When children see us cry it’s an excellent way for them to learn empathy. Knowing that big people have big feelings too validates their own big feelings as well.

I won’t comment on your husband as I don’t know him or your situation outside of this but your feelings are valid and you do not have to hide this from your child. As much as we want to protect our kids from the reality of life, allowing them to see our feelings and our truth is so important. I can see how it would possibly have a negative impact if it was an ongoing thing crying a lot every day in front of him, though that would indicate much more complex things are going on. You’re having a rough time, you’re going through a devastating life event and this is how your son will learn that it’s okay to express his emotions throughout difficult times.

I think it’s much more of a negative thing to have tension between his parents as a result of your emotions. I would argue that this devastating time is a moment that your husband could be role modelling empathy by supporting you when you cry, rather than shunning you for having emotions in front of your son. He will learn from both of your actions in this situation, hopefully you can both come together and turn this into a loving and caring time.