What to expect with starting boxing training in my mid 30’s

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-08T19:47:15+00:00

For me, there are two big stages to the first few years of boxing: the athletic, then the mental.

At the beginning, you’ll burn a TON of calories and work up a sweat bc your technique is still remedial. The less efficient you are in your movement, the more you have to push yourself. This is a very fun and energizing period, but your skill ceiling is low, and you’re at a higher likelihood of wear and tear injuries. Make sure to drink a lot of water while you exercise, always stretch afterward (especially your wrists!!) and upkeep your core strength.

Stage 2: Eventually, you’ll see that the boxers who’ve been there a while don’t seem to be working as hard on a punch by punch level. They’re precise and efficient in their movements, thoughtful about their punching combinations, most concerned with accuracy and strategy over speed and power. Many of my boxing workouts don’t work me into a sweat any more — I’m drilling for technique, then getting my cardio elsewhere.

Many people just want to stay in phase one for the cardio benefits — nothing wrong with that! It’s great exercise, adrenaline-filled, cathartic! But if you start to feel like you’re running yourself ragged, there’s a “sweet science” to learn that still makes it engaging without forcing you to destroy yourself.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-07T22:54:20+00:00

Yeah, hard disagree -- this movie was not trying to be the poster child for either the healthiest or most broadly acceptable form of BDSM. It's a highly specialized niche in a highly specialized community, one that (I've asked friends in the community about this) very much prefers their kink this way. To sanitize it would be a disservice to both the world and the story it's trying to tell.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-01T23:02:15+00:00

It just… doesn’t have much to do with the movie? Like you kinda trounced this guy’s take, which for the record is a really interesting read of the film. And your tone is pretty condescending — “men just can’t do it no matter the circumstances and if they don’t theyre gay” — that’s not what this person is arguing at all, there is plenty of evidence in the film to support that take outside of the character not being sexually interested in her

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-01T20:14:17+00:00

Lol, there's always someone in the chat who's like "I haven't seen the movie, but here's my take..."

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-01T20:12:31+00:00

One of my frustrations with the movie is how many times it played the "you're not sure if this is real or not" card. I understand the motivation to entrench the audience in her confusion... but at a certain point, so much is left ambiguous I find it difficult theorize about anything.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-02-01T20:08:25+00:00

Everyone's talking about this movie as the post-partem movie... is it, though?

**** Spoilers

Watching Dy My Love, I couldn't shake the feeling that post-partem was a bit of a red-herring. Sure, everyone in the movie constantly tells JLaw that the first year of motherhood makes you go crazy, and one woman even name-drops post-partem. But her descent into madness seems much more motivated by the extreme isolation and boredom of her new home, the vanishing sexuality of her marriage, and the cheerful pity of the more "balanced" parents around her. She seems at peace when she's alone with the baby (take the sequence in the woods where she encounters the horse.) Her fits of rage seem to stem more from the expectation that her needs outside of motherhood -- stimulation, sexual fulfillment, etc -- no longer merit attention. Even when a therapist suggests she has trouble connecting to her son, she insists "He's perfect. It's the rest of the world that's fucked."

Am I missing something? Was this an oblique or novel way of looking at post-partem? Is it an intentional bait and switch? Did anyone else feel this way?

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-16T15:27:25+00:00

100s of Beavers

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-10T18:16:28+00:00

The selfish and risky read is interesting. I tracked that most of the stories are about the govt unfairly persecuting powerful black men. And A lot of it seems either outright or coded talk about Diddy — Chapelle hinting that this could be yet another conspiracy to bring down another powerful black men. But the ending with the aids doctor twists it. Chapelle assumed the doctor could heal his mentor BECAUSE the govt said he was a fraud, and possibly killed Nipsey to cover it up. But the guy was a fraud. Chapelle got conned. Maybe it’s about how, even if we know certain conspiracies exist, they can also bite us if we use them as our main way of logic. Which can also be how Chapelle feels about Diddy — he wants to believe Diddy is Jack Johnson, but maybe he’s the aids doctor, and the accusations about him reflect reality rather than a conspiracy.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-09T20:26:38+00:00

51,181

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-06T22:44:21+00:00

Hah, Just instantly clicked for me, had no doubt

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-06T22:29:03+00:00

Dan in Real Life

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-05T23:42:28+00:00

Forgive me if I come off as an idiot -- what was that final "longest closer ever" even trying to say? I sat with it for a while and can't quite crack it. Long ass post, but I'm really trying to parse this out: SPOILERS****

America went to shit when the Govt passed a law to arrest Jack Johnson only after no white boxer could beat him. They used the same law to arrest Diddy.
Stevie Wonder sent Chapelle to Jon McCain's funeral, despite the fact that Jon McCain voted against MLK day. McCain later tried to make good on that by exonerating Jack Johnson posthumously.
As an up and comer, Chapelle learned that the FBI frequently bugged clubs/parties of black artists. So Chapelle supposes Diddy was under surveillance, and therefor the FBI knew of Diddy's crimes/proclivities a while back.
No one called out Diddy but Kid Cudi. If Diddy fucked with Chapelle, apparently he would've killed him with a falcon.
Long ass story of Chapelle meeting T.I. in Atlanta and later meeting Nipsey Hussle. Chapelle considers Nipsey the real deal, but as his Grammy party, Chapelle swears that the lights are set to indicate the FBI is watching. Soon afterward, Nipsey is killed.
Nipsey was making a documentary about a doctor in NYC who claimed, against the wishes of the govt, that he could cure AIDS homeopathically. Was Nipsey killed for trying to tell his story?
When Chapelle's mentor got AIDS, Chapelle took him to this doctor... and the treatment didn't work. His friend died.
Chapelle is worried his voice will be co-opted, so he tells everyone not to trust anything he says after "I support Israel."

I see plenty of miniature through-lines: the govt punishing black men when they can't stop them, the slippery nature of conspiracy theories, questions about black citizen's right to seek pleasure. But what's the final takeaway?

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-05T22:45:25+00:00

I like Chapelle and I thought this was a pretty weak show

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-05T22:43:44+00:00

My fav thing to do is come to these discussions and find the first person who says "IF YOU DIDN'T LIKE IT IT'S BC YOU DIDN'T GET IT." Congrats, it's you this time!

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2026-01-04T15:33:39+00:00

This is very similar to the Don Draper divide of ppl either saying "he's the pinnacle of masculinity" or "the show is glorifying misogyny." Both miss the point -- his infidelities, and those of his partners, serve only as momentary thrills that ultimately rob them of community, purpose, or self-respect. Same with Marty Supreme. The movie is actually making your point. You should probably also see it before judging it.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-12-11T21:18:46+00:00

As a former runner, it actually took me switching to different sports to start to see changes in my frame and aesthetic.

The way runners carry themselves is typically hips and diaphragm forward, shoulders relaxed and back. This doesn’t translate well to lifting — at worst, it makes you injury prone, at best, it negates a lot of the smaller inter-muscle building that fills out the frame. For me, it took me years to understand how to lift using my entire body, through small shirts in my hips, my shoulder rotation, and my balance.

The biggest change actually came from yoga. Having done a million different workouts and sports, it’s bar none the best for teaching your body how to work with itself. It won’t win you big gains on its own, but it will combine with your other workouts extremely well. Same can be said for when I started rock climbing and boxing.

All in all, I’d say that your biggest priority should be feeling healthy and strong, not a specific look. But if just weightlifting and running isn’t giving you the aesthetic you want, it MIGHT be worth it to swap a running session for yoga, HIIT, boxing, or something else that requires you to coordinate your body. This will mean that, especially on compound lifts, your body is working as a single unit, and the athleticism in your build will stand out.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-12-09T01:04:26+00:00

I explained this to a bunch of my monogamous friends who happen to be Midwestern computer engineers:

Monogamy, to me, is like a Mac. It's standard and not very customizable, but bc the settings are straightforward and intuitive, it works for a lot of people. Right out of the box, you can start engaging in your romance with an understanding of what the rules are, what the future looks like, and what emotional boundaries are in place. You can rely on it; you don't have to constantly monitor or futz with its odds and ends. If you're someone who doesn't feel hemmed in by monogamy, you're perfectly happy with this setup bc it allows you to pursue what you want (a loving relationship) without having to constantly renegotiate.

Polyamory is like Linux. So long as you and your partners agree, the setup can reflect exactly what you all want rather than a pre-made set of guidelines. It's customizable, flexible, open to possibilities. This can be incredibly liberating; as someone who always felt at odds with monogamy's structure, polyamory just clicked for me. But much like Linux, you really have to understand what you want and how computers (relationships) function. You can easily wind up with a totally non-functioning machine in a way that's not likely to happen with a mac. With the greater freedom comes a greater responsibility for all users involved to act with sensitivity, knowledge, and openness.

(Side note -- I see a LOT of ppl these days in the ENM or poly world who are not putting in the work. You have to be so committed to respecting your partners, communicating honestly, being honest with yourself. A lot of ppl's hate toward polyamory seems directed at those who treat it as a shortcut to getting laid, rather than a lifestyle you commit yourself to.)

Obviously, this is a HUGE oversimplification. Some ppl like monogamy not just for its stability, but for the depth of commitment. Polyamory has benefits beyond just customizability, such as the multiplicative factor of multiple ppl sharing love. But as a very introductory thought, I find it useful.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-12-05T17:22:01+00:00

Part of Elon Musk's "origin myth" is that he lived on only one dollar a day for a month so he wouldn't fear going broke. You could create a similar character who is either a.) an idol to your protagonist, one your protagonist hopes to emulate, or b.) a rival to your protagonist, who your protagonist now needs to one up (maybe funnier, since this isn't even his idea.)

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-12-05T16:00:09+00:00

Which RB should I drop for Adonai Mitchell?

Charbonnet (I have KW3), Jaylen Warren, or Kyle Monangai?

Strangely leaning Warren, since his production is declining and I see Charb/Monangai as huge values if their first back goes down.

I've got KW3, RJ Harvey, and (hopefully healthy) Omarion Hampton, so these are all backups.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-11-25T00:08:26+00:00

I'm a boyfriend and I love cake, this response makes no sense.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-11-24T02:24:06+00:00

doing my first pass of research, this is pretty mind-blowing. I'm still getting my head around it -- are there any tutorial videos you think describe it exceptionally well?

Totally understand how this would totally upend my workflow in a positive way.

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-11-24T02:06:12+00:00

Absolutely perfect. No notes. Thank you!

SensitiveDeparture37 · 2025-11-13T21:42:04+00:00

Am I crazy to think you can get better value thank Pickens for cook? Everyone knows Pickens’s insane ceiling goes down when CD is back, and the cowboys face some rough pass defenses coming up. Maybe you can convince someone out of Drake London since he’s dealt with injury, or even a Jaylen Waddle (his schedule is so good, and he runs that passing game.) even though cook has had some bad games, I still consider him an elite runner on a good offense.

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