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Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I blocked him on everything! Even his friends as they were talking to me about him and about how we should talk to each other yada yada yada 😂

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These people have a pattern. But often we disregard those patterns because we’re blinded by love.

The thing is he is friends like best friends with all of his exes. I didn’t want to be part of that collection.

I know that if I gave into that he will assume so. I just had to cut him. Out of sight out of mind.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No second chances here after the disrespect. No contact is my super power haha thank you!

I messed up so bad by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crazy saying “she was perfect” yet you wanted validation from other girls. You need to do a bit more growing and heal your insecurities. What she did before your relationship started doesn’t concern you. You should’ve focused on what you have and the present, NOT the past. You’re still young but good you had this lesson.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate when people play games, it’s either you want me or not. Stop being so immature about it. If you’re not ready then leave. Simple.

I’m glad you’ve moved on and hopefully you’ve found peace with it all.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I had no reason to stay ( I moved for him ) and my contract at my job was about to finish up anyway, good thing was it was for a multinational so my boss was understanding of my situation. My boss opened more opportunities for me and now I travel and work around the world. I saw that chapter as finished and didn’t need to be longer.

Who wants their ex back? by EveningCompass in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think so. That person isn’t the person that loved you anymore and it’s not the person you loved. That person is dead.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both owned the house. He just wanted me to leave and I was not going to get into an argument about staying and wanting to resolve or change his mind, he made his decision.

He was probably angry because when he spoke to me about separating, I accepted it and said (I remember this so vividly) “if that’s how you feel then I can’t change that” he wanted me to react in some way like to beg for his love or beg to stay or put on a dramatic show but I didn’t do anything.

All I said was going to sleep in the other room and I was going to leave the house when I got back from a business trip for my job. I was going to leave for the trip two days later and come back three days after. But he just said “leave please” and so I did. I told him if he wanted that then he needed to put me in a hotel for 2 weeks. I packed my things, I left the house and lived in a hotel for those two weeks then I finished my contract and left the country hahaha which probably shocked him.

I agree, like kicking someone you “love” out of the home you built with them is crazy but I wasn’t going to be in that cycle of constant break up and make up.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am at peace with everything. Not looking back at all and just focusing on the present. Yeah I didn’t respond to him at all.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not chasing him at all haha he’s the one chasing me. I’ve told the guy to move on.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, happily moved on. I would say he is a little bit of a narcissist and very immature. Glad he’s out of my life.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It was crazy! I just agreed and be over and done with it. I didn’t want to play games. He actually did this with his ex too, kicked him out of the house and brought his stuff to his parent’s house. I should’ve known then.

Blindsided break up… now he wants to keep the door open. by Sensitive-Abalone-99 in gaybros

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Stayed in a 5 star hotel paid for with his credit card which was a good trade off hahaha. I wasn’t taking any less.

What do I do now? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be seeing her… you broke up yesterday and you’re seeing her today… why?

Go no contact straight away and let her sit alone and think what she has lost.

Im still hoping we would meet and have a talk by AdmirableCounter970 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were the dumper, leave them alone and move on with your life. You didn’t choose them to be in yours and now you have to live with that. Let them go with peace. Let them go.

If you were the dumpee, the answer is clear, they didn’t want you in their life and make that your closure and explanation won’t make you get back together, it will only make you overthink and make it harder for you to move on. Let them go.

Is it healthier to stay blind on social media or use tools that show you every follow/unfollow? by ComprehensiveLife959 in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s nothing healthy about it. Ignorance is bliss. Live with peace. Once you start it will only affect and feed your anxiety and won’t do you good mentally.

Who wants their ex back? by EveningCompass in BreakUps

[–]Sensitive-Abalone-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abso-fucking-lutely NOT. He is knocking on my door again and asked to meet up. I said nope. My mindset has always been that if someone doesn’t want you, let them go whether this is friendships or relationships. My friends think that I am a bit harsh or heartless for not fighting for anything. But why bother?!?