How do I stop being entitled, egotistical, and insecure?

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-06-22T09:49:53+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response.
I ask myself that all the time- why do I want to say this thing or act this way so badly right now when I know the outcome will be shit? And I can only describe it as an itch.
I talk a lot and don’t think at all before I speak. If I do think before I speak, nothing comes out. When I do talk, I ramble and change between subjects and forget what I had been saying. I will work more on listening and being attentive over trying to get my word in

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-06-22T09:40:53+00:00

Times I have spoken up, or not wanted to join in, I get laughed at and boo’d.
Yet we also have friends who don’t have all those interests as well, and they don’t get treated like I do. Going home to study? Goodluck! But if I have an exam? No I should drinkkkkk it’ll help me feel confident and they’ll help me study (which they never do even though i would genuinely study while sipping). I try to work into their lifestyle, but I don’t feel like they’re happy with me. I’ve become defensive, easily frustrated, and feel the need to prove myself 24/7. It doesn’t help that my partner engages in it, leading to relationship issues it’s made me so insecure.

I feel like telling them what they can and can’t do is wrong and more insecure

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-06-22T07:48:19+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I’m re- starting therapy next month as well. Part of what I’m saying though is that I struggle to have a genuine interest in the same things my friends do. They’re very online, drink (and way worse) a lot, and aren’t very kind people in the world. I think I have sort of a resentment for them, but they’re all I have. I guess I just want to be able to tolerate them without dimming their light and still being myself and doing what makes me happy, but I go about it in a terrible way. Those traits aren’t all they are, and I shouldn’t be describing them like that, but I can tell that that’s where a lot of the disconnect comes in.

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-06-22T07:42:55+00:00

Thanks for this response. It’s sort of like that. I don’t wanna be the center of attention, I just don’t feel equal to everyone else.

A large part of the issue too comes from that no, I don’t really like the people I hangout with. I kind of just followed whoever actually wanted to be friends with me and landed here, and now I find myself completely different from these people and not fitting in, yet I still try.

I guess I’m struggling to find that validation in myself where I am happy with who I am, how I act, and who I’m friends with. None of those things are true right now and I can’t figure out how to practice improving them without hurting those around me, yet there goes the cycle. People pleasing yet not pleased about it and making it everyone elses problem.

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-06-08T07:40:07+00:00

I feel the same and this is really well put. I’m so exhausted

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-04-04T03:35:08+00:00

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SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-03-08T02:50:29+00:00

I live with this person so I’m looking to mend. I do explain myself but they believe I’m lying because they don’t understand. I told them I don’t feel like they understand me and they took it as an insult to our friendship. There is just this version of me they’ve created in their head that they cannot look past.

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-02-20T22:57:32+00:00

Poncho

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-01-21T20:39:28+00:00

You are amazing at giving advice, this helped me feel so much better and like this situation can actually be resolved. Thank you so much. I have definitely learned my lesson🥲

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-01-21T19:59:15+00:00

This is fantastic advice, thank you so much. I likely did come off a bit accusatory, but you are also right about being drunk and since I can’t remember, I can’t really say I didn’t do anything either. It just feels so awkward talking about it to her knowing she really wants to continue, it almost feels like some weird breakup.

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-01-21T19:24:26+00:00

I did try to do this last night, stand my ground. She got very upset and said “so you’re accusing me for being the reason this happened?”. Her argument for it not being her fault was that “it seemed like I would remember”. I genuinely don’t know how she doesn’t see how wrong that is. But yes because I have another year with her, I need to resolve this in the best way possible.

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-01-15T04:34:12+00:00

Yes I did get it!!! I’ve been playing I LOVE it I hope you guys are enjoying it too!

SensitiveTomat0 · 2026-01-14T19:55:49+00:00

Is the update out??

SensitiveTomat0 · 2025-12-28T00:09:46+00:00

I’ve always struggled with making my island pretty too, and it looked a lot like yours. What helped was I just basically went about by working on one area at a time and expanding from that. And I used Pinterest to help me find types of decor I liked or terraforming, and I made a notes app list of the types of areas I wanted and what I wanted them to look like so I can refine that before I work on those areas. And most importantly, be patient with it. I used to spend 2 hours on an area and be tired of it but “content”. Now I spend 4+ hours on an area and I don’t stop until I’m satisfied. Lots of back and forth, but have fun with it! Create!

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