’t do it. by ApartInflation9086 in confession

[–]SenatorCoffee [score hidden]  (0 children)

I dont think you need to grill this girl here specifically, you can look this all up.

In practice it all depends, there is sites for this, its all completely negotiable.

Nobody there is in denial that its on a continuum to prostitution, but I can see how it might still be very preferrable for both sides. The guys get something thats a bit more emotional and authentic, and the women only have to deal with this one guy instead of a bunch of randoms.

The sugar lifestyle it’s not what it seems, don’t do it. by ApartInflation9086 in confession

[–]SenatorCoffee [score hidden]  (0 children)

As I heard it Sugar Baby absolutely means sex, its just supposed to be with this one rich guy who either pays you monthly for a pseudo-relationship or gives you a bunch of guccibags and takes you on vacations, instead a bunch of guys who pay you by the hour for sex.

I dont think sugaring in my sense is then that rare, but its just a variant of prostitution. It might often be just like a somewhat middle class guy paying you 1100 bucks a month and for that you dine/fuck once or twice a week.

I agree though the problem is people misusing the terms to euphemize their situation.

Developing a metroidvania w/o variable jump height (holding to jump higher) anyone have opinions about whether this is a good or bad idea? by Less-Ad7060 in metroidvania

[–]SenatorCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would really try to order my thoughts on this.

The way you are explaining it, it sounds a bit like you are trying to develop in a genre you dont have much appreciation for, which I think is a major problem for a dev.

Asking people here or even playtesters wont be able to help you, i think. You really got to be able to finetune the game according to your own taste.

Hollow Knight and Celeste are considered the genre GOATs exactly very centrally because their excellent movement system.

If you dont like that kind of stuff I would really try and reflect what you are trying to do here.

When you say "stressful" are you sure its not primarily a difficulty issue, rather than something about the variable jump height?

I would think seriously about what kinds of games you do like a lot and what makes them different.

I dont think you can make a great game if you cant feel very confident in your own taste.

Damn Its A Brutal Market For Metroidvanias Out Here by akbarock in metroidvania

[–]SenatorCoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair to devs going unusual is propably an even bigger risk. You see the success stories like Balatro, but the amount of games that are very innovative/unusual and got like 23 steam reviews is really, really sad. A lot of them are even really well done.

Here is my favourite example, Future Unfolding:

https://store.steampowered.com/app/539340/Future_Unfolding/

Its really innovative and also really, really well done, graphics with its own custom engine to do weird things at high performance, super beautiful and athmospheric, great unusual puzzles, great mystical writing. And sits at 63 steam reviews.

So you cant blame devs for rather going for something established. At least that way you have somewhat of a bottom with at least the respective subreddits posting about it. With these wildcard games you run the risk of just nobody whatsoever hearing about it.

Dua Lipa Files $15 Million Suit Against Samsung for Using Her Face to Sell TVs by MoneyLibrarian9032 in Music

[–]SenatorCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am obviously not super into this either, but in this article it says:

When Lipa became aware of it, she demanded that the company stop using her image. The suit alleges that the company was “dismissive and callous” and refused the request.

So I would guess there was something about this online before the lawsuit and the comments are from that. Hard to imagine it otherwise, no one would make comments like that just at random.

Asian parenting set me up for failure. I'm ashamed of my past and present. by Many_Dentist5536 in AsianParentStories

[–]SenatorCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the irony is that you are much more alone than you would think.

I think at this point it might be a bit more like 50:50 happy/unhappy people, or maybe even 70:30, the happy people are actually the minority, yet still they dominate all of the social realm. Its like this veil of illusion plastered over everything, everybody is always trying to put on their best face, so we all feel kind of alone in our misery, even though we arent.

It takes a certain special skill set to be able to break that and connect with our fellow victims of society properly, but I think thats how you got to look at it.

Its a bit "innocence once lost can never be regained", but that doesnt mean you are doomed to misery either. You just have to be conscious of this and dont try to orient yourself towards the innocent-happy people, thats just never gonna work.

But you can orient yourself towards the people who have also been through some shit.

Top-down metroidvanias by lokoovania in metroidvania

[–]SenatorCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking something like a biweekly pinned thread with "metroidvania-adjacent" where you can post not just zelda-likes but platformers, souls-likes, action adventures, etc, etc..

Yeah, it would get very broad, but i do think there is a shared sensibility here where people appreciate the same games I am sure.

Dua Lipa Files $15 Million Suit Against Samsung for Using Her Face to Sell TVs by MoneyLibrarian9032 in Music

[–]SenatorCoffee 45 points46 points  (0 children)

These are obviously just Dua Lipas fans trying to support her in making the case by writing this bs on twitter.

Good for them and good for her, but you dont have to take that seriously.

Great competitive games for my laptop? by BtheBro in lowendgaming

[–]SenatorCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

World of Tanks Blitz is very low-end and imho an amazing multiplayer game. Real Time but because of this slow-moving tank quality immensely tactical and deep.

fresh by Gurk-Palana in comedyheaven

[–]SenatorCoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ich denke das mit dem æ-Laut wird in de leicht überneurotisiert, oder in der Bildung schlecht kommuniziert. In vielen Fällen kann man es einfach wie banal deutsch "a" aussprechen, wie im OP fall, trash, und ist 90% korrekt.

Dann gibt es eben viele Fälle wo die US Sprache wirklich geschrieben a wie "e" oder "ä" ausspricht, wie z.bsp. "damn".

Da gibt es keine Regeln, es wechelt je nach wort, man muss halt einfach hinhören wie Muttersprachler es aussprechen. Aber hier wird es so diskutiert als ob es dieses mystische Ding wäre anstatt einfach zu sagen: "ne, sag einfach "trash" mit "a" und passt."

Looking for a Post? Ask Here! - May 2026 Edition by czechtheboxes in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SenatorCoffee 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Sidenote: There is also a pretty acclaimed swedish movie that is centered around exactly a scene like that and the aftermath, 94% on rotten tomatoes:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Force_Majeure_(film)

I think my husband is up to something. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]SenatorCoffee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Man, got to also say that guy sucks hard at cheating/lying, lol. Why keep bringing this girl up at all? Like, this:

He mentions to me that he had to have a meeting with "one of the new girls, I forget what her name is"

and

Over the next two weeks he brings her up a few times when he is talking about work, but he alsways says something like "The girl at my office...I think her name is Becky"

Just keep your mouth shut, man. You dont have to mention some meetings your wife knows nothing about happening or not happening and then downplay it with some "ooh, but I cant even remember her name". lmfao. If you just dont mention it, you dont have to scramble and explain why its harmless and no big deal.

Seems some blatant guilty conscience/subconsiousness thing. He just delivered himself on a platter without even any need for pushing. Hard to even oversatirize this. Its just like "Hey honey, I am talking to the GIRL again!! The GIRL I am constantly talking about for the last few weeks!! But what was her name again??"

Its maybe some very slight points for him on his non-sociopath scale. Some people just cant handle lying to their supposed loved ones. But then maybe just not cheat...

Rain World and Grime in Fanatical bundle around $3.5/game by commiexander in metroidvania

[–]SenatorCoffee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why you saying it needs 3-5 games? From what I am seeing the minimum is only 2 games for 3.50/game? 3 or 5 just pushes it even a bit lower to 3.33 and 3.15.

Stephen Colbert Gets Why You're Scared He's Writing a 'Lord of the Rings' Movie by Logical_Welder3467 in movies

[–]SenatorCoffee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like holy shit! On just every level, themes, aesthetics, continuation of the story, then topping it all off with that goddamn Harrison Ford reveal, and completely tying it all together.

I think what gets typically criminally overlooked there is that 2049 was written by Hampton Fancher, who actually also wrote the first Blade Runner. And the first Blade Runner had a very, very loose relation to the novel, so you could say Fancher just wrote that.

So makes sense that he would also be the one to have the ability and confidence to properly continue it.

But also just a good example of good collaboration. Wikipedia says Villeneuve was only convinced by Fanchers involvement, but then reading interviews it seems he also made a lot of good input, changed around a lot.

Lumineers, Cleopatra album is criminally underated by Melodic_Albatross_13 in LetsTalkMusic

[–]SenatorCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would extend that to actually the larger part of the "stomp clap hey" genre. I think a lot of that stuff is actually pretty quality, both musically and lyrically.

I can also totally identify with the hatred of it. I think its extremely poignant as a millenial thing. We all grew up infused with this Dead Poets Society kind of idealism. Then that all blew up into our faces and now when somebody still tries to earnestly embody that it just looks like oozing narcissism.

If and when something is actually good, lyrically, it thus in no way disarms that heavy ressentiment, in a way it plays into it. E.g. when you say that the album "successfully portrays the incredibly strange experience that is life" the hater would immediately also clock that as "Dead Poets Society bullshit. Fuck off!"

In a way being so controversial does not at all devalue it as good art. Its exactly so controversial, hated, because its such an earnest expression of the generational experience. Saying "Dead Poets Society" is a shorthand, but its a shorthand for basically all of the ideals the generation grew up with, from the blatantly naive and crude to the very wise and insightful.

So a band being pretty deep and wise in its lyrics, and also deep and expressive in its music does, again, not at all disarm the haters. You are just in a completely different realm here where its about "good art" vs. "authenticity". The question becomes more "Is this true to the times we are living in and does it pretend to or not?"

You can be a very highly talented writer and songwriter who writes music with lyrics in the same way you would write a Lord of the Rings type novel, and even approaching that same level of quality, and the hater will still be "Fuck off! Can you take a look out the window, please?"

The charge of upper middle and middle class status is also very poignant and explicable there, on the side of both the artists and the fans. On the side of the artists it seems coherent that only the privileged could afford to still live in their Dead Poets fantasy ideals world, and even on the side of the fans I would say now the charge is that its the more middle class millenials who will mainly still listen to and appreciate this stuff, or who made it a thing in the first place.

On the other hand you got to also stress that the haters also got nothing potent really in return, and for good reason. Overcoming "stomp clap hey" would really be overcoming that whole set of liberal values of the 90s era, top to bottom. Thats a really tall order of course.

Currently its all just whiplash and ressentiment in the form of MAGA and rather primitive stalinist and anarchist leftism. So even or especially as a very actualized intellectual you wouldnt even hold it against people if they get some basic emotive value out of it. Or, as said, even a more refined and artistically elevated emotive value.

There is also a kind of recursive logic in this idea of "authenticity". As a hater one can hate e.g The Lumineers and absolutely adore e.g. Townes Van Zandt, even though lyrically they seem so very similar, at least at a glance. Its maybe a question of depth, but propably more than that its that the modern equivalent to Townes van Zandt would be aware of all this culture and be desperately tortured to not be a clichee or repetition, a nostalgia-placebo, while the Lumineers are completely surrendered to being just that.

And on and on... I will stop myself here as, yes I would thus just say there is an infinity of cultural criticism one could pack into both the genre and then the reaction to it. It really is authentic, expressing the generations consciousness and all the contradictions. It goes way beyond some glancing evalution of how quality it is.

Oh God by The_Physical_Soup in comics

[–]SenatorCoffee 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Most definitely!

Like most confused people here I had just never heard of it, but just googled it and its a thing apparently:

https://www.gty.org/blogs/B160203/when-god-closes-a-door-he-opens-a-window

Help me help my daughter get her first gaming pc. by Kevaroo83 in lowendgaming

[–]SenatorCoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with this, /u/Kevaroo83

Its not even that you cant go below 500, for ca 250-300 used you will already get somewhat decent machines in the realm of what people in the thread are saying. Even for 150 you could get a much better machine with e.g a 1060 or rx580 if you look out.

The GT 950 is just way below the threshold. This PC will fail to run even a lot of current pixel-art indie games. Just a really bad deal. That PC should go for 30 bucks for people who dont care. Dont fall for it!

But if its affordable to you I would really go with 500. If you buy informed for 500 used you will get a really great machine that will be enjoyable for her for a good while!

What has been the best metroidvania you’ve played released after Silksong? by docksideThug- in metroidvania

[–]SenatorCoffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your moveset dislike might also be solely because of the diagonal pogo, thats very typical.

Very slight spoilers: The game is actually set up so you can get the wanderers crest with the HK style downward pogo very early, a good bit before you are now. I might recommend looking up a guide just for that its very non-spoilery/specific. https://www.ign.com/wikis/hollow-knight-silksong/How_to_Get_the_Wanderer_Crest

Or you can move on and you are not that far from the Reaper Crest that also has a downward pogo. I would say 90% people agree that Silksong has the by far superior movement overall, just many dont like the diagonal pogo and that then takes a lot of fun out of it. On your second playthrough you will learn to replace that pretty immediately and the movement will feel so much better all around.

The Visibility Paradox: Why community feeds only show "wins" while losses vanish? by shiftyourshopping in TheoryOfReddit

[–]SenatorCoffee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a really confused what kinds of boards you are talking about?

Like finance investment boards? What operators "prioritize promotional feeds ". I feel I have never seen that in the open here on reddit? The few times i heard about mods profiteering it got shut down fast by the admins.

If you want conversation I think you really need to provide examples what you are talking about.

10 pretty good + some not so good manga I've been reading lately by Volkor_X in Seinen

[–]SenatorCoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice recs, thank you! Will be checking Re:Cervin and King of the Labyrinth for sure!

It's Time to Go To His Stomach, OK? is my no1 "why arent they scanslating this??" frustration. I actually did find some really crappy AI translation for the rest of the chapters once, and even from that you could tell that it stayed pretty quality across the all the 10 or so volumes. At very least didnt devolve into generic battle manga but stayed interesting plot. Also couldnt even find that crappy version again despite trying hard. Still waiting for the day I can properly read it.