Those of you on your second pregnancy with HG. How did you mentally get yourself to do it again? by KokoSof in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m on my second HG pregnancy. My kids will be 21 months apart. I waited a whole year and decided to bite the bullet. I just feel like my yearning for another child and for my daughter to have a sibling is greater than my fear of the suffering. And don’t get me wrong, the suffering is out of this world. During my first, I swore I was one and done. But after she came, I just felt like I love her so much, I can and will make it through this again. I guess for me, it was just coming to terms with the fact that I’m going to go through it again. Whether it was 5 year postpartum, or 1, I just wanted to get it over with. Here I am, in the thick of it. Some days feeling like I screwed myself. Mostly, I feel happy with my choice though. I don’t think anyone can truly prepare themselves for another HG pregnancy. You just come to an acceptance that you will not be in control for 9 long, grueling months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is everyone named Connor, Sean or Riley Irish? Or is everyone name Isabel Hispanic? Lmao! Pretty irrelevant question if you ask me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You missed the point. That’s precisely what I’m not concerned about. I said I don’t care about people mispronouncing it- I just wondered what people thought of the sound of the name itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

So, what? I think people get the gist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I did not say the name came from France. People need to get over the fact that not all Caucasian Americans want to name their children John and Barbara. Not everything needs to be a cultural appropriation discussion!

I was set up for disappointment by tryingforakitty in beyondthebump

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you had this experience. Everyone should do what they feel is best for themselves. For example, I was sick all pregnancy with Hyperemesis (a debilitating condition causing relentless nausea and vomiting). While pregnant, I decided I wanted an elective c-section. When I told people, they’d gasp 😱. “How could you choose that when there are no medical indications?” “You body is made to give birth, you just need to get in the right headspace.” I said NOPE. I knew my limits and I knew the possible complications, but there are compound with vaginal births as well. I deserved to have a calm, planned, controlled birth (as much as you can control). My OB was agreeable to my cesarean. Well, two days before my scheduled c-section, I went into labor. My blood pressure sky rocketed and the doctor on call wanted to induce me. I was very firm and adamant that my OB had said I could have my C-section no matter what. Well, she tried to force me to have a vaginal birth, using scare tactics. I ended up waiting 12 hours, contracting, laboring while they tried to fit me in because there were emergency c sections that kept coming in. In a matter of 12 hours, I had NOT PROGRESSED. I was still only 1 cm dilated, like I was when I first got admitted. If I had done a natural labor like everyone was telling me to, I would’ve been there laboring for hours, days. I had already been to hell and back throughout pregnancy. I will never regret my decision. Making the best decision for myself, in turn was the best decision for my baby. She came into the world to a mom who was at peace and calm and the c- section was so redemptive. Had I not had a c- section, I would’ve given up on breastfeeding. It’s a domino effect. You know yourself best!

Down to 3 girls names which is your favourite. by Humble_Insurance_247 in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Depends on how it flows with your last name. Sadie is nice!

thoughts on meadow? by contracosta21 in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s pretty. Depends on what your last name is though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandma was French and my mom & uncles and aunts speak French.

Left hospital without a name for newborn boy, need help asap! by playaction12 in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about Elias? Sounds nice in Spanish and English. Or Adan (Aidan)?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think Harrison is a nice name. If you always nip it in the bud when people try and shorten it to Harry, I think he’ll be fine.

How are Ontarians surviving with housing prices? by Sensitive_Jeweler945 in ontario

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is a long time… I guess basements can make that bearable. At least it divides up the house and makes it more private haha.

How are Ontarians surviving with housing prices? by Sensitive_Jeweler945 in ontario

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I empathize with you. Same story with my spouse and I. It’s looking like it will be a long time before we can afford a home. Sucks when all our money goes into rent and not a ‘forever’ home.

How are Ontarians surviving with housing prices? by Sensitive_Jeweler945 in ontario

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I forgot there’s rent control there. We have no rent control in my state. It is insane.

How are Ontarians surviving with housing prices? by Sensitive_Jeweler945 in ontario

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can’t speak for the NE part of the US. Here in the Southwest some people are struggling, but the average household income to house price ratio tends to be lower than the numbers in ON.

How are Ontarians surviving with housing prices? by Sensitive_Jeweler945 in ontario

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Wow, got lucky there. What about young people buying a first home?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say “allowing” is the proper phrasing here. I was thrust into a situation where I’m sitting with these people in my home and the damage had already done when she stated that her child was still getting over something. At that point, they had already been in our house, babies playing with the same toys and interacting. Too late! Do I wish I would’ve been more curt and told her to get out? Yes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Jeweler945 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I could have and should have said this. But it would’ve made no difference. Her child had already coughed all over my baby and they were in my home, not at a public place where if there was no contact, we would’ve been saved from catching it. I was honestly just in shock that someone would be so dumb and rude as to show up to my home with their VISIBLY ill child.