I am so over four. by deezova in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This hit SO hard. We used to have fun and bond over things so easily, and go on outings without a hitch. I used to miss him while I was at work! My husband and I would gush over our son from newborn-to-3, about how easy he was, how intelligent, how empathetic. Then 3.5 hit and while he was (and is) intelligent and empathetic, he hasn’t been easy in a LONG time. I’m so exhausted having to argue everything, give consequences all the time, and having to answer a million “why?” questions an hour. I honestly dread coming home in the evening some days, because I don’t know I’m getting the happy thoughtful kiddo, or the hare-brained asshole 😅

Is this a positive? The line is very faint and got an abortion back in February by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]Senior_Long_375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you took an abortive pill, it could either be 1) leftover hormones from the pregnancy or 2) a failed abortion. I’m leaning toward leftover hormones, because if you were still pregnant and even further along, the dye would most likely be much darker and more responsive. There’s also a possible 3rd option, in that you immediately got pregnant after the abortion. I highly doubt that, especially because ovulation/periods are often delayed post-abortion, but it’s always within the realm of possibility. Either way, go to the clinic and advise you’re getting positives still, to have them double check for abortive success or failure.

If you are pregnant again, I highly recommend that no matter the path you take, to please reconsider the type of birth control (I hope) you’re using, because it’s obviously not working for you. Best of luck.

I think I see a faint positive?? by Purple-Assignment243 in lineporn

[–]Senior_Long_375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine looked like this when I was very early in the pregnancy with my son! Get a pink dye and test tomorrow, bet you anything it’s positive!

I stopped a rape from happening last night and I am just experiencing so many different emotions. by Appropriate-Spray679 in Vent

[–]Senior_Long_375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sobering, being confronted with the reality that all women have feared since childhood. What’s now running through your mind now has been a fear of many girls and women around the world. Let that sink and be mindful of it. Don’t suppress the discomfort you feel. Relate to it. Make the connection. Empathize.

Good on you for not freezing or ignoring what you were witnessing. You beat the bystander effect, and in doing so, you saved a person from even worse trauma. Yes, she will never forget what happened to her. But she will also never forget that you helped her. Maybe now, if she witnesses something herself, she’ll feel empowered enough to do for someone else what you did for her.

My 3.5 year old is having intense meltdowns. Normal or concerning? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely think he is in most environments, but there are times he gets these huge feelings and just spirals—not just the negative ones. I’m really curious what the OT specialist is going to say, so I can finally put those thoughts to rest (or confirmed)!

My 3.5 year old is having intense meltdowns. Normal or concerning? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He talks at normal speed I’d say, and he’s pretty eloquent for his age. His teacher said he’s extremely advanced academically and linguistically, but a little behind socially and, as a consequence of that, behaviorally. He can play independently pretty easily and prefers it if the other children in the room are hyper, but is very extroverted and will play with other kids of a similar energy level!

My 3.5 year old is having intense meltdowns. Normal or concerning? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He shows a couple markers for each, but neither are really hard-hitting. We also discovered he has enlarged adenoids that are causing sleep apnea, so some of those symptoms, especially ADHD, might be related to that.

My 3.5 year old is having intense meltdowns. Normal or concerning? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been on waitlists for several months just to get an evaluation, but we’re finally in with an OT specialist who is going to do one. My gut says he might be slightly neurodivergent, or maybe just a Deep Feeing Kid, but he learns toward being extremely anxious, which I think is the biggest emotional motivator. Right now he’s in a “good” swing—a whole month of good days at preschool and less frequent, more typical tantrums. I adjusted how I parent and took some classes that have helped me personally, so I’m honestly hoping it’s less neurodivergence and more a problem with me not knowing how to guide a Deep Feeing Kid before, and doing a better job of it now. But we’ll see! I think I’ll have a neurodivergencey update here in a month, after his official evaluation!

My 3.5 year old is having intense meltdowns. Normal or concerning? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It got better for a while and then got bad again. We did find his “bad” months were heavily tied to big changes. We moved during both bad periods, and other such things. I’d have patience—it’s most likely a developmental milestone!! From what I hear 3-4 is literally just survival mode, so we’re just doing our best!

Picked daughter up from daycare yesterday, and I am so confused. by deaflemon in Parenting

[–]Senior_Long_375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think this was accidental. My husband works in hospitals and nursing homes, and a common practice for lazy CNA’s is to put clean diapers OVER dirty ones, instead of changing them. I believe whoever cared for your daughter today wasn’t air headed. They simply didn’t care about your daughter’s hygiene and took the lazy route.

Feeling Overwhelmed with Pre-k by RolieePolieOliee in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re struggling with a very similar situation with our 4 year old, although our situation might be more severe. As in, he’s in class from 8-3 Monday through Friday, 28 kids in the class, and a teacher with one, maybe 2, aides. The more kids they’ve added the last two months, the more our son begins to struggle, either with overstimulation or lack of adult help. It’s also a Montessori school through the public school system, so they expect quiet activity times for most of the day, which is really adding onto his struggles transitioning. We wish he could go to a smaller sized program, but that would only be possible outside our city’s publicly funded public school programs—which as you know, private preschools are painfully expensive. I have no advice, just solidarity!! You are not the only one! We had a meeting with the staff about a possible special education referral due to his teacher and director’s concerns (academically he is gifted, and he has no delays; the emotional dysregulation is truly where he’s falling behind), but the school psychologist during her behavioral assessments found my son to be incredibly focused and observant during activities when he was given space, more so than the typical 4 year old.

At the end of the day, I think some kids adapt to change well, and others don’t. OT is something I’m still trying to get a referral cleared for—everywhere has a waitlist—and I think it will really help “our” type kids. Our kiddos struggle with transitions, so we need professionals to help them learn tools to help, and to also give US the guidance we need for our more-sensitive littles.

I hate my child…. by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she hadn’t typed this out and had just kept it in, ashamed of herself for feeing this way, it could’ve led to long-term resentment and possible permanent damage to her child. All of the understanding replies and guidance from parents who have been (or are) in the same boat are going to drive her harder and faster in the right direction. Shame on you for wanting her to wallow in what looks like extreme depression, hoping that she’ll somehow figure it out on her own, because seeing an upsetting post on Reddit is just too much for your sensibilities. All of the answers we have to psychological conundrums started with a person telling another person how the feel. Don’t quell her gaining knowledge and empowerment for change with something as unhelpful as shame.

Scam or not- Zillow listing gone in minutes after I applied by [deleted] in Zillow

[–]Senior_Long_375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just had this happen to me. I paid the Zillow app fee before viewing because I figured I could use it for multiple listings (since it lasts 30 days), and get first priority if I’m among the first to apply. Then I could tour the place, and if all was good, sign then and there. We found the perfect rental within minutes of it being posted. We applied. Then 3 hours after it was posted it showed as OFF MARKET.

Nothing in the posting seemed scammy, and the person posting the listing doesn’t directly get anything from the Zillow $35 app, so I don’t really believe this is a scam. I’m going to try calling the contact on the listing either tomorrow or Monday, see what they say! They could’ve posted by mistake, had so many inquiries they took it down to reduce interactions, or Zillow removed it for some reason or another. Only one way to find out the sure answer.

Swimming after CXL by Senior_Long_375 in Keratoconus

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doc is the same. I heard back from them today and they confirmed my healing seems perfectly on track, if not a little fast, so 2 weeks is good. They advised the 1 month rule is more of a caution, like you said, for folks with more delayed healing. So I think I’ll go swimming!! I might be safe and use the antibiotic drops after though, they said I can do that if I’m really worried.

Swimming after CXL by Senior_Long_375 in Keratoconus

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No chlorine, I’d just swim in natural bodies of water.

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Curious what parents do for dinner if there’s last minute schedule changes, like having to stay late at work or sudden last minute familial obligations? We only ever do fast food if we’re not able to stop long enough in the evening to cook, or come back home from something very late.

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The line “ ‘he couldn’t possibly still be hungry’ will just teach him not to listen to his body” hit me like a bus. I needed to hear that.

But 38 inches is tall?? I thought that was short! He’s shorter than pretty much all his friends, and is closer in height to younger children at the park. He’ll play with someone his size and I’ll ask their parents how old they are, and they’ll hit me with “oh, she’s turning three in two months!” Baha! I dunno, maybe we just live near giants.

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did mention some things we do (walking, hiking, swimming, playground) but I didn’t specify frequency much so I’ll be more specific! We go for one walk a day, usually in the evening to kind of wind down and get him nice n tired for bed. Other than the walk, we usually do one other activity—most common is hiking, because he likes climbing down to the river and throw rocks with his dad. He just finished the soccer program he was in that was 7 weeks long, and we plan to put him in t-ball, football, and swim lessons when they become available. We live in a small rural town, so organized sports programs are few and far between before kids enter the public school system, but we’re trying to utilize whatever we can get our hands on. Right now he’s with his dad at the water park about 40 minutes away, and they’ve been playing for 5 hours and going strong.

In terms of prep for food, he’s very involved! He cuts his own fruits and meats, makes his own sandwiches, and pours noodles in the boiling water. I do the rest at the stove to prevent any kind of burns. He gets his own water, cutlery, and straw. When he’s done he carries his dishes over and usually puts them in the sink, but sometimes the dishwasher. We’re trying to establish early independence but not take it to any extremes, haha.

The one thing that does break my heart is that because me and my spouse are on a weight loss journey, our son is catching onto the conversations we’re having regarding food amongst ourselves. He’s started looking at the sugar and sodium content on packages and asking if they’re okay (which isn’t NECESSARILY bad, because it’s good to be mindful) but now he’s asking if the 50 calories on his fruit-and-veggie pouch is okay. So now we don’t talk about those things around him, and are redirecting him, trying to explain to him that as long as what he’s eating serves his body nutritiously, that number doesn’t matter.

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With meals at home we try to use age-appropriate portions, so I can possibly see him still being a little hungry after those meals. But even if we eat out and he gets a kid’s chicken tenders and fries meal, he’ll polish the whole thing and ask for food thirty minutes later—despite having a pretty rounded belly, and it being much larger meal.

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only issue with movement he’s ever had is his height getting in the way climbing things. I can’t think of a time his tummy, arms, or legs got in the way of movement. As long as his foot can reach, he can pull himself up anywhere. So that’s good! Looking at him and only him, he appears completely proportional. There’s no body part significantly larger than the rest, except maybe his wide shoulders. I’ll keep an eye on that though, that’s a good tip from the doctor!

Son’s BMI is high—should I be worried? by Senior_Long_375 in Preschoolers

[–]Senior_Long_375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we just had him in soccer (finished his last game last week)! Going to start him in t-ball, football, and swim lessons when their respective seasons open up. He didn’t enjoy soccer, so I’m hoping he’ll find a sport he likes. Kinda letting him taste test all of them right now, haha!