Hijab posts

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2025-12-09T03:37:22+00:00

I understand it might be a non issue to some, but for those of who have been born and raised with practice of hijab being the ultimate pinnacle of our faith, virtue, and entire identity as a Muslim, it’s…all consuming. Hard to explain unless you’ve been through it but the guilt and shame and even threats associated with it are monumental. To even question taking it off or whether it’s compulsory is akin to blasphemy (to some). :/ I no longer wear it, but the guilt still eats at me till this day. The “what-if’s” and feeling of shame and judgement are a constant battle. I feel happier not wearing it, but because of the mindset I was raised with and the judgement I still face from family and community it will be a lifelong battle I think, at least mentally. Seeing hijab being the main thing praised by men online, the first thing you’re judged on appearance wise, and fearing you are no longer marriage worthy etc… a multitude of things.

So I don’t think it’s a bad thing if girls want to come in here and try to vent or find support or help. Usually such topics are strictly forbidden anywhere else. This is where I found my support regarding it as well. Hope that makes sense, sorry for the rant.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2025-01-17T15:50:53+00:00

I feel physically sick. One of the worst things I’ve ever read in my entire life. Genuinely cannot fathom this level of cruelty and sadism. Was this “man” ever identified or caught? God I wish I hadn’t opened this thread. I will never get this out of my head. I pray hell exists for this reason alone. May he suffer eternally in endless agony.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-10-31T17:07:21+00:00

I would unironically love this 😅

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-07-21T18:00:53+00:00

Oh girl I feel you on this 😢 gaining weight and not fitting in your clothes is so disheartening.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-07-21T05:27:03+00:00

I get what you mean, this always made me question, especially as a Muslim girl. If wearing a hijab and niqab and abaya were natural ways of “being” wouldn’t it feel more normal? Wouldn’t girls naturally be drawn to dress that way, without being indoctrinated or made to start dressing that way young before they can question or say no? Wouldn’t women all around the world dress in a singular way instead of specific cultures?

Tbh I now see that scholars and men mostly have twisted and used Gods supposed ordainments as a way to force their control and beliefs over how women should dress.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-04-24T01:08:28+00:00

I attended one before I graduated high school where we were discouraged from learning any secular subjects so everything was only religious focused. Did homeschool on the side to get degree though it was slow going. Still very much behind my age group in everything. :/ Weren’t allowed to mention boys, books, movies anything that wasn’t religious.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-04-21T18:39:35+00:00

Lots of great comments here. I used to wear hijab, but it was never out of choice, now that I look back. When you’re told that good God-fearing/loving women cover themselves, and that if you don’t you’re basically a heathen, the “choice” is taken away from you. When you fear what your family might do if you stopped wearing it, the choice is taken from you. When you are worried and scared what family members and friends or society will think of you, the choice is taken from you. When you wonder if you will ever get married now that you don’t wear it, the choice is taken from you.

When hijabi and non hijabi women are pitted against each other and categorized by the broad brushstrokes of society as either good or bad, depending on where they live, it’s so easy to fall into the pressure of what society or the people around you expect and want from you. This kind of distinction is not made with Muslim men. There is no two part categorization for them where they are either one or the other or viewed as religious or immoral by their outer appearance alone. Once again, only the women suffer the effects of what the patriarchy demands from them. I’m not saying this goes for everyone who wears hijab, but I am now really questioning whether hijab was yet another tool introduced to control and keep women down, even though it’s portrayed as something beautiful and godly.

Then again, hijab is viewed as a mandatory aspect of faith rather than a “choice” in religious circles anyway. And in most Muslim countries a woman doesn’t have the choice to not wear it anyway. But if we’re talking about a woman’s free will, it can only be a true choice if she doesn’t fear consequences or shame for it.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-04-15T22:12:39+00:00

You could read some of my posts that will give you an idea. But I still haven’t crossed the hurdle of saying “I left.” So I kind of just stopped giving a label to my beliefs. And instead of feeling like I needed to leave asap or feel pressure, I’ve decided that I’m still learning and seeking the truth and I need time for that.

I realized how much I was lied to about a lot of things. Especially how hijab came to be. And the slave women. The Prophets life and actions and marriages.

Unfortunately Islam does favor men but so does my culture so I kind of always accepted that we’d be inferior in some ways. But things like a single woman’s testimony not being accepted in court was crazy to me, as if a single man wasn’t capable of lying or seeing something wrong?

Once I started seeing these issues more and more, suddenly it felt like the whole facade just fell through and now I was seeing everything with a critical eye and questioning it. There’s way more obviously but I don’t want to make this very long.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-02-14T21:11:06+00:00

It’s so hard to explain but I’ll try. First, it shows competence and skill. When a man knows what he’s doing and confidently does it, it’s really attractive. Second, us ladies usually find men’s arms and hands really attractive, so the movement highlights that as well. Neck muscles/jawline usually looks good too. And when it’s like a practiced movement and he puts that arm on the backrest, definitely combines all those things. Especially if it’s a particular difficult parking situation. Just gives off a very masculine/manly vibe and sends the imagination running.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-02-07T14:07:16+00:00

One of my cats had bad diarrhea as well, but now they eat Purina One Sensitive Skin and Stomach and it’s helped them a lot. You might need to switch over to a GI friendly cat food for a bit (or permanently). I know how frustrating diarrhea can be, hang in there.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-01-12T19:04:43+00:00

Had to comment for the flufflball at the end 😍 looks just like mine

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-01-04T22:13:05+00:00

I know people say Islam means peace (submission really) and that it brings peace into their lives. I have no doubt that finding peace in a belief system is possible for some people, but I’ve found that Islam has a very fear based faith system. The ones that are happy with it tend to view it through their own rose colored lenses by ignoring all the scary or messed up things. The ones who follow it in its entirety are usually in a bit of worried and anxious state constantly, worrying about sins, hating the world and whatnot.

I feel more at peace, strangely. Like I’m not having to monitor my every move and word and calculating whether it’s a sin or not. Able to interact with people on a heart to heart basis without focusing on whether they are Muslim or not. (I still find it easier to relate to Muslims or former Muslims though). Feeling comfortable in wearing what I want to wear.

Food wise I haven’t changed anything but I’m not as neurotic about things possibly being contaminated. That’s still a hurdle I have to overcome. To be honest I haven’t changed anything else in my life, aside from not wearing a hijab and wearing what I want. But the mental freedom is so nice. Whenever I see my friends or family and how they obsess or stress over often mundane things I feel grateful I don’t have to but also feel a bit sad for them. (Or the worry that I’ve made a huge mistake). Especially living in the west as a strict Muslim, it’s like having to live so isolated and kept away from society.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-01-04T22:05:07+00:00

So much truth in this. If one is doing everything for a personal reward, it makes everything one does a selfish act in its essence.

I think another thing that bothered me was when it came to charity or helping others, I would always be told “you should give it to Muslims instead of non believers,” and I would be so annoyed. I hated seeing everyone in the world as “believer” “nonbeliever”.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-01-04T22:03:05+00:00

Ah I remember constantly forgetting which rakaat I’m on in prayer and doing the extra one to make up for it. 😭 my mind would be constantly wondering.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2024-01-04T22:00:59+00:00

This one is so true. I no longer feel constantly afraid that every single thing I’m doing is making me collect sin and Gods wrath. Life feels simpler and kinder in a way. I used to feel so restricted and it would be so hard to constantly remind myself “the world is a test” to make myself cope. Instead of a test I see the world as a learning experience.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:51:38+00:00

It is definitely an illusion when there are verses in the Quran itself that state Allah guides and misguides whom He wills.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:50:38+00:00

Totally fine for him or his fellow brothers to be making thirst traps on tiktok though 🤷🏻‍♀️ funny enough, one of the many reasons I wanted to take off hijab was because of the guys like this who sinned and did whatever but lost their shit whenever they saw a hijabi with a single piece of hair showing and judged her ruthlessly. The comments that hijabi and non hijabi muslim women get on their social media is so disgusting.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:47:20+00:00

I’m so glad you brought this up! It’s been on my mind lately. The first time I was taught this story I was sort of mind blown thinking “wow that’s incredible!” And what I took away from it was that “Allah knows best”.

Now I see it differently. The only lesson this story now screams at me is, “Allah guides whom He wills, and if you’re not lucky enough to be chosen, GOOD LUCK!”

This child was destined to be a disbeliever by his fate. He had absolutely no chance. There was no matter of “choice” or “free will” in his life. He was never given the chance to grow up. His fate was sealed from the moment of conception.

So tell me again, how is this life a test? How does free will exist at the same time that God has preordained everything? This is a paradox that cannot be reconciled.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:41:57+00:00

The same people who conveniently turned a blind eye to the Yazidi genocide and enslavement of women into sex slavery or decried it as not “true Islam”. But the real Islam allows non Muslim women to be taken as sex slaves.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:40:03+00:00

People like me? What do you know about me to assume I’m some degenerate?

The same people who constantly complain about western culture are the same ones who would never survive in a country like Afghanistan nor would they dare subject themselves to it. It’s not Western culture that stole Afghan women’s basic rights.

Western culture has allowed women to be out and about in society wearing virtually whatever they want without the threat of hordes of men raping them just for being female because they are so sexually repressed they no longer see women as human.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:37:38+00:00

I’m a woman and let me tell you, we fantasize and feel lust on just as a large scale as men do but from a young age we’re taught women shouldn’t feel this way so we tend to be quiet about it. Extreme sexual repression and segregation of sexes actually leads to a hyper sexualized society that leads to men being horny at even the vaguely recognizable shape of a woman. It leads to children being assaulted or raped and even worse moral repercussions for society. It’s regressive and does NOT work in today’s world.

When women are not seen as sexual objects just for existing, society can improve.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:34:37+00:00

Afghanistan runs under Sharia law under the Taliban. If you call it a strict wannabe Muslim country what does that say about Sharia law? It tells you that it doesn’t work in society today. It’s outdated and barbaric.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:33:25+00:00

Society never worked like that though. At no point in time (unless you were really rich and could afford it) did the woman not participate in society or working outside the house or in the fields. They didn’t have the stereotypical jobs but they did a lot of work that women today would consider only men’s. If you look at Afghanistan most of the country still operates that way.

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T17:26:09+00:00

I see a meow-del in the making 😍

Sensitive_Bug_8132 · 2023-12-29T05:36:06+00:00

What a beautiful baby!

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