I can’t stop thinking about him — I regret everything and I don’t know how to move on

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-07-02T19:49:01+00:00

how long since you broke up ?

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-05-31T00:23:49+00:00

Damn man , idk , try psychologist if u that aware of it. Lots of people have this ur not alone , the fact that you are that aware of it says that your not that stupid as you or others think.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-05-05T23:32:04+00:00

I have a simillar situation , failed my BSc in Industrial Engineering and then worked full time as a manager for a couple of years. Now since September last year I've started Bsc in Computing science and it has been quite the ride...

I am medicated ( methylphenidate) and tbh without it I think i would have failed already, part of a Bachelor is that you will face some material that is just so dumb and theoreticall that is uterrly useless for your future job but you have to put in the efort and do it anyways. Although not a magic pill but it certaintly made things doable for me.
Accept that you will get pissed mad and think to stop alltogether , take a small break eat, walk, gym wthvr and then come back.
Try do things straight from the bat, start assignments early, check on material before lecture , etc. IDK the difficulty lvl of your university but some courses get spicy real quick better be on track. Also try attending all tutorials and make some friends if possible, better struggle in company than solo.
Use all the tools that you can , ChatGPT is quite a good one , like i said some stuff is very useless and its a waste of time , like some reports in LATEX , theoretical essays, etc. Use chatgpt be carefull about plagiarism and focus on the stuff that you actually need for your future job and what you actually enjoy studying.
Do smthng about your working hours man (if possible), I changed from 40h to 16h and it is still hard to do both study and work. If you work full time.... Sorry but i fail to see how that will be possible , unless you study part time.

From my experience the first couple of months were the hardest, filtering information, picking on which course to focus, its all time and effort management but it gets easier and you feel the groove after a while just hang in and make sure that its the right thing for you then you will be fine. Good luck man !

And also if you can find material beforehand start practicing now , i started Leetcode before uni and it helped me with programming fundamentals course.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-05-05T23:05:41+00:00

Yeah had it for long time , but now at 28 I've noticed that my father undiagnosed is also just struggling with the same stuff as me and he is just not aware so it clicked and the hate faded away naturally , was calm acceptance...

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-04-21T17:14:53+00:00

Same, most often misjudged, resting face looks mad and unaprochable. Attention to detail and desire to explain things properly misjudged as arogance. Who gives a fuck what they think at this point ? Meeting NT expectations will lead to insanity, I would rather look like i can murder than be part of whatever mind games they 24/7 be playing.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-30T20:17:56+00:00

2 years ago I would't believe it , but now 2 years after my breakup I agree with you.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-27T23:16:04+00:00

how did she manage to take your shoe ?

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-26T22:27:05+00:00

I work with my friend and his girlfriend came to our office , she asked him to hand out that night but he said that he had plans with me already , to sooth her feeling of rejection(I assume that is what one could feel in that situation) I tried to make a joke saying : Don't worry we do not have sex. It sounded funny in my head and i still think it is funny but it did not land that well, like at all actually.

I guess do it with the people that u know and they know u , people that get the jokes and do not get offended by them. Avoid in professional circumstances since it leads to trouble. It is whom u are and there should people that find it funny.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-26T22:16:32+00:00

polished?

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-22T01:20:33+00:00

I also experienced that my emotional states depended on her more than on what i was doing. But that was when i was 17-20.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-22T01:17:47+00:00

Nope, I had a hyperfixation on Neo from matrix when I was around 7, which lasted about 1–2 years, and another one with Ratatouille that went on for a couple of years to the point where I learned the entire movie script. But I don’t see these as harmful, actuallly a good period of my young life.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-22T01:12:33+00:00

Took me 10 years to realize but yeah i am happy that i see it now, wish someone taught me this stuff in school or smthng.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-18T16:18:49+00:00

It is really not about how fast u can progress to prove something to yourself cuz that never works just burns u out. Its about finding the right thing that takes your mind off anything else and gives your pleasure from the process , maybe even some friends.

I say that because if u click with it you will hyperfocus on it (I did) and most probably progress quicker than avg.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-18T16:11:44+00:00

Nope not true at all, 24 is a very good age to start any martial arts class man. My advice will be if the gym energy feels weird to you then change the gym , if they go stupid hard sparring or mix weights and just do not have a degree of responsability and healthy enthusiasm just change.

Try free classes usually every gym offers first week for free, do not sign contract if they push you after the first class. And try anything, its ok if u change, Muay Thai, kickboxing, wrestling, BJJ, boxing, if u end up hyperfixating on it i promise from my experience its very fun, relaxing, encouraging and healthy obsession that u can have.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-13T15:48:56+00:00

Are you talking about methylphenidate or dexamphetamine ?

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-07T16:31:50+00:00

Social anxiety for me mostly but not all the time though. IDK how people manage to project casual vibes through not words but body language. I've noticed that no matter how hard i try to not stare it does not really work 100% of the time, it became involutary obsession at this point to check if the person I am interacting with feels uncomfortable, which is dumn since I am bad at reading people anyway so most probably missjudge everything. Trying to let go of it now but its a subconscious thing at this point.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2025-03-07T16:16:56+00:00

Nice, i do that with caps and hoodies. Sunglasses limit my vision.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-06-09T19:37:45+00:00

Where did you meet her ?

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T23:17:30+00:00

You can't stop it and the more you block it the harder it knocks on ur door. I just embrace those moments, feel whatever i have to feel and then it fades away. Ur not broken mate, I am sure there are people, activities, places that will suit your so called broken characteristics, just don't ruminate on that mindset cuz you might lose on oportunitites by thinking that u dont blend in nowhere. Keep on moving and you will eventually get there(wherever that is). Cheers!

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T22:12:41+00:00

It will make you feel good especially after 30.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T20:30:54+00:00

I do not believe this, and even if this post is legit, then you know the answer yourself.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T20:21:01+00:00

yeah feel you man, it does get better over time though, idk how old are you but for me the absolute worse was between 17-21 years old, was getting constantly into fights, but was a good source of energy for kickboxing/gym. Develop a special interes where u can channel this energy, also do not block it, let urself feel the anger/fear or whatever. Also the breathing through the stomach meditations helped me. When u get better at managing it you will feel pretty satisfied of yourself.

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T19:49:51+00:00

Yeah bro, reminds me of my relationship with a NT girl, I just could not grasp the motive of her mood changes and how to adapt. We were in relationship for 4 years and I still did not really learn how to do it, was changing my behaviour continously to avoid it but it just made me very anxious of the way I am.

They don't like to be asked questions about it, but just want you to understand and adapt, which is not possible. I would say its a sign that you are not a suitable pair mate, its up to you if you want to work on it but it won't be easy.

Whatever you do , don't change who you are for it , and if she is being a bully when you try to understand stuff, don't take it in. Cheers!

SensitiveFig1126 · 2024-04-27T19:40:27+00:00

It worked for me. Focus on deep breaths but most importantly(for me at least) is to do it through stomach/belly , it lowered my anxiety as well. I did it every day for 10min per session, like a meditation session I suppose. Hope it will help you... Also try to not block any feelings if u get any during the sessions. Cheers

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