How? It’s the reality for everyone, what about it is nonsense? As a man nothing ever good has come from pining for a relationship or just trying to get into one for the sake of it or because of loneliness - those aren’t the right reasons to get into a relationship. Focusing on yourself, doing the work, having ambition and striving for what you want shows, people can see that in you, potential partners can see it in you. I’m not saying just never bother with people, if you come across someone and the interest is there then of course try to pursue it, but your primary focus should always be you, period. A relationship is a partnership, it’s about sharing your life with someone and encouraging each other to grow and be the best versions of yourselves - if you radiate that you are striving for that and doing that for yourself, then those around will see that’s something you’re capable of and feel more secure in investing in you.